TheRock Posted January 10, 2005 Posted January 10, 2005 I went on a date with Jen Dec. 22, 2 1/2 weeks ago and it went well. We said we want to see each other again, but haven't had a chance yet. We'd been talking almost every day since the date, up until New Years. We invited Jen to my friend's party and she invited me to hers. I had committed to my friend weeks before and told Jen this. So, we went to our own parties. After a few drinks, I decided I wasn't going to drive, so we never met up, but called & texted each other at Midnight. She called me the next day, Sunday and then on Monday. Then things went cold...Monday night I asked her out for during the week. She said she has a busy week and didn't know what night she'd be free. Prior to last Mon, she'd end her calls with "I'll talk to you tomorrow?" expecting me to call. We texted eachother once on Wed night and she said she was out w\her friends. I didn't talk to her on the phone since Mon to avoid seeming clingy I finally called her on Saturday. She returned my call. We talked, but I didn't ask her out again yet, so she wouldn't think that's the only reason I called. The attitude was cool. I don't know if she's mad about New Years, losing interest from too much phone contact or what....Does she expect me to keep chasing her\asking her out?? I don't want to seem insecure and ask her what's up or should I?? QUESTION: When should I call her again? Should I ask her to meet up for drinks one night to keep it informal or try to get a "real" date to a play or basketball game?
agnf666 Posted January 14, 2005 Posted January 14, 2005 Ask her to go out agian... On a real date. A drinking date may not be good if you want to develop a relationship. What if one of you gets drunk then does something then that may screw things up. I would call her ask her lets do something, I had a really nice time when we went out the last time, sorry about the new years thing and go on from there. Call her as soon as possible. Don't leave it hanging to long or you will lose your chance.
razor Posted January 14, 2005 Posted January 14, 2005 I agree with the above person. Dont' play games! If you like her be casual and upfront. Eg. "Hey listen I think you are cool and would I would like to get together with you again. I realize that things did not go smoothly around Christmas time and that can be frustrating. However my psychic abilities tell me that this year is going to be good. So if you are interested I like to go for coffee." If she say's "NO". Than be a "rock". "Hey if you have a change of heart give me a call, take care". good luck
agnf666 Posted January 14, 2005 Posted January 14, 2005 You will never know until you try. Sometimes, if you try you just may succeed. Razor has the right Idea on what to say to her if she doesn't want to.
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