Baal Posted January 10, 2005 Posted January 10, 2005 Hello Everyone! I ran a search on the forum, before I posted this topic. I couldn't find anything related to this subject. I have been with my boyfriend for 14 months. To me, it is okay for a someone to have pictures from people of their past. In addition, it is okay for a guy to watch porn. My question is: Is it okay for a guy to have naked pictures of his exes? I am comfortable with the porn and the pictures with people with their clothes on. However, I am NOT comfortable with naked pictures of his exes. Am I just being jealous? Or are my feelings valid?
allina Posted January 10, 2005 Posted January 10, 2005 Well does he have them put away somewhere because he never got around to getting rid of them OR does he keep them in his night stand drawr and look at them constently? Big difference. I've been with my bf for close to the same amount as you have been with yours and have the same views about porn and such, but I don't think it's ok if he's masturbating to naked pics of his ex. So yeah, it depends.
tiki Posted January 10, 2005 Posted January 10, 2005 Wha???? What makes you think he's not masturbating to them?! No way, man.
xxsilverdragonxx Posted January 10, 2005 Posted January 10, 2005 I have nakie pics of my ex. The only reason I'd want to look at them again would be to blackmail or something else malicious. IF he has looked at them ONCE since they broke up, thats a red flag in major sense.
Adunaphel Posted January 10, 2005 Posted January 10, 2005 My question is: Is it okay for a guy to have naked pictures of his exes? Wheter it is okay for a guy(or a girl) to have naked pictures of his/her ex is questionable (I think a gentleman should burn/destroy/return them to the ex, as a sign of respect to *her*, but this is just my opinion). If you are in a relationship and you have naked pics of your ex you should not be looking at them. That would mean either getting rid of them or keeping them in a sellotaped shoebox or a similar place, out of reach, and never ever looking at them while you are with your current partner.
alphamale Posted January 10, 2005 Posted January 10, 2005 could you post these pix somewhere so that I can examine them and then make a determination. i need to see the evidence before making a ruling in this matter. thanx
Bubbles Posted January 10, 2005 Posted January 10, 2005 alphamale! You are sooooo bad! ROTFL! bubbles
Matilda Posted January 10, 2005 Posted January 10, 2005 My boyfriend in college had naked pictures of his ex-girlfriend which he showed to me. Right then and there I decided nobody would ever take naked pictures of me. I definitely didn't want the next girlfriend to see any naked pictures of me!! Anyway, to answer your question, I think it's disrespectful to you and his exes to have the naked pictures.
Bubbles Posted January 10, 2005 Posted January 10, 2005 No matter what he thinks/thought of her? He should have given the pictures back to her. That would have been the right thing to do. bubbles
allina Posted January 11, 2005 Posted January 11, 2005 Originally posted by tiki Wha???? What makes you think he's not masturbating to them?! No way, man. Well I think I have naked pics of an ex somewhere within piles of old pictures. I have them because they were put away a long long time ago, and I don't look at them or masturbate to them and I'm in a wonderful ltr. All I was saying was that it was unclean to me how the picture thing came up. Lets say they were moving/doing major cleaning and he found pics of his ex from years ago that he forgot about, is it a big deal? I think not.
VirginiaBob Posted January 11, 2005 Posted January 11, 2005 I don't why anyone would let them photograph them naked if lots of money were involved. Heck, if I'm in a relationship and we want to see each other naked, we simply take our clothes off. No need to look at pictures. Way too much trust involved too. It's inevitable that those pictures get seen by someone someday. What if you misplace them and your great-grandkids find them long after you are gone. And what if they don't realize it's you and you wife and they start masturbating to them. Kind of wierd.
Spira Posted January 11, 2005 Posted January 11, 2005 Ugh, when my BF was cleaning out his closet, he found a stack of naked pics of his ex. He hid them after discovering them, and then *I* discovered them the next day... Guess what I did? Pitched a f*cking fit. I don't mind that he had them around in a box somewhere & forgot about them because there was lots of stuff that he just threw in boxes & didn't go through after moving out with her. However, I was furious that he tried to stash them instead of immediately trashing them. Unacceptable!
xxsilverdragonxx Posted January 11, 2005 Posted January 11, 2005 Originally posted by Spira Ugh, when my BF was cleaning out his closet, he found a stack of naked pics of his ex. He hid them after discovering them, and then *I* discovered them the next day... Guess what I did? Pitched a f*cking fit. I don't mind that he had them around in a box somewhere & forgot about them because there was lots of stuff that he just threw in boxes & didn't go through after moving out with her. However, I was furious that he tried to stash them instead of immediately trashing them. Unacceptable! [color=red]You expected him to immediately trash them? Maybe finding them really freaked him out. Maybe the thought of "oh these are garbage" wasn't the exact first thing he thought of when he saw old naked pictures of his ex. This guy is a Human Male right? [/color]
Cecelius Posted January 11, 2005 Posted January 11, 2005 "Has" is relative. Everyone has a memento or something in a box somewhere relating to an ex, and one doesn't get grief about it to the extent that its forgotten in the box. When the box is discovered or cleaned out or whatever, that's when he "has" the pictures. Frankly, that's when the pictures need to go, expecially if they are naked.
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