JourneyLady Posted January 10, 2014 Posted January 10, 2014 I just went through this thing in OLD where me and a guy are having a real good back and forth conversation. All of sudden, he just drops out. I looked back and this is the second time this has happened with him - the first time it was just two messages and I didn't remember as it was a busy time. Think I will give him a third chance to get me excited? Not on your life, unless he decides we should meet. Honestly, this has happened several times and it's idiotic. Why waste the time writing messages and asking questions, if you're not going to follow through? That smacks to me of game playing. Luckily I'm not too steamed because there is at least one guy with my phone number who is talking about taking me out and I'm meeting a lot of people online in 2L, so who knows?! (But I'll be very cautious about giving THAT guy a chance again.) While we're on the subject of games... Some guy asked (after a couple messages) if he could "send me a pic". I very cautiously gave him my google voice number without telling him what it was. Never got message OR pic - but I'm very glad I didn't give him my real number. :-) (I don't give that out to people I haven't met in person, and then only if I think we have a possibility of dating.)
SushiX Posted January 10, 2014 Posted January 10, 2014 "Treat them like dirt and they'll stick to you like mud." Keep this in mind playa. It works!
pickflicker Posted January 10, 2014 Posted January 10, 2014 And you know what? I ****ing hate multi dating. I don't do it. I'm one of those that WILL stick to his morals, I could use my friend Ali for sex so hard right now but I don't because its wrong and would be unfair to her. But those that decide enough is enough, and decide to make SOMETHING ANYTHING happen, you can't say that you don't see where they are coming from. Maybe we all have to wake up one day and realize that the pretty flowery moral arguments are just antiquated ideals of love that simply don't fit the current modus operandi of the dating meta game. Maybe, what we want to believe, SO BADLY, that if you stay true to yourself and virtues etc it will be rewarded, is just wrong. I know it's threatening to think but **** if something isn't working then don't just hope it fixes itself. It can be egotistically threatening to think this way but maybe we are just all self deluded and society has passed us and our silly ideals right on by. Multi-dating is not using someone for sex. You don't look for one job at a time, you apply for a few, so why would you date one person at a time in the early stages (<3 months)? You go out on a few dinner/drink/movie dates with a few different people, if things go particularly well with one, they're the one you pick. If it goes well with none of them, you cast your net out for some more. I don't see the big deal. We're all grown ups. 2
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