bolase Posted January 9, 2014 Posted January 9, 2014 (edited) Hi loveshack, So I met this guy as a Tinder match. Our first few messages were full of sparks. We established that we were 300 miles apart, but he suggested that we become snapchat friends. Slowly over the last 5 weeks, we have become daily snapchat friends and for the last couple of days, viber friends.. now this guy and I are very different in terms of what we do, but we are practically the same age (27/28), have the same sense of humour, find each other very attractive, he is quite a charmer and suggested we even sent each other christmas presents which we did..he even sent a bonus awesome present that was very personal to me..we keep the convo non-sexual though apart from flirting about making out - basically, I feel we're on the same level and have quite the crush. I've never hooked up with someone on the first date but I swear that if he was in the same place as me, and we were what each other was expecting...there would be passion. He is in the army and is on leave in his home town, but will come through my city in March for 5 days. We joke about meeting up. He makes lots of references to the future, like he'll teach me to do x y and z. I just wonder how to stop myself getting in too deep? The last convo we had, I noted some things about him that I liked, and he said he finds me a very interesting person "but I woulnd't like sit down with you and ask you about everything, I'd rather just hang out and give neck massages and feed the geese (inside joke) eh" I'm unsure what this means? When it began, I thought it could just be a hookup if we were in the same place. But now I'm getting ahead of myself. Especially as its become more romantic in him saying when he goes to service in a few weeks he will send me a message every chnace he gets, that he wants us to have a hemingway farewell to arms type thing I don't know...any experiences with app romances? Edited January 9, 2014 by bolase grammar
pickflicker Posted January 9, 2014 Posted January 9, 2014 Meet him for a drink. What have you got to lose? It's not about the medium you meet people through, just that you meet them.
Author bolase Posted January 9, 2014 Author Posted January 9, 2014 I will. It's going to be so hard to wait til March:love: I wish we could meet earlier, but I'm not sure that's going to happen. He comes up on his way TO service day after I leave my city for 2 weeks.
pickflicker Posted January 9, 2014 Posted January 9, 2014 I will. It's going to be so hard to wait til March:love: I wish we could meet earlier, but I'm not sure that's going to happen. He comes up on his way TO service day after I leave my city for 2 weeks. See if you can tee it up earlier, otherwise, maybe try a Skype date?
Emilia Posted January 9, 2014 Posted January 9, 2014 I'm unsure what this means? When it began, I thought it could just be a hookup if we were in the same place. But now I'm getting ahead of myself. Especially as its become more romantic in him saying when he goes to service in a few weeks he will send me a message every chnace he gets, that he wants us to have a hemingway farewell to arms type thing I don't know...any experiences with app romances? I'd imagine it's like any other fantasy romance: it's a complete stranger you have never met and it's a picture you are building up in your head. The thing is, he is in the army. He is based a long distance away from you. This is has a very slim chance of being anything of substance ever. It is very hard to keep an army relationship going, they can move at a fast pace but also disolve incredibly easily. The odds on this becoming anything of value are very slim. 1
devilish innocent Posted January 9, 2014 Posted January 9, 2014 We didn't have apps back in my day, but I did my share of talking to guys on-line before we met in person. The reality of meeting the person often doesn't meet the expectation. Before you get too far ahead of yourself, you should really meet with him. I'd also advise against hooking up during the first meeting regardless of how you feel at the time. People often go home after these types of meetings and then decide they don't want a long distance relationship. You don't want to sleep with him thinking you're about to start an incredible relationship, then have him disappoint you and end things right after returning home. Keep the intimacy light the first time you meet. See how you both feel about each other after the visit. Then if you still want to continue things, you can take things more seriously the next time you meet.
Author bolase Posted March 1, 2014 Author Posted March 1, 2014 Thanks for this kind advice. We Skyped for four nights up until he left for hours each time. He said 'what if we fall crazy in love? I'd have to fly to (my city) on my weekend) and that he's confident he'll like me even more in person. I feel the same way except that when we didn't know each other as well we agreed wed just hang out and have fun, more casual talk. It seems to have become quite serious quite fast. We now write letters; if nothing else I am getting much better at letter writing. He gets here in a month..
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