Conners Posted January 9, 2014 Posted January 9, 2014 I posted a while ago how I broke up with my boyfriend. Mainly due to conflicting issues and him putting things like drugs and his friends before me most of the time. I don't need people to judge him based on the drugs, it was only weed and some party drugs.. but still for that to be more important than me, did upset me a lot. This has been really hard for me because I am still 100% in love with him. Miss him everyday and remember all the good things about our relationship. We had the falling out on NYE and I didn't see him until yesterday when he begged me to come over after work and talk things over. I told him I wasn't staying over and i'll talk to him. We did talk, about everything.. him mainly suggesting how we fix things because he doesn't want to lose me, he cried at one stage because I said I was fed up with a lot of things and I just want to be with someone who is going to put me first most of the time. We got off track and just started chatting about general stuff and I ended up falling asleep because I was exhausted from work. I woke up and he had gone to sleep too and was hugging me so I just decided to sleep there for the night. We both had to get up early for work and he just said to me before I left "we didn't really reach a resolution did we?" and I just said no i'm so confused.. and he said don't worry we will work this out. I DO want to work things out but i'm afraid i'm going to be sucked back in and make the same mistake again. It doesn't help that I don't picture myself getting over him for a very long time as this guy is my first true love.. even after having a few boyfriends previously. I would just like for the pain to be over.
notthathard Posted January 9, 2014 Posted January 9, 2014 Hmm. People don't change overnight but people do change! If he really loves you too then he will change. I haven't read your other threads but from what your saying it sounds like you want to give it another chance. The problems is that if your asking him to tone down or stop the drugs he might just start hiding this from you so watch out for that. I would suggest that you see the change in him before getting back together, but it's your choice. This would help the possibility of 'sucked back in and make the same mistake again'.
pickflicker Posted January 9, 2014 Posted January 9, 2014 This guy chose weed, over you. You shouldn't be speaking to him, let alone entertaining the thought of reconciliation. Let him enjoy his choice. If he wants to cry about it, tell him to tell someone who cares. If you're afraid of being suckered, I can't help you there. The fact that he chose weed over a living relationship world be enough to make me walk away and never, ever look back. 2
notthathard Posted January 9, 2014 Posted January 9, 2014 I just read your other threads... Ignore my other post. This guy sux balls... time to move on and find someone better. 2
Author Conners Posted January 9, 2014 Author Posted January 9, 2014 This guy chose weed, over you. You shouldn't be speaking to him, let alone entertaining the thought of reconciliation. Let him enjoy his choice. If he wants to cry about it, tell him to tell someone who cares. If you're afraid of being suckered, I can't help you there. The fact that he chose weed over a living relationship world be enough to make me walk away and never, ever look back. You're right. I need to get some of my self respect back. 1
Author Conners Posted January 9, 2014 Author Posted January 9, 2014 He's still texting me everyday despite not seeing eachother and another message just now. Do I just not reply ever again or at least tell him i'm done?
pickflicker Posted January 9, 2014 Posted January 9, 2014 He's still texting me everyday despite not seeing eachother and another message just now. Do I just not reply ever again or at least tell him i'm done? If you've already broken it off with him, there's no need to say anything, just go NC. If he persists, tell him you're broken up and stop calling - then remain in NC. 1
notthathard Posted January 9, 2014 Posted January 9, 2014 You're right. I need to get some of my self respect back. Nice, yeah you'll get someone way better! You've put up with a bit of sh*t. 1
Author Conners Posted January 9, 2014 Author Posted January 9, 2014 Thanks guys. It's going to be extremely hard to just cut all ties with him. I'm fine when I'm at work and out with friends because I'm busy but when i'm alone, that is when i'm tempted. I think weekends are the hardest, especially if I don't have a lot on. I feel lonely!
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