RegretBreakup Posted January 9, 2014 Posted January 9, 2014 It's been 3 months since the break up.. still missing her so bad.. Think of her 90% of the day. Still regretting things I could have done to save the relationship. Thinking I could never find someone like her again. When it will be better?
notthathard Posted January 9, 2014 Posted January 9, 2014 When you accept the relationship is over. Do you still have hope that you will get back together? -This will hold you back 4
LostConfused123 Posted January 9, 2014 Posted January 9, 2014 It's been 3 months since the break up.. still missing her so bad.. Think of her 90% of the day. Still regretting things I could have done to save the relationship. Thinking I could never find someone like her again. When it will be better? Do you still communicate with her? 2
Mariposa10 Posted January 9, 2014 Posted January 9, 2014 This is typical. It's normal to feel like this. You will start getting better as soon as you start living your life and stop being hard on yourself. Let time do its thing. Re-connect with friends and family. Get new hobbies. Things do get better, just be patient! It's been 3 months since the break up.. still missing her so bad.. Think of her 90% of the day. Still regretting things I could have done to save the relationship. Thinking I could never find someone like her again. When it will be better? 3
Author RegretBreakup Posted January 9, 2014 Author Posted January 9, 2014 Yes I already did accept that is over.. Not hoping still miss her badly.. When you accept the relationship is over. Do you still have hope that you will get back together? -This will hold you back
Author RegretBreakup Posted January 9, 2014 Author Posted January 9, 2014 No I don't talk to her anymore. Do you still communicate with her?
Author RegretBreakup Posted January 9, 2014 Author Posted January 9, 2014 Thanks so much.. but it's already been 3 months. Why I still miss her and think about her? It's terrible that 90% of the day I still think about her the moment I wake up till I sleep. sucks :/ This is typical. It's normal to feel like this. You will start getting better as soon as you start living your life and stop being hard on yourself. Let time do its thing. Re-connect with friends and family. Get new hobbies. Things do get better, just be patient! 1
Fufu Posted January 9, 2014 Posted January 9, 2014 When you no longer put her on a pedestal (meaning you no longer feel that you will never find someone like her) Come on, there are many great girls out there.... When you are recovered from this break up and ready to open your heart, you will find the new one. 2
chris21422 Posted January 9, 2014 Posted January 9, 2014 Don't worry it does get better. It takes time
thefez Posted January 9, 2014 Posted January 9, 2014 There is no hard answer. I had occasional emotions and feelings for an ex from 14 years ago till recently (my latest ex has vanquished those.. for better or worse). If you didnt have those emotions you wouldn't be a normal human being. I know the amount of time you can think about your ex and rehash it all is large and IMHO it does you some good. but not too much. I'm finding being on here and talking about and trying to help others quite cathartic - seeing and trying to reassure others is helping me emotionally and tbh its shown up a few glaring personal traits which i no longer wish to have.
John83 Posted January 9, 2014 Posted January 9, 2014 On a bad day i drive to the sea. Always liked the sea it calms me a bit. Just sitting in van watching waves. 2
ponchsox Posted January 9, 2014 Posted January 9, 2014 I think about the times she treated me badly in the relationship and my thoughts quickly subside. 3
JDPT Posted January 9, 2014 Posted January 9, 2014 At 3 months you are exactly where you are supposed to be with regards to all the emotions you are currently experiencing. Be gentle with yourself and deal with the heartache as it comes. The relationship is over for a reason(s) internalize those facts objectively. And yes, the the moments to despair will eventually subside but not without a lot of proactive work on your behalf. You have it in you to power through these moments. 3
WYSWYG Posted January 9, 2014 Posted January 9, 2014 It's been 3 months since the break up.. still missing her so bad.. Think of her 90% of the day. Still regretting things I could have done to save the relationship. Thinking I could never find someone like her again. When it will be better? I'm in the same boat - 3 months now. She left me for a mutual acquaintance. Worst when I wake up dreaming about her. Imaginations ruin a whole day. Especially if you're idle. But I decided not to let that happen anymore - we NEED to be PROACTIVE to counter the pain. I want an end to this soon! I will not be a victim of my own doing! So I try not to be alone. Leave the house as much as I can. I bought a new guitar and spends lots of time on youtube tutorials. I do way better when I'm busy - try that yourself. Do your best to get distracted! THINK about the RED FLAGS! The reasons why it wasn't guna work. Would u rather stay in that love/hate cycle and suffer anyways? Right now, I'm in the angry stage. Makes me hit the heavy bag harder - very relieving. I have regrets too but we can't change the past. Good luck on your healing process. Trust me, the suffering WILL END!
jphcbpa Posted January 9, 2014 Posted January 9, 2014 pray my a$$ off, hang out with fellows, hit the gym hard (wear down my body so I can sleep at night), do some writing/journal. Reread my journal/letter to her that reminds me of how she could not make us a priority in her life. It is normal to fantasize the good time and forget the bad. Keep reminding yourself of the reasons she is an ex.
jphcbpa Posted January 9, 2014 Posted January 9, 2014 It's been 3 months since the break up.. still missing her so bad.. Think of her 90% of the day. Still regretting things I could have done to save the relationship. Thinking I could never find someone like her again. When it will be better? Tell me more about this.... Also the "could never find someone like her again" is a lie. oneitis The dreaded "One-Itis," otherwise known as the ailment of liking that "One Special Girl" and wanting her more than any other woman on earth. A want so intense, that it's actually painful. 2
Author RegretBreakup Posted January 9, 2014 Author Posted January 9, 2014 I know maybe this is temporary thing. I hope Tell me more about this.... Also the "could never find someone like her again" is a lie. oneitis The dreaded "One-Itis," otherwise known as the ailment of liking that "One Special Girl" and wanting her more than any other woman on earth. A want so intense, that it's actually painful.
mantlefan Posted January 9, 2014 Posted January 9, 2014 I know there were things I could have done to make her feel I was better for her, things I could have "saved" the relationship. I liked hanging out with her family, but I never really went out of my way to do so unless she invited me over for things. Lots of times she would tell me that "my uncle was wondering where you were." I was like, OK, her uncle was wondering where I was. After the BU I find out that is code for "I am wondering where you were." She was never very clear to me that me spending time with her family was important to her, and I never really understood her hints. Turns out she probably dumped me to get with my friend and the family thing was part of the smokescreen. If it really was such a huge deal to her, I think she, even shy, people pleasing her, would have told me. I don't know. It still kind of pisses me off how it seems she expected me to just be good to her naturally by me guessing what she wanted, instead of her just telling me and me being glad to do most of it because I really loved her.
Chi townD Posted January 9, 2014 Posted January 9, 2014 Well, if you're thinking about her for 90% of your day. Then, that tells me one thing. You have WAY TOO MUCH FREE TIME! Here what I used to do when the bitch of an Ex entered my head. As a result of my break up, I became an avid traveler. When she snuck into my head, I would immediate research my next trip. "Okay! Deep sea fishing in the Florida Keys! Rent a house or stay at a resort? How much money do I need. OKAY! Renting a beach house it is! Damn! That place is sweet! Book it for one week! Now, boat charters, how much for two days? Five places to choose from? Huh, confer with my friends that are going with me. Okay, this charter service looks good! Book it!" See, I pushed her out and filled it with something that I was looking forward to and something that excited me. The point of this post is for you to KEEP BUSY!!!! That includes your brain!
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