1 year since my break up, just wanted to update you all / share words of wisdom

[calgary]

Hi everyone.

 

Haven't used this site in a long long time now.

 

I got a lot of great advice and help from people on here. Keep your heads up. I know it's basic but I think that's the best advice anybody can give you.

 

I did the whole, grow a beard, rot in my bed in my boxers looking at the ceiling asking it 1000 questions. Annoying my friends / family with the same repetitive stuff. Even the people on here were getting sick of me.

 

I had it rough. I broke up with my ex because she wouldn't stop flirting with other guys infront of me and I had enough.. 2 months after the break up she started dating a close friend of mine.. she actually came over and started flirting with him in front of me in a club...

 

The best thing I ever did was get mad instead of upset. instead of feeling sorry for myself, taking all that free time and making something of myself. use that anger to drive yourself in a direction that makes you feel better about yourself.. don't worry about this person anymore. they're making you feel worthless.

 

Don't rush out looking for new love instantly.. try and be alone and not lonely !

 

block them from facebook, whatever it takes. the sooner you consider them history the better.

 

I blocked them both. got my certificates. got a new job. a ridiculously good job, I am looking at getting a brand new german car this month. I get to stay in nice hotels across the country. im travelling across the ocean twice this year. It's all great. I worked on my body too and I've worked on my social life. i'd say I've never had this many friends before... and women seem more interested when you're not a desperate depressed mess and you've got your own drama under control and to yourself.

 

 

my best friend text me at work yesterday to tell me he'd been on facebook and my ex had posted a status saying that my old friend had secretely had a girlfriend behind her back and he declared it to her yesterday.

everybody I know finds it funny, and they're all ridiculously happy that it happened. and if you read my old posts you'll see it really affected me. so it's good karma had it's way.

She's on her back side with absolutely nothing.

 

 

Most of my friends think she'll be in touch with me soon or coming to the places she knows I go with my friends and such. I sort of need advice with this and how to deal with it. I probably sound childish but it would make me feel so good to have that power back and show her how much better I've done for myself since the break up . I want to make her feel the way she made me feel. she deserves it.. but then im a better person and I think the best thing to do would be to just continue to ignore her.

 

I honestly think one of the best things to do to people who hate you and are nasty towards you is to be kind to them.. because to the people surrounding the situation it makes you look like a nice person and it annoys the person who hates you so much more.

 

 

 

I've gotten over things and completely improved my life. done things i'd have never done if I was still with her.

 

It felt like the end of the world. I couldn't think of anything but her and him together, I couldn't breathe well. I lost so much weight, I lost my job, I lost friends and family because I was unhealthily talking about it constantly. I was a serious mess so I know what you're all going through.

I could barely get out of bed.

 

Things do get better . I'm probably just saying the same as everybody else on here.

 

All I know is, out of site out of mind worked best for me. take all that negative energy and use it to get in shape, get qualified. get a new job. All those things make you feel great. At this time, the best thing you can do is work on getting yourself back. get your confidence back. find what makes you happy again.

 

Hang in there friends.

Thank you so much everybody that helped me in my most vulnerable times and for never giving up on me. I'll never forget how much this website helped me.

Edited January 9, 2014 by calgary

[wwwwww]

This is wonderful news.

 

Congratulations!

[Shashasha]

This is wonderful news.

 

Congratulations!

Indeed! You give all of us hope!

[chris21422]

Man I'm really happy for you. congrats!

[Fufu]

Glad you are doing great now