nyny123 Posted January 9, 2014 Posted January 9, 2014 The story is I met a guy in late sept and things were going good. We became bf and gf then last month he suddenly disappeared. I had him on my facebook and instagram and he recently started 2 new jobs. I tried calling him and either he wouldn't pick up or when he did he said he would call me back but never did. I just moved on and talked to other guys which I still am right now. What hurts me is that I found out through facebook that he has a girlfriend. I saw him kissing another woman which the girl had a pic of both of them and her friends or who ever they are commented on the picture of them kissing. I feel like crying right now but at the same time I don't. I'm so shocked and I see he just recently added this girl on his page
Leigh 87 Posted January 9, 2014 Posted January 9, 2014 This happens a lot. Some guys don't have the balls or common decency to break up or end things with a girl, so they disappear instead. I have had a guy disappear after a month; we did have a disagreement but he said he would call me to work it out. He never did. He acted like he was head over heels for me from the day we met, too. He either lost interest OR he was making the whole thing up the entire time, which I doubt (since I am not exactly special enough looking for a guy to be that desperate for sex from me, so as to make EVERYHTING up). Another guy disappeared after a week; he spent every day with me after we met at a bar, he wouldn't shut up about how amazing he thought I was and he seemed VERY attracted to me. It happened to me twice in a row it is so common (for guys to disappear) Don't stress about it, he is the one who lacks integrity and is not a nice enough person to ends things properly with a girl he had been sleeping with. Or maybe he was nice enough, but is simply a chicken sh*t wh has no guts and lacks strength of his character.
Author nyny123 Posted January 9, 2014 Author Posted January 9, 2014 This happens a lot. Some guys don't have the balls or common decency to break up or end things with a girl, so they disappear instead. I have had a guy disappear after a month; we did have a disagreement but he said he would call me to work it out. He never did. He acted like he was head over heels for me from the day we met, too. He either lost interest OR he was making the whole thing up the entire time, which I doubt (since I am not exactly special enough looking for a guy to be that desperate for sex from me, so as to make EVERYHTING up). Another guy disappeared after a week; he spent every day with me after we met at a bar, he wouldn't shut up about how amazing he thought I was and he seemed VERY attracted to me. It happened to me twice in a row it is so common (for guys to disappear) Don't stress about it, he is the one who lacks integrity and is not a nice enough person to ends things properly with a girl he had been sleeping with. Or maybe he was nice enough, but is simply a chicken sh*t wh has no guts and lacks strength of his character. I'm doing alright. It's just sad that someone could do something like this because I can never do that to someone. When I met him he seemed so sweet and seemed like he was into me too and I really thought I found a decent boyfriend well I guess not....
LostConfused123 Posted January 9, 2014 Posted January 9, 2014 I had this happen to me too. Usually when someone treats another human being poorly, it's a reflection of how they feel about themselves. It has nothing to do with you. I'm sorry this happened to you though. It REALLY hurts!!! It's his loss. He's a weasel!!!
LovelyDaze Posted January 9, 2014 Posted January 9, 2014 A lot of stuff going on in a very short period of time, what stage of life are you all in? Are you all in your 20s/30s and working, college, or high school? Trying to get a perspective...
Author nyny123 Posted January 9, 2014 Author Posted January 9, 2014 I had this happen to me too. Usually when someone treats another human being poorly, it's a reflection of how they feel about themselves. It has nothing to do with you. I'm sorry this happened to you though. It REALLY hurts!!! It's his loss. He's a weasel!!! I know I deserve better!
Author nyny123 Posted January 9, 2014 Author Posted January 9, 2014 A lot of stuff going on in a very short period of time, what stage of life are you all in? Are you all in your 20s/30s and working, college, or high school? Trying to get a perspective... I'm 25 and working and enrolled in school. He was 27 and has a job. Ask me anything you want.
LovelyDaze Posted January 9, 2014 Posted January 9, 2014 I'm 25 and working and enrolled in school. He was 27 and has a job. Ask me anything you want. Great. Sound like this guy was and still is a player(if the term is still being used). To be blunt, he didn't have any serious emotions for you the way he said he was going to do one thing and didn't come through for you at all. That showed you what you meant to him early on. Despite the cutesy photos, he will(if not already) do the same thing to the girl he so quickly took up with after you. I dated a guy before who was almost a sociopath when it came to relationships...very heartless. Delete him. This is not someone you should even want as a friend. He easily dismissed you when he knew you wanted to see/talk with him. This guy doesn't deserve your tears IMO.
Author nyny123 Posted January 9, 2014 Author Posted January 9, 2014 Great. Sound like this guy was and still is a player(if the term is still being used). To be blunt, he didn't have any serious emotions for you the way he said he was going to do one thing and didn't come through for you at all. That showed you what you meant to him early on. Despite the cutesy photos, he will(if not already) do the same thing to the girl he so quickly took up with after you. I dated a guy before who was almost a sociopath when it came to relationships...very heartless. Delete him. This is not someone you should even want as a friend. He easily dismissed you when he knew you wanted to see/talk with him. This guy doesn't deserve your tears IMO. I think you're right about him being a player. He claimed he wasn't a player but who knows right? When I first met him he was falling for me so fast and I was cautious and I thought maybe he was one of those people who fell in love fast. I guess I was wrong and now this is a big blow. The last time I seen him was in early december. I did delete his number, pics I had on my cell of him and on my social networking site. 1
Fufu Posted January 9, 2014 Posted January 9, 2014 The story is I met a guy in late sept and things were going good. We became bf and gf then last month he suddenly disappeared. I had him on my facebook and instagram and he recently started 2 new jobs. I tried calling him and either he wouldn't pick up or when he did he said he would call me back but never did. I just moved on and talked to other guys which I still am right now. What hurts me is that I found out through facebook that he has a girlfriend. I saw him kissing another woman which the girl had a pic of both of them and her friends or who ever they are commented on the picture of them kissing. I feel like crying right now but at the same time I don't. I'm so shocked and I see he just recently added this girl on his page I think you should be thankful you are not with him anymore. Truly GREAT BLESS IN DISGUISE!
Author nyny123 Posted January 10, 2014 Author Posted January 10, 2014 I think you should be thankful you are not with him anymore. Truly GREAT BLESS IN DISGUISE! So true. trying to get through this pain. I shouldn't care about this person who never cared about me to begin with.
Fufu Posted January 10, 2014 Posted January 10, 2014 So true. trying to get through this pain. I shouldn't care about this person who never cared about me to begin with. Yes you are right, never care for a person who never cared about you at all.
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