Pinkhearts05 Posted January 8, 2014 Posted January 8, 2014 It has become a long distance relationship he has left a couple of times out of my state due to family circumstances first was death then now a sick family member. It just hurts how closed he is. Why do they try to be all tough? I'm lucky if we text like 2 or 3 days out of the week. Last time we really talked was in Novemeber. I just miss my best friend. I feel so impatient sometimes cause he has the time to watch tv or even check facebook instead of talking to me. I try to hate him but I cant & I dont wanna be so upfront about it cause I dont wanna fight. I just need support from you all & what experiences you all have experiences.
carhill Posted January 8, 2014 Posted January 8, 2014 From reading this thread, it appears the family stuff (death, etc) happened over 18 months ago. Is this the same person? Did it happen again? It doesn't appear things are progressing, if this is the same person, as you apparently have been together over three years at this point. Something sounds fishy to me. 1
d0nnivain Posted January 8, 2014 Posted January 8, 2014 FB & TV are pretty mindless. Spending time with someone requires active engagement. He may need to decompress. You can't begrudge someone their downtime. Everybody needs to recharge. If the funeral or the family illness is recent, he may not have time to call you or be with you. That crisis is taking all his time & energy.
soccerrprp Posted January 8, 2014 Posted January 8, 2014 FB & TV are pretty mindless. Spending time with someone requires active engagement. He may need to decompress. You can't begrudge someone their downtime. Everybody needs to recharge. If the funeral or the family illness is recent, he may not have time to call you or be with you. That crisis is taking all his time & energy. Correct me if I'm wrong OP, but this ^^^^ doesn't appear to be the case. He has time to watch tv and FB which, in reality, is not mindless and does require engagement of some kind, especially FBooking people and comments. But he can't talk to his gf? Also, the two rarely even talk, so he's had plenty of time for "downtime." I don't buy it that he needs MORE downtime and MORE decompression time than he's already getting. If the tragic events are recent, I can understand being busy, but he's FBooking and watching lots of TV....I would be a little perturbed myself. 2
HeavenOrHell Posted January 9, 2014 Posted January 9, 2014 You'd be ok with a r/ship based on 2 or 3 texts a week would you? I doubt any r/ship could survive that. Me and my partner both need time to ourselves, but we still talk every day online and most nights on the phone. OP you really need to tell him you're not getting what you need from this r/ship. FB & TV are pretty mindless. Spending time with someone requires active engagement. He may need to decompress. You can't begrudge someone their downtime. Everybody needs to recharge. If the funeral or the family illness is recent, he may not have time to call you or be with you. That crisis is taking all his time & energy. 1
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