Mrlonelyone Posted January 8, 2014 Posted January 8, 2014 A few days ago it was cold here in Chicagoland and I made a video about how this weather is just what it was like when I was a kid. I made it public because I wanted to share it on Twitter. A couple days after that someone from a city where my EX has family, who I've never met, and who does not follow me on twitter liked it. This wouldn't be close family of her's either I mean like a cousin or wife of a cousin or something. No one I've ever met. WTH? My other question is why would so much of her family be scoping me out? (It could've been simply that I'm a name they knew and I was talking about the ice age like, colder than the south freaking pole, weather we've been having.)
Author Mrlonelyone Posted January 8, 2014 Author Posted January 8, 2014 I am going try to do a search to confirm that it is what it appears to be. For now any advice should please assume it is what I think it is.
carhill Posted January 8, 2014 Posted January 8, 2014 It's like people looking at this in Daley Plaza. They all have their own reasons, which will forever remain a mystery. That's OK
Author Mrlonelyone Posted January 8, 2014 Author Posted January 8, 2014 Why do you care? Because it's strange for that to happen at this point. It would indicate that I have been a topic of some discussion. It's like people looking at this in Daley Plaza. They all have their own reasons, which will forever remain a mystery. That's OK Ah good Chicago reference. Is it a horse or is it a woman? That is the question. My preliminary search confirmed my suspicions that this probably isn't a totally random event.
Onethirtyeight Posted January 8, 2014 Posted January 8, 2014 Because it's strange for that to happen at this point. It would indicate that I have been a topic of some discussion. Ah good Chicago reference. Is it a horse or is it a woman? That is the question. My preliminary search confirmed my suspicions that this probably isn't a totally random event. I still don't know why you care though. I assume you're over your ex right?
Author Mrlonelyone Posted January 9, 2014 Author Posted January 9, 2014 I still don't know why you care though. I assume you're over your ex right? Not completely, no. We were together, not exclusively but a great deal of the time, for about seven - eight months. I did the math once. We spent 12 hours a day at school. Six of those hours together in this one particular lounge/computer lab.* Hanging out in the way described in my signature line. It was equivalent to about 1.5 years of dating in the more usual sense. For a 1.5 year relationship it should take at least 0.75 of a year- 8 months to get over it. I've still got a couple months before how much I frankly give a damn will start to drop exponentially. *To describe this... we got to a point where if one of us said something it was assumed we were talking to each other even without addressing it. People around us assumed this. Until the very end when we both started seeing other people much more ...folks just assumed we were a couple. It did not need to be said. Weather or not I'm over her is besides the point. Anyone ever known the family of an EX to take an interest in an EX so long after the fact?
nescafe1982 Posted January 9, 2014 Posted January 9, 2014 My brother went out of his way to become drinking buddies with my ex months after our breakup. He (my brother) also told me about it sometimes. Eventually I emailed ex and asked him to to hang with my brother anymore. It was weird. People do weird stuff. I still don't know why... but if you guys are broken up, knowing "why" won't do you any good. And that's assuming that this wasn't a coincidence to start with. 1
Author Mrlonelyone Posted January 9, 2014 Author Posted January 9, 2014 My brother went out of his way to become drinking buddies with my ex months after our breakup. He (my brother) also told me about it sometimes. Eventually I emailed ex and asked him to to hang with my brother anymore. The only story in my family like that is from my nephew's EX. She and my sister were still friends for a good while after the breakup. But then, they had met each other and practically lived together for a while. The extended family of an ex checking me out is pretty strange. Someone in her family that I met myself would make sense. It was weird. People do weird stuff. I still don't know why... but if you guys are broken up, knowing "why" won't do you any good. And that's assuming that this wasn't a coincidence to start with. Maddame, my whole life's calling is built on asking "why" and "how". It is my nature to wonder why. If you know why the barometer drops you can predict the thunderstorm. Things like that are why asking "why" is useful. :)Since people are less predictable than weather early indicators should be heeded. I've checked. This is not a coincidence. I wish it was. That person was a relative of hers. So I have been a subject of conversation amongst them... :/ That is the reason why. We were a part of each others lives for a time.
nescafe1982 Posted January 9, 2014 Posted January 9, 2014 ^ I understand your curiosity. But what good does it do to have some inkling of why, in this case? You've inferred a reason that you think explains it. But what does thinking about this do other than make you feel bad? My motto is generally when it comes to exes, I stop asking why as soon as they stop having an effect on my life.
Author Mrlonelyone Posted January 10, 2014 Author Posted January 10, 2014 ^ I understand your curiosity. But what good does it do to have some inkling of why, in this case? You've inferred a reason that you think explains it. But what does thinking about this do other than make you feel bad? Actually it doesn't make me feel bad. Figuring out the why of things is what I do for a living. I am a researcher and a teacher of natural science in my real life. (This ex was a fellow scientist. Do you know how hard it is to find a woman scientist who is pretty and available and willing?) My motto is generally when it comes to exes, I stop asking why as soon as they stop having an effect on my life. I understand your philosophy. To me "Why?" is the most important question. "Why?" is the foundation of my professional life. How does her family and extended family talking about me and checking me out online effect me? It really does not. Now that I know that they are it does effect me. I have to at least contemplate the possibilities positive and negative.
nescafe1982 Posted January 10, 2014 Posted January 10, 2014 Do you know how hard it is to find a woman scientist who is pretty and available and willing? I can imagine. My SO is in the Sciences (computers, actually, but they have the same struggle with gender disparities). I'm an historian, so I can relate. My entire professional life is based on finding new ways to ask (and answer) the question "why?"
clia Posted January 10, 2014 Posted January 10, 2014 Does this extended family of hers live in a really tiny little town? It just seems like such a leap that some extended family of hers who you've never even met might be keeping track of you online simply because some unknown person who happens to live in the same town they do "liked" your video. And if they were monitoring you, why on Earth would they "like" your video so you could see that they were tracking you? I mean, if someone from Bloomington, IN favorited a Tweet of mine, I certainly wouldn't assume it was someone related to my ex boyfriend, even though his entire family lives there. It just seems like a huge stretch to me.
whichwayisup Posted January 10, 2014 Posted January 10, 2014 Why not make your twitter private so only those on your list can follow you? Same goes with facebook. If someone doesn't make their settings private, and it's public, it's your own doing...Some like to lurk and stalk online. if you are concerned it's your ex, change your settings so she or anybody else you don't know or any other ex from your past can't see your video's, pictures or comments.
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