blue19 Posted January 8, 2014 Posted January 8, 2014 What Would you do if your FWB says in your face that he was " dating " someone while he was sleeping with you ? Would you be angry ? And say something about that to him ? Or just erase that information of your head ? Thank you
Philosoraptor Posted January 8, 2014 Posted January 8, 2014 Um well was this FWB an exclusive relationship? If so, why not be in a relationship with them? Honestly FWB says I'm going to bang you, but not commit to you. Which allows the the opportunity to still get their sexual desires met while having the ability to choose whether or not to pursue an emotional relationship with someone else. 1
happywithlife Posted January 8, 2014 Posted January 8, 2014 If you don't like the possiblity that he is sleeping with you and another woman, stop the benefits part of the friendship. If you don't care, continue on but remember that you have been forwarned that he may be ending the benefits portion of your friendship in the near future if things get serious with the other woman. IMO the friends w/ benefits situations rarely work out for many reasons. Reasons include getting emotionally attached to the person, using the situation as a way to try to get someone to be your boyfriend/girlfriend, not laying down ground rules about sex with others, etc. Think of yourself and your wellbeing as your number one priority in this situation. 1
Author blue19 Posted January 8, 2014 Author Posted January 8, 2014 Um well was this FWB an exclusive relationship? If so, why not be in a relationship with them? Honestly FWB says I'm going to bang you, but not commit to you. Which allows the the opportunity to still get their sexual desires met while having the ability to choose whether or not to pursue an emotional relationship with someone else. Hi , well no !!! apparently I thought it was but last Monday he said that and to be honest at the moment I didn't react and I'm wondering if he did that before he may be doing it now . And I dint know if I should be angry or I'm making drama about this
Author blue19 Posted January 8, 2014 Author Posted January 8, 2014 If you don't like the possiblity that he is sleeping with you and another woman, stop the benefits part of the friendship. If you don't care, continue on but remember that you have been forwarned that he may be ending the benefits portion of your friendship in the near future if things get serious with the other woman. IMO the friends w/ benefits situations rarely work out for many reasons. Reasons include getting emotionally attached to the person, using the situation as a way to try to get someone to be your boyfriend/girlfriend, not laying down ground rules about sex with others, etc. Think of yourself and your wellbeing as your number one priority in this situation. I'm not happy with the fact or the idea of him dating and sleeping with other women it's impossible not to develop feelings specially after almost 2 years in this FWB thing . I still don't know why in the world he said that to me in the first place ?? Maybe to hurt me only he knows
ExpatInItaly Posted January 8, 2014 Posted January 8, 2014 I'm not happy with the fact or the idea of him dating and sleeping with other women it's impossible not to develop feelings specially after almost 2 years in this FWB thing . I still don't know why in the world he said that to me in the first place ?? Maybe to hurt me only he knows He said that to be honest, and let you know where you stand. It is clear that he doesn't want a relationship with you or you would've already progressed to that after two years of this. It's rather natural to develop feelings for someone you're intimate with. But generally the terms of a FWB arrangement indicate that you're not exclusive or have a romantic relationship. You're friends who have sex sometimes. He is seeing other women. Now you can decide if you want to continue to be a physical release for him. If you don't, stop sleeping with him. It appears you've developed some deeper feelings that he simply doesn't return. I'd cut this off now before you get hurt even worse. 1
Author blue19 Posted January 8, 2014 Author Posted January 8, 2014 He said that to be honest, and let you know where you stand. It is clear that he doesn't want a relationship with you or you would've already progressed to that after two years of this. It's rather natural to develop feelings for someone you're intimate with. But generally the terms of a FWB arrangement indicate that you're not exclusive or have a romantic relationship. You're friends who have sex sometimes. He is seeing other women. Now you can decide if you want to continue to be a physical release for him. If you don't, stop sleeping with him. It appears you've developed some deeper feelings that he simply doesn't return. I'd cut this off now before you get hurt even worse. Ouch that hurt !!!! But you are right he made his point clear at least I want to think that was his intention but still hurts
mammasita Posted January 8, 2014 Posted January 8, 2014 a FWB is just a friend, nothing more. He owed you nothing, so you really have no ground to stand on.
d0nnivain Posted January 8, 2014 Posted January 8, 2014 I always talked to my FWB. Once one of us started dating somebody the benefits were over . . . period . . . out of respect to the new romantic relationship. I'm not going to be party to cheating. I was never angry . . . disappointed maybe . . . but there was nothing to get angry about. My FWB was just that . . . a friend who satisfied a physical need.
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