John83 Posted January 9, 2014 Posted January 9, 2014 For me anger was the first reaction. Then it calmed down and turned to alernating sadness/ trying to reason which i feel will last a while.
David87 Posted January 9, 2014 Posted January 9, 2014 For me anger was the first reaction. Then it calmed down and turned to alernating sadness/ trying to reason which i feel will last a while. John83 we are trying to cheer margot13 up, so it will not turn to sadness but to indifference Be sad why? Why do you have to be sad for? Don't se beeing dumped as a failure, se it as a step forward. When one door is closed, don't you know that many more are open? 1
mantlefan Posted January 9, 2014 Posted January 9, 2014 For me, it was anger, then desperation, then just solid heartbreak. It felt like my chest was actually being torn. She said we might still be together, and she wanted to be friends even if it didn't work out. I didn't go NC and it was up and down, but trending up. I was looking forward to seeing what would come next. In my head I guess I was telling myself I was happy we still got along and felt like friends. In my heart I was probably happy because I thought we were growing back together. However, 4 months after the BU she told me it was over for good and that we tried to be friends too soon. I was totally heartbroken again for two weeks, but then started looking forward to at least getting along at work. One month after that we hung out at a work party and had a good time. Once again I got my hopes up that we would at least be friends. I find out the next day from one of my male friends that my ex had been after him since almost right after she dumped me, even as she was telling me we might get back together. After that, it was a feeling of emptiness, heartbreak again, total betrayal (because at that point I lost any hope that the breakup was just about personal differences, and majorly about a friend and former lover pulling the wool over my eyes), and then some anger after that. Right now I am just trying to look at her as another messed-up human being, like we all are, and be realistic about her faults. I haven't forgiven her yet, but I want to someday. I know I am on the way. Learn from me. Go No Contact. If you don't, you put yourself on a never-ending roller coaster. Get off that ride, take a little time to sip some lemonade, and then go out and find a new attraction. Go to a different amusement park even.
Author margot13 Posted January 9, 2014 Author Posted January 9, 2014 Thanks David87, still no sadness just lots of furious, verbal, insulting yellings being made at my wall. :-) And I will not contact, it is just too pathetic to bother and he even signed the email with a X!!!! How dare he, who does he think he is, some sort of demigod who breaks up with me, tears me to shreds (because of his depression, blah blah blah) and then sends me a love song worthy of a good one hour vomiting session over a toilet bowl and a kiss!!!! Give me a break! 1
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