Mcscooter Posted January 8, 2014 Posted January 8, 2014 I've just started dating this women for 2 months already. We share a lot of common interest and I see a potential future. She also agrees. We're very comfortable to share anything towards each other. The trust and spark is also there. I come across a situation where I feel uncomfortable. Every once in awhile we'll get into a nice conversation. Whenever we talk about previous relationships or sex. She brings up how "Good" the last guy she was with in bed. She even makes an orgasmic face when she says it. Like he was "ooohh good" or "damn good" or "he was the best at sex". It bothers me because I feel like it's a challenge. A challenge that I do not want to accept. I can't just tell her that I feel uncomfortable about it. It's pretty much saying she's comfortable to share anything with me, maybe too comfortable. That isn't always a bad thing though. I'm not trying to make her feel like she cannot be completely comfortable around me. I like her a lot to the point I don't care as much, but at the back of my head it stings a little bit when she brings him up.
MrCastle Posted January 8, 2014 Posted January 8, 2014 It is a challenge. F*ck her brains out, bro. Put a stop to all that talk. Be confident in your skills. Read up on some tricks if you have to. Knock her socks off, that's the only way to put an end to that nonsense. That or break up with her. 4
d0nnivain Posted January 8, 2014 Posted January 8, 2014 Mr. Castle offers a great male perspective. However, it's rather crass of her to mention this at all. You have to tell her you don't want to hear about him. 9
regine_phalange Posted January 8, 2014 Posted January 8, 2014 This is plain rude. I'd feel very insulted and disrespected. 2
devastated777 Posted January 8, 2014 Posted January 8, 2014 That is rude. WTF? really?? I'm sorry but I think she is worried about how good you're gonna think she is. I'm hearing insecurity here. hmmmm Rock her world bro.
KathyM Posted January 8, 2014 Posted January 8, 2014 I think she's saying that as a way to manipulate you so that you don't dump her, kind of like PUA's neg the women they are interested in. Trying to make you feel inferior. Either that, or she's very insensitive to your feelings. Either way, it's very rude for her to be idolizing an ex to her current boyfriend. I would suggest you call her out on that behavior by saying that it sounds like you are not over your ex and may not be ready for another relationship. Perhaps we should cool off the relationship for a while so that you are ready to put your past relationship in the past. 2
mikecr50 Posted January 8, 2014 Posted January 8, 2014 devasted no offense but its very rude! Very curious how her bragging about how good the last guy was makes her sound insecure? Again no offense but huh?
mammasita Posted January 8, 2014 Posted January 8, 2014 I think its rude as $hit - but at the same time, its absolutely coming from a place of insecurity. I dont think a woman who was secure in her own ability would have to bring up how good her past men were. 1
carhill Posted January 8, 2014 Posted January 8, 2014 She keeps talking about how her last guy was so "good" IMO, she should be talking to her 'next guy' about this and you move on to someone who is interested in expounding upon the virtues of the guy she's with, meaning you.
Zahara Posted January 8, 2014 Posted January 8, 2014 I think it's rude. You both should keep talks of past relationships, especially about sex out of your conversations. Two of you should be focusing on what's infront of you now versus what was. She should stop making her stupid sex faces. It's annoying me just imagining it. She's insecure because a woman that is secure would be all about how great she is versus how great the men in her past were. 2
devastated777 Posted January 8, 2014 Posted January 8, 2014 Ok Mike, no offense taken. from my personal experience, this guy I dated (The one that put me on this site and crushed me), always bragged about his previous one. they were engaged , broke up (because she was "crazy"), then remained FB's because she was so good. then, when we had sex, he had some issues. I felt horrible. I thought it was me because I never had complaints before. Anyway, he said it was because he had a hernia and the mesh caused his difficulty. But as we got better together, he loosened. So I think he wanted me to think that since she was so friggin awesome, I wouldn't leave and stay with him and worry that I was the problem. Again, that's just what I learned from my own experience.
bubbaganoosh Posted January 8, 2014 Posted January 8, 2014 Just for the hell of it, some day mention about a past sexual experience you had with a girl from your past that gave you a night of sex that you could write a book about. If she gets bent out of shape about it, then ask her why she can talk about how the super stud in her past rocked her world and you have to sit and listen to it but it's not alright for you to do the same. If she says nothing about it, then if it was me, tell her that it makes you feel uncomfortable and if she isn't satisfied with you then go back to the other guy. Honestly it sounds like she trying to make you feel uncomfortable and that isn't a good way to make a relationship work.
Joaquin Posted January 8, 2014 Posted January 8, 2014 Sorry OP, this one sounds like a nasty bitch, and lacking in any class. I am fairly easy going but if a girl decided to pull that **** on me Id calmly tell her to **** off back to her ****ing ex then.
emva07 Posted January 8, 2014 Posted January 8, 2014 are you guys waiting to have sex or something? because it sounds like she IS challenging you. If you guys are already having sex and she is talking about it that is super rude and offensive. 2
soccerrprp Posted January 8, 2014 Posted January 8, 2014 OP, it is a challenge to your libido. It's easy now to tell you go and **** her brains out, but only you and that moment when you get the chance to will determine whether you compared favorably to her ex. The pressure to perform, well, I hope you'll meet the challenge. She was absolutely crude and rude. 2
Untouchable_Fire Posted January 8, 2014 Posted January 8, 2014 OP, it is a challenge to your libido. It's easy now to tell you go and **** her brains out, but only you and that moment when you get the chance to will determine whether you compared favorably to her ex. The pressure to perform, well, I hope you'll meet the challenge. She was absolutely crude and rude. This is very true! The fact is that good sex is just as much about emotion as it is about physicality. Plus there are many different types of good sex. One of my friends claims the best sex she ever had was with a fat guy rocking a tiny dick... The sex was exciting because it was an affair. This woman is nasty. I wouldn't date someone like that. I understand you want her to feel like she can tell you anything, but she should have a filter between her brain and her mouth. If she doesn't have it then she doesn't respect you as a man. No sugar coating that. 2
winny Posted January 8, 2014 Posted January 8, 2014 I've just started dating this women for 2 months already. We share a lot of common interest and I see a potential future. She also agrees. We're very comfortable to share anything towards each other. The trust and spark is also there. I come across a situation where I feel uncomfortable. Every once in awhile we'll get into a nice conversation. Whenever we talk about previous relationships or sex. She brings up how "Good" the last guy she was with in bed. She even makes an orgasmic face when she says it. Like he was "ooohh good" or "damn good" or "he was the best at sex". It bothers me because I feel like it's a challenge. A challenge that I do not want to accept. I can't just tell her that I feel uncomfortable about it. It's pretty much saying she's comfortable to share anything with me, maybe too comfortable. That isn't always a bad thing though. I'm not trying to make her feel like she cannot be completely comfortable around me. I like her a lot to the point I don't care as much, but at the back of my head it stings a little bit when she brings him up. That is very rude and inconsiderate on her part... U should re think about any serious relationship with her. You can also do the any of the following : Tell her she can still go back to him if it was so good (in a joking way) OR Say that your ex was also so good that she reminds you of her every time she mentions her ex being good in bed. OR Say that... Both of you shouldn't have sex anymore (if you are already doing it) / not have it at all (if u r yet to start) coz you are better than someone who has to compete against an ex ... U r above such stupid challenges n comparisons .... N walk away n ignore her till she changes her ways.
TheGuard13 Posted January 8, 2014 Posted January 8, 2014 I come across a situation where I feel uncomfortable. Every once in awhile we'll get into a nice conversation. Whenever we talk about previous relationships or sex. She brings up how "Good" the last guy she was with in bed. She even makes an orgasmic face when she says it. Like he was "ooohh good" or "damn good" or "he was the best at sex". It bothers me because I feel like it's a challenge. A challenge that I do not want to accept. 1. Why don't you want to accept said challenge? 2. Have you tried asking "Oh? What did you like so much about sex with him?" Because she may just be trying to get you to do something specific that she really likes, and is too shy to say what it is outright without probing from you.
StanMusial Posted January 8, 2014 Posted January 8, 2014 Seems crude and kinda gross. I don't know what kind of person she is but whatever. It's one thing to be open and honest but two months in and she "keeps" talking about sex with some other guy? It's never happened to me but if it did I would just tell her I didn't want to hear about it. And I doubt things would progress much further.
StanMusial Posted January 8, 2014 Posted January 8, 2014 1. Why don't you want to accept said challenge? 2. Have you tried asking "Oh? What did you like so much about sex with him?" Because she may just be trying to get you to do something specific that she really likes, and is too shy to say what it is outright without probing from you. That girl does not seem too shy to me.
stillafool Posted January 8, 2014 Posted January 8, 2014 I've just started dating this women for 2 months already. We share a lot of common interest and I see a potential future. She also agrees. We're very comfortable to share anything towards each other. The trust and spark is also there. I come across a situation where I feel uncomfortable. Every once in awhile we'll get into a nice conversation. Whenever we talk about previous relationships or sex. She brings up how "Good" the last guy she was with in bed. She even makes an orgasmic face when she says it. Like he was "ooohh good" or "damn good" or "he was the best at sex". It bothers me because I feel like it's a challenge. A challenge that I do not want to accept. I can't just tell her that I feel uncomfortable about it. It's pretty much saying she's comfortable to share anything with me, maybe too comfortable. That isn't always a bad thing though. I'm not trying to make her feel like she cannot be completely comfortable around me. I like her a lot to the point I don't care as much, but at the back of my head it stings a little bit when she brings him up. I hate to be petty but maybe you could tell her what a great ass and legs your ex had! 1
Eau Claire Posted January 8, 2014 Posted January 8, 2014 I would expect a man with integrity to walk out the door for good if a woman talked like this. If a man talked to me in this way, I wouldn't take time to say good bye. 2
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