confusedsoul14 Posted January 8, 2014 Posted January 8, 2014 Hey! So every few weeks I keep posting about this guy that I really like! It's obvious that he really likes me as a person but I'm not sure if he is growing feelings for me too. Because sometimes he acts quite nervous and weird with anything that has to do with me. Okay, so it was my birthday last week and I was really hoping he would wish me on FB. And he didn't?!!! And it's extremely weird because he ALWAYS ALWAYS wishes everyone on their bdays. He even wishes people that he doesn't know. For example, once my friend posted a picture of her male cousin and said it's his bday and he wished him happy bday on the comment. Once, I posted a picture of my sister on her bday and he wished a happy bday. And then, whenever its anyone's bday among our friends, I always find him to be the first one to wish them on FB. Even to those who are not close to him at all! So, basically he wishes everyone on their bdays. But then he didn't wish me at all! My friend wished me and he just "liked" it. And nothing else??? Why did he do that? Is it because he doesn't like me or he was nervous? I mean, is it asking too much of him to wish me on my bday? It's the least he could do ryt? Especially when he does it to everybody else... Please help me figure this out
Taramere Posted January 8, 2014 Posted January 8, 2014 Maybe he wasn't on Facebook, or he might not have seen the message about it being your birthday. Or you suffer the post festive season birthday curse whereby nobody's really in the mood to celebrate anybody's birthday - being all partied out. I really think Capricorns should be awarded a second birthday, like the Queen. Anyway, belated happy birthday and try not to let it get you down. There's also, of course, the distinct possibility that this guy avoided posting a message precisely because he likes you and therefore gets all awkward and embarrassed with you in a way that he doesn't with others. Especially since, as you say, he often gets nervous and weird with you. 2
Author confusedsoul14 Posted January 8, 2014 Author Posted January 8, 2014 Maybe he wasn't on Facebook, or he might not have seen the message about it being your birthday. Or you suffer the post festive season birthday curse whereby nobody's really in the mood to celebrate anybody's birthday - being all partied out. I really think Capricorns should be awarded a second birthday, like the Queen. He knew it was my birthday because he liked my friend's status about my birthday the very same day. And he is a very frequent FB user.
Author confusedsoul14 Posted January 8, 2014 Author Posted January 8, 2014 It was clearly mentioned that it was my birthday...
Author confusedsoul14 Posted January 8, 2014 Author Posted January 8, 2014 Let it go. It's unimportant. you are probably right but I have to rely on this stupid details to find out if he likes me or not. Coz he is an extremely shy guy, especially with these kind of things.... Maybe you could give me your opinion on what this really means?
Author confusedsoul14 Posted January 8, 2014 Author Posted January 8, 2014 There's no doubt that this guy enjoys my company and so I wanna make sure if he thinks of me more than as friend. Before I make any move and it turns out to be the wrong one. And since he is shy, the pressure to make any move is entirely on me
Emilia Posted January 8, 2014 Posted January 8, 2014 you are probably right but I have to rely on this stupid details to find out if he likes me or not. Coz he is an extremely shy guy, especially with these kind of things.... Maybe you could give me your opinion on what this really means? There's no doubt that this guy enjoys my company and so I wanna make sure if he thinks of me more than as friend. Before I make any move and it turns out to be the wrong one. And since he is shy, the pressure to make any move is entirely on me If it's this much hard work, find another guy. Shy guys are a lot of work in my limited experience, that work doesn't just end with the asking out part. If you have the kind of personality that's likely to steamroll him, it's going to end in a disaster most likely, anyway. The initial stage and hugely enjoyable. Shouldn't feel like work. 2
Author confusedsoul14 Posted January 8, 2014 Author Posted January 8, 2014 The initial stage and hugely enjoyable. Shouldn't feel like work. It certainly feels like work these days. However, the possibility of him liking me keeps bothering me everytime he acts nervous or weird. I'm not a very serious person and most of the time I let him do his own work and take his time to think things through. And I can tell he appreciates that and doesn't feel like I'm forcing him into liking me or anything. But then everytime he sees he acts a bit different. He becomes more aware of himself, tries to hide his nervousness by talking sweetly to me, and sometimes he completely ignores me like on my bday. I heard these are signs of a guy liking you?
Emilia Posted January 8, 2014 Posted January 8, 2014 It certainly feels like work these days. However, the possibility of him liking me keeps bothering me everytime he acts nervous or weird. I'm not a very serious person and most of the time I let him do his own work and take his time to think things through. And I can tell he appreciates that and doesn't feel like I'm forcing him into liking me or anything. But then everytime he sees he acts a bit different. He becomes more aware of himself, tries to hide his nervousness by talking sweetly to me, and sometimes he completely ignores me like on my bday. I heard these are signs of a guy liking you? Quite possibly it's a sign yes. However, is that enough for you? That's the question. 1
Author confusedsoul14 Posted January 8, 2014 Author Posted January 8, 2014 I don't know what to do now. I like him a lot but I don't know where this is going...
Emilia Posted January 8, 2014 Posted January 8, 2014 I don't know what to do now. I like him a lot but I don't know where this is going... What do you guys talk about? 1
Frank2thepoint Posted January 8, 2014 Posted January 8, 2014 I don't know what to do now. I like him a lot but I don't know where this is going... Have you thought about tell him that you like him?
MissBee Posted January 8, 2014 Posted January 8, 2014 you are probably right but I have to rely on this stupid details to find out if he likes me or not. Coz he is an extremely shy guy, especially with these kind of things.... Maybe you could give me your opinion on what this really means? There is no way to know what this really means. But one of my rules of thumb for dating is: don't stress yourself about "figuring out" if a man likes you. It doesn't matter if he is shy. If a man REALLY likes you, he will make it known (even if he is slow on it) and you shouldn't need to be decoding every little thing and racking your brain and reading into every little thing. Show interest and it is up to him to follow up and to eventually make it obvious that he likes you. If he doesn't make it obvious then there really is no point. Other rule: if a man "secretly" likes me and never makes it known to me...it's a waste of time. I get shy. I do. But sometimes women also confuse disinterest for shy and keep thinking a man is shy when he doesn't make it obvious he likes her, when many times it's because he doesn't. Even a shy man will find some kind of way to let you know how he feels...and if he never does, his loss. 1
Author confusedsoul14 Posted January 9, 2014 Author Posted January 9, 2014 Ok here is an update of situation. Turns out he did wish me after all! It was the same day but a bit late in the evening, when I didn't check online anymore. He wrote the longest bday wish, almost like a paragraph. He even said that it was stupid of him to miss my bday notification early during the day, and that it's been a while he and our mutual friends didn't see me Now I feel so stupid! He did wish me but I kept on thinking that he didn't and came here to whine about it!
Author confusedsoul14 Posted January 9, 2014 Author Posted January 9, 2014 If a man "secretly" likes me and never makes it known to me...it's a waste of time. I get shy. I do. But sometimes women also confuse disinterest for shy and keep thinking a man is shy when he doesn't make it obvious he likes her, when many times it's because he doesn't. Even a shy man will find some kind of way to let you know how he feels...and if he never does, his loss. You are absolutely right! If a guy likes you, you feel it in the gut that he does. That's how my crush makes me feel, and even my close friends have noticed that although he is super nice to everybody, he has a characteristic way of treating me... like he treats me a bit differently, a bit more inclined and a bit too friendly. I strongly agree that sometimes we confuse people's disinterest for shyness and I don't want to make the same mistake.
Author confusedsoul14 Posted January 9, 2014 Author Posted January 9, 2014 What do you guys talk about? I haven't really paid attention but we talk about a lot of things. And we usually make jokes about each other. However, I'm funnier than him and it's really cute when he makes an effort to be funny just to make me laugh He loves to chat with me and it shows.
Author confusedsoul14 Posted January 9, 2014 Author Posted January 9, 2014 Hope it works out for you OP, he sounds nice. Thank you Emilia! He IS nice, that's why I was shocked when he didn't wish me on my bday.
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