was it right?

[xavierjim]

There was a boy and a gal wid nothin in common. the boy was a bit rude,blunt, an introvert and did not express his emotions because he was brought up all alone with no siblings to share his emotions.

the gal was extra sensitive,who cried on smallest of small things and was full of care and affection and was an extrovert. she was brought up in a joint family with many siblings and friends around her always.

 

so they studied in the same school and met as friends on fb. they became best friends in 4 months. the boy had feelings for her but feared to tell her as he could not risk their friendship. the girl liked him as a friend. soon,the girl went in a relationship with another guy whom she did not love. the boy was heartbroken. he broke his friendship only to return 2 months later and confess he liked her. the girl at first was reluctant but she too fell for the boy. the love they shared was intense. they cared a lot,fought a lot. the boy became verry possessive about her and hated when she talked to guys or her ex. the girl too became possessive and became angry if the boy talked to other girls. meanwhile,her ex started to force her back in the relationship and the boy told her to cut all contacts with him. the ex used to cry for hours,cut hands and torchure the girl mentally. the girl was in a confusing state. she couldnt tell her bf as he would get angry and she felt helpless. when the boy found out she talked to her ex, he was heartbroken and the girl was filled with remorse that she lied. whenever they quarelled since that, the boy often called her a liar,cheat and said she could have told her this as he must have tried to understand.

next they faced rejection from their families and suffered a lot. the boy's condition was pitiful and he felt insecure about her. the girl to suffered a lot but still they remained together.their love became stronger. the boy left his friends because they made her cry.the girl too avoided every contact with guys.2 years passed so with a lot of quarells but at the end of the day they loved each other a lot and apologised for every mistake of theirs.

now their school changed. there were all new people around. the girl loved this but the boy felt insecure, and uncomfortable. the boy ignored her in school and reasoned that he did not want everyone to notice her. she felt like a caged bird. she saw her friends living openly,talking to whoever they wanted to and she started to feel suffocated. she often complained that he did not give her space. meanwhile,the boy had only this girl whom he was open with. he talked to her everything and his possessiveness crossed the limits. he didnt even realise he had started to lose her. the girl loved her dearly but wanted a bit of respect,space and trust. the boy started to focus on his career reasoning that only a great job can help them to marry. the girl though loved him,was feeling neglected,ignored and trapped. her friends often told her that their bfs give them a lot of attention. the girl was losing interest with time. she often cried infront of her friends but was afraid to tell his bf.

 

after 3 years,the girl broke up with him reasoning that he was mean to her and he never valued her and never understood her.she told him that she had no feelings for him.the guy was heartbroken,this was a shock for him. he cried day and night.suddenly he realised all his mistakes and started to understand the situation. he was filled with remorse. he was left alone with no one to talk to. he tried everything to bring her back and get an apology. he tried to made her smile,begged her to forgive him,promised he would change himself, cried, cut his vein,surprised her, ran after her through the city,cooked her favourite dish and even knelt down infront of her holdin his ears and foldin hands.

the girl on the other hand was being forced. she wanted a life of her own so that she could fly high with no one to stop her. she got close to a guy and became great friends with him. she loved this friendship. the boy felt she dumped him for this guy. he started to cry even more. his sitaution become worse.

the girl felt no one cared what she wanted. she was being treated as a possession. when he had her he never valued and when he lost her he realised everything. she loved her friend circle and the fun and space. she was getting back to life and was happy. she felt bad that she lost him but was happy she got her life back.

 

now the reason i have narrated this as a story because i want an honest answer as who is at mistake?

wasn't the guy wrong?

but wasn't it bad that he was not given a chance to be good to her?

was the way he caged her was right?

was the way she left him correct?

should the gal accept him back?

should the guy move on?

[legion113]

They both were at fault, they both should move on. Frankly, I wouldn't date either of these two people.

[David87]

Move on that is what you should do. Don't get stuck in the past.

[Luke12345]

A touching story. They should both move on, however, if you feel a friendship could be built and that's what you (the girl, that's right I can tell ) want then do NC for now, let both of you move away from these hard times first.

 

And after a good amount of time (I think you guys need a lot to be honest) then if you still want to be friends get in contact, no reminiscing about old times though, and get on with your own life right now.