SYLLPalmer Posted January 8, 2014 Posted January 8, 2014 (edited) OLD affords us opportunity of epic proportions. The problem is that what we sow we may not reap due to unscrupulous individuals posing as good men and good women. I am wondering how many people use these venues to con and trick others for sex, money, jobs. Men and women alike. Since I am a women drawing on past experience to form this question my scenario involves the manipulative male. The man targets a cute women and scans her profile to conjure up the whit required to get her attention. It turns out not to be a slam dunk and he is forced to assume the position of an orbiter while he works to soften her up. He can easily maintain his charm and focus because he has handful of other women at different stages of his hunt and kill keeping his routine daily needs satiated. He recognizes that she is a fantastic women but nevertheless he intends to get into her pants and move on. And so he does and he never looks back. Can anyone provide tips to uncovering red flags used by the OLD people to help me circumnavigate these painful and humiliating experiences? My direct questions for you are: What is it that gets you every time with regards to how blind and stupid your prey is?What are some of the careless and blatant "errors" the you can't believe he/she never picked up on?What kinds of tactics do you employ to make a person drop their guard and feel cared for to increase your chances of getting the goods?How many people will you do this with at one time?Has it ever come back to bite you in the ass?Lastly was it the OLD venue, chock full of women/men, that created this predator that you have become? Edited January 8, 2014 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
antonio1149 Posted January 8, 2014 Posted January 8, 2014 (edited) I'm not a predator but there's an easy way to safeguard against the guys you're concerned about. Don't have sex for the first 15 or 20 dates. It's not a 100% guarantee but it should discourage all but the most dedicated and determined Don Juans. Edited January 8, 2014 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
Author SYLLPalmer Posted January 8, 2014 Author Posted January 8, 2014 I'm not a predator but there's an easy way to safeguard against the guys you're concerned about. Don't have sex for the first 15 or 20 dates. It's not a 100% guarantee but it should discourage all but the most dedicated and determined Don Juans. sigh. Back to high school prude I go. You put it much more kindly than I... Don Juan. Manipulator and desicrator of the human heart. Well for those of you struggling to make that connection I can tell you where women are concerned this man has done irreparable damage to most women I know. So what you perceive to be drama or high maintenance or game playing can very well be a sort of Don Juan PTSD. You can turn and walk away but she may just be the love of your life. She is like a terrified, orphaned, kitten. You can tell her it's safe come out but you'll get a better result by just patiently distracting her with a magical moving string. Once you get her out it wont be long before you can hold her and love her. Sorry to rant but since there were no takers I draw my case to close.
soccerrprp Posted January 8, 2014 Posted January 8, 2014 I have used OLD with success. I'm with a wonderful woman b/c of it now and see an amazing future building. But, I do believe that OLD has brought, further to forefront, our more primitive, base instincts and predispositions. I think it a dream come true for the already self-determined predator. How to avoid? Not certain. People are really good at creating a mystique, image that entices, deceives. I am sometimes dismayed at the attitude of some on LS and society in general in regards to relationships, intimacy. Very little seems sacred anymore. And there seems to be an unrelenting growth of more and more cynical, insecure ladies and gentlemen entering the dating pool making the establishment of a healthy relationship even more difficult. Sounds like you've been hurt plenty. I hope you recover and find someone who will love you for you.
odin673 Posted January 8, 2014 Posted January 8, 2014 I'm not a predator but there's an easy way to safeguard against the guys you're concerned about. Don't have sex for the first 15 or 20 dates. It's not a 100% guarantee but it should discourage all but the most dedicated and determined Don Juans. Most genuine guys would not wait that long. We've all been burned at one time by a woman who appeared interested but changed her mind after months. Go with your gut. Don't have sex before you're exclusive. Becoming exclusive shouldn't happen before the 5th date either. Dating is like a war zone. Do your best to be careful but realize that you may still step on a landmine.
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