datingnoob93 Posted January 8, 2014 Posted January 8, 2014 Hi, I met somebody new and went out with her last weekend, and she agreed to see me again. The problem is that she lives half an hour away from the city, where all the cool places are. There's hardly anything out there in her little town, a couple of restaurants, a small theater, a bowling alley. Its a miserable little place (we watched a movie there first date).. Do you think its a good idea to take her downtown instead? It would be an hour round trip and I don't want her to be bored sitting in the car that long. Thanks.
HokeyReligions Posted January 8, 2014 Posted January 8, 2014 That doesnt seem so far to me. You might want to make sure she knows where you are going and that she has a friend or family that also knows. Sad but in this day and age its important to know someone else knows where you/she will be. I once went on a first date with someone - to another state almost five hours one way and five hours back! Ahh youth. I later found out he was in a psych ward because he was a "sex-a-holic". I met him thru a friend. She met him thru her sister - who was the charge nurse at the hospital where he was the patient! No one thought to tell me of his background and I didnt ask. It was a VERY interesting drive home that night.
Els Posted January 8, 2014 Posted January 8, 2014 If you're driving, I think it's fine to ask her if she'd like to do so. Obviously, don't go the "your town sucks!!" route, just tell her there's a cool place in your city that you'd like to take her to.
happywithlife Posted January 8, 2014 Posted January 8, 2014 Half hour one way isn't far all! My boyfriend and I live 45 mins apart so one of us is always driving. On most weekends one of us is making the trip w/ kids in tow. People who live in rural areas/small towns think nothing of 1/2 hr drives. If you have somewhere specific in the city you want to take her, run the idea by her and ask her what time you should pick her up or if she feels more comfortable meeting you there since its only the 2nd date and you don't want to make her feel uncomfortable.
sagetalk Posted January 8, 2014 Posted January 8, 2014 Why is a 30 minute drive together boring? If you're attracted to her, you ought to be able to handle that easy. If you can't stay in a car togetrher for 30 minutes without being bored, you may want to find someone else. 1
ShyGuy5 Posted January 8, 2014 Posted January 8, 2014 If an hour is too long, then have fun trying to get dinner 2
d0nnivain Posted January 8, 2014 Posted January 8, 2014 That doesn't even register on my meter of too far. If you are really worried about lapses in the conversation, think up a few conversation starter questions. In the very beginning, I would go with lighter fare like: What's your favorite amusement park? What did you want to be when you grew up? Why did you become _________ (whatever it is the other person does for a living)? or Why did you chose to go to whatever school they are attending? Where in the world do you most want to go on your dream vacation? What's the coolest thing you have ever done on vacation? Beach or mountains?
CarrieT Posted January 8, 2014 Posted January 8, 2014 In 2010, after 50-some coffee meet-and-greet dates, I met a guy that was 90 miles away (sometimes a two-hour drive with traffic). I initially turned him down because of the distance but he convinced to meet him half-way for a first date, stating he had dated people in other states and it was hard enough finding the right person - let alone someone who might be within a few-hour drive. We just got married. 30 minutes? Piffle. 1
mammasita Posted January 8, 2014 Posted January 8, 2014 Does she drive? I get that its chivalrous to pick a woman up and I appreciate the gesture.....but I live a bit out from the "hip" part of town also and I always offer, in fact I personally prefer to drive into town, park my car and then let the guy drive around.
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