Leigh 87 Posted January 8, 2014 Posted January 8, 2014 any tips on to ingite that? is there anything you can do to make a woman feel it? do girls without any kind of attraction or that "fire" make out with guys they feel luke warm with and keep going on dates? Well, the guy who thought he was crazy in love with me found a girl who felt the same way about him and now he's crazy about a girl who reciprocates. I can't begin to tell you how painful it was for him to let himself fall madly in love with a girl who didn't feel the same way about him. You really can't do anything besides be yourself and wait and see whether or not she will come around and eventually return your feelings.
jinandjuice Posted January 8, 2014 Posted January 8, 2014 Well, the guy who thought he was crazy in love with me found a girl who felt the same way about him and now he's crazy about a girl who reciprocates. I can't begin to tell you how painful it was for him to let himself fall madly in love with a girl who didn't feel the same way about him. You really can't do anything besides be yourself and wait and see whether or not she will come around and eventually return your feelings. sorry to bug you so much but you seem so knowledable. last question. is there a time frame? when should i know or she know?
Eternal Sunshine Posted January 8, 2014 Posted January 8, 2014 Whem things don't make sense like this it's almost always due to an outside influence. He met or got back together with someone else.
Graduate Posted January 8, 2014 Posted January 8, 2014 I never know if someone is "the one" or one of the ones after meeting them twice. I do know if they are not the one. I second that. I just 'ended it' with someone I was on two dates with. I really liked him on date one and due to the holidays we did not see each other for a while after our first date, but we had frequent contact and started building a rapport. I really liked his humor and was really looking forward to seeing him again. But when I did, I just did not feel it. I can't put a finger on exactly why I don't think he is the one for me, but I knew that I was not interested in being his girlfriend. And since I hate wasting people's time or leading them on, I told him the next day. He was a bit upset and asked me how I could tell after two dates and whether I was faking it when I acted like I was having a good time. I did not, I had a good time, but I still don't want to date him anymore. It sucks, for both parties, but I think it is better to end it ASAP instead of dragging it out in order to see 'whether I change my mind'. 1
organizedchaos Posted January 8, 2014 Posted January 8, 2014 Horse sh*t. So it is a fairytale fantasy to expect to be really into a person from the first date? Do most people just go "meh" after the date, and continue seeing people they are lukewarm about, yet enjoy talking to? Plenty of guys feel something special about a girl from date one; THAT DOES NOT mean they think she is "the one", LOL. I made no mention of knowing if someone is THE ONE within two dates; I said, you sure know if someone IS NOT the one. Here's the thing. I've gone out with women and the first date seemed like we hit it off swimmingly. It was clear from both sides there was interest. But then I get the "just not feeling it" when trying to setup date two. Or maybe it's date 3 or 4 and it happens. It's not about feeling "meh" it's about protecting yourself until you know for sure this is someone who really wants to be with you. I don't know where you live, but maybe it's just a product of living in a very big city and the mindset of many people that there might be something better around the corner. So in the interest of protecting my feelings and not getting too invested too early, it's better to wait it out and see what develops. Right now, I had am amazing first date with someone who I know is in to me and we are going out again this weekend. We've been texting and talking in between dates. I was setup by a mutual friend and the day after our date I texted him that I liked her and definitely wanted to see her again. That we really hit it off. He said she texted him the same thing the previous night. So it's seems perfectly clear she's interested, and I'm interested. However, I'm STILL not going all in, just yet. I'm still casually dating. If after the second or third date the feelings are still strong, I'll break off all other dating for this girl. But I certainly wouldn't do that after just one date. It's not about being "meh" it's about guarding yourself. 1
organizedchaos Posted January 8, 2014 Posted January 8, 2014 I second that. I just 'ended it' with someone I was on two dates with. I really liked him on date one and due to the holidays we did not see each other for a while after our first date, but we had frequent contact and started building a rapport. I really liked his humor and was really looking forward to seeing him again. But when I did, I just did not feel it. I can't put a finger on exactly why I don't think he is the one for me, but I knew that I was not interested in being his girlfriend. And since I hate wasting people's time or leading them on, I told him the next day. He was a bit upset and asked me how I could tell after two dates and whether I was faking it when I acted like I was having a good time. I did not, I had a good time, but I still don't want to date him anymore. It sucks, for both parties, but I think it is better to end it ASAP instead of dragging it out in order to see 'whether I change my mind'. This is EXACTLY what I'm talking about and what I just wrote about. We really hit it off on date one, but who knows what will happen so why should I completely invest myself in her until after a few dates even when I know right now she's in to me? I've been burned too many times before in this situation.
SarcasticAbby Posted January 8, 2014 Posted January 8, 2014 :confused: Where did this guy try to have sex with her? Maybe I missed what you apparently read. Seriously...some people are so insistent that it all boils down to sex. Ignore that post! However, he told you point blank he's not interested so why put yourself through that and reach out? There's tons of other guys that will have chemistry with you so take his word and let this one go. 1
Leigh 87 Posted January 8, 2014 Posted January 8, 2014 Here's the thing. I've gone out with women and the first date seemed like we hit it off swimmingly. It was clear from both sides there was interest. But then I get the "just not feeling it" when trying to setup date two. Or maybe it's date 3 or 4 and it happens. It's not about feeling "meh" it's about protecting yourself until you know for sure this is someone who really wants to be with you. I don't know where you live, but maybe it's just a product of living in a very big city and the mindset of many people that there might be something better around the corner. So in the interest of protecting my feelings and not getting too invested too early, it's better to wait it out and see what develops. Right now, I had am amazing first date with someone who I know is in to me and we are going out again this weekend. We've been texting and talking in between dates. I was setup by a mutual friend and the day after our date I texted him that I liked her and definitely wanted to see her again. That we really hit it off. He said she texted him the same thing the previous night. So it's seems perfectly clear she's interested, and I'm interested. However, I'm STILL not going all in, just yet. I'm still casually dating. If after the second or third date the feelings are still strong, I'll break off all other dating for this girl. But I certainly wouldn't do that after just one date. It's not about being "meh" it's about guarding yourself. That's how you do things. Personally, I don't casual date because once I really like someone, I simply don't want to date others. I prefer to see of it goes anywhere with date one. I tried keeping my options open and it backfired miserably. It's just not for me, and my current bf also doesn't multi date. We each need to do what works for us. 1
StanMusial Posted January 8, 2014 Posted January 8, 2014 I met this guy two weeks ago and he came up to me and introduced himself. We talked on facebook for a day and he asked me for my number, he ended up calling me and we talked on the phone for three hours. He texted me everyday first and every night he would call me and we would talk for 2-3 hours. I was sick and he texted me saying, check your front door and found that he left me soup, icecream, and a card. We saw each other in person a week later. He was such a gentleman, opening car doors for me, giving me his jacket etc. We saw a movie, ate a great dinner with few drinks and we just kissed and held hands. He said he wants to take things slow so no sex. He was set on taking things slow because he did not want to rush into a relationship. We got into a tiny argument about something stupid but he called me saying he wants to give it a shot. Well based on other threads I have been reading lately, this guy seems like a prince among men LOL. Some other chica probably got her claws into him.
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