from Posted January 7, 2014 Posted January 7, 2014 I've been with this girl for almost 2 months..we have just exchanged 'I love you's' even though we both admitted to wanting to say it earlier. I can't get her out of my head...I am so incredible into her on every level. When I see her, I want to talk to her and enjoy her company. Sex always comes second for me with her even though she is always trying to tear my clothes off. I can't stop myself from wanting to see her every single day. Both of our leases are up in about a month. I know that this is not logical and I know I won't even mention it to her but why can't I control my feelings in terms of wanting to experience her company daily. We already see each other 4ish nights a week and I just can't get enough. I don't even know what I'm looking for...advice or just someone to tell me I'm crazy.
regine_phalange Posted January 7, 2014 Posted January 7, 2014 Hello, sweet-thread guy! You are crazy; in love. Enjoy the addiction. Do whatever you feel like, if you both want it.
Author from Posted January 7, 2014 Author Posted January 7, 2014 Hello, sweet-thread guy! You are crazy; in love. Enjoy the addiction. Do whatever you feel like, if you both want it. Well, thing is...I didn't have the courage to tell her that I loved her first but boy was it a relief when she said it. She had actually said it twice in the last few weeks by accident and I could tell she was embarrassed so I never made anything of it. She was afraid to scare me off by telling me she loved me. Now I'm afraid to scare her off by asking her to move in with me..we haven't discussed it at all. I know that we are incredibly happy together but I do not want to invade her space.
Grumpybutfun Posted January 7, 2014 Posted January 7, 2014 Well, I think the euphoria of new relationships scare people, because of the potential pain of jumping off a cliff on faith, but.....well, my girl moved in with me after 3 months. So, logically I am aware I moved too fast for some people's comfort, but I have never been interested in what other people do with their days, just what is best for mine. We both knew our relationship was the forever kind. I married her a year later. We just celebrated our 20th year together and it was by far the best decision I have ever made. Eyes wide open, Grumps 1
Author from Posted January 7, 2014 Author Posted January 7, 2014 Well, I think the euphoria of new relationships scare people, because of the potential pain of jumping off a cliff on faith, but.....well, my girl moved in with me after 3 months. So, logically I am aware I moved too fast for some people's comfort, but I have never been interested in what other people do with their days, just what is best for mine. We both knew our relationship was the forever kind. I married her a year later. We just celebrated our 20th year together and it was by far the best decision I have ever made. Eyes wide open, Grumps How did you broach that subject with her? Had you spoken about it or did you just ask her one day?
Million.to.1 Posted January 7, 2014 Posted January 7, 2014 My boyfriend moved from the other side of the world after not having seen each other for 2.5 years. We met on holiday in south east asia and stayed in touch. We lived together from day 1 as we had to for visa/immagration reasons. and have moved house once in that time. Almost a year now! It's been FANTASTIC! If i were you, I would just openly talk to her about it. Maybe get something 2 bedroom (use the 2nd bedroom as a spare room) so that if the relationship doesn't work out, one of you could stay in the place you get and get flatmate to help with expenses. You do have to approach this maturely and realise that it will not necessarily be the perfect domestic bliss you hope for, but it's worth a shot. Just cover your bases and plan ahead so an exit strategy is there for either of you if needed. good luck!
Shepp Posted January 8, 2014 Posted January 8, 2014 Do you have to make it a big "broaching subject" type thing? Cant you just casually mention "what a coincidence it is both your leases are up at the same time?" Maybe "can she imagine what might happen if you guys believed in fate?" Y'know just plant the seed!
Grumpybutfun Posted January 8, 2014 Posted January 8, 2014 How did you broach that subject with her? Had you spoken about it or did you just ask her one day? Neither. She showed up at my door with her suitcase one day and never left. We just knew it was what we both wanted. We discuss everything but this and our engagement was just as obvious to us as breathing oxygen. Hard to explain until you experience it. G
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