GirlontheLam Posted January 7, 2014 Posted January 7, 2014 I've been seeing someone for a couple of weeks now, and we are on different spectrums in terms of affection and PDA.* On the whole love language spectrum, I am primarily touch and time (attention). And he is likely touch and words. Our relationship to date good news / bad news. Chemistry is good (instantaneous actually). I'm ready to hold hands all the time. He is ready to kiss all the time. So cliche. Give him a quiet corner ..... (the bad news) and I need to stop him from getting too carried away. I am pretty private. As for PDA, I like hugs, hand holding, and the old fashioned arm grab . Maybe a kiss on the cheek or forehead. He likes kissing in public and discrete caresses. Where is your PDA line? *He tries to tone it down. I stop him from escalating. I did humor him a bit in a quiet corner for a quick kiss on our last outing. I don't like watchful eyes.
MrCastle Posted January 7, 2014 Posted January 7, 2014 When I'm the spectator? I draw the line at hand holding. When I'm the participant? Anything past oral sex is probably a bit much. 2
Eclypse Posted January 7, 2014 Posted January 7, 2014 Pretty much what Castle said, as hypocritical as it may sound. We kiss all the time. We just forget everything exists. She'll peek around and if there's no one too close she'll grab my crotch too. I kinda stopped caring what others think. 3
DorkBreakfast Posted January 7, 2014 Posted January 7, 2014 It's easy enough to spot who's a couple without exchanging various fluids in public. I say let the tension build up for later on when you're alone.
hudson701 Posted January 7, 2014 Posted January 7, 2014 Be grateful that he lusts after you so ostensibly. You'll miss it when it's gone, it's a fantastic feeling to be wanted, forget all this old fashioned nonsense. My gf absolutely loves my over the top PDAs, picking her up, wrestling her to the floor in fits of laughter with EVERYONE looking. I can see the lust and want in her eyes as well. She often remarks "she's never felt so wanted" with a big smile spread across her face. Just enjoy it!
newmoon Posted January 7, 2014 Posted January 7, 2014 for myself and others I draw the line at roaming hands. as long as a couple is just kissing and holding hands, whatever, that's ok. even sneaking off for some kissing is cute, but when the hands start going all over the body... no
MrCastle Posted January 7, 2014 Posted January 7, 2014 for myself and others I draw the line at roaming hands. as long as a couple is just kissing and holding hands, whatever, that's ok. even sneaking off for some kissing is cute, but when the hands start going all over the body... no I struggle with this. I truly believe the ass has some sort of magnet in it that keeps my hand there. It's not my fault!
Author GirlontheLam Posted January 8, 2014 Author Posted January 8, 2014 On a side note, I find it fascinating that my PDA annoyance levels seem directly tied to the age group of the offending party....if I see a bunch of pre-teens/teens kissing or playing grab-ass in public, I get annoyed and think nothing but negative thoughts. If it's a middle aged couple I care a lot less and almost find it endearing, and if it's old people? Like some elderly gentlemen sneaks a squeeze on his wife in line at the grocery store? It IS endearing. And I don't know why. Haha! I think I am with you as well. It is awesome when you see a middle-aged couple and PDA. I get more annoyed when it is more obvious, like when someone is going way up someone's leg or skirt in a very open place. I am not so annoyed when it is in the corner, but like the middle of Starbucks? Um....way too much!
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