shazoo Posted January 7, 2014 Posted January 7, 2014 I had been seeing a married woman for about a year, I'm not proud that she was married but you can't help who you fall for. She said she was very unhappy in her marriage and wanted to leave her husband. The thing is we only used to see each other for a few hours a week, usually an hour here and there for lunch. We didn't sleep together and after a year of seeing her I began to wonder if she would ever leave her husband. I finished it with her out of frustration but immediately regretted it. I managed to be strong for a couple of weeks and not contact her but yesterday I tried to get get her back but she refused. Now I'm completely heartbroken and in bits. I know I must seem stupid to anyone reading this but please can you all reassure me that I'm better off without her and I was wasting my time
thefez Posted January 7, 2014 Posted January 7, 2014 Your in a sucky place right now. Ive recently made a similar blinder by accident. Stop take some time leave her for a bit.
PinkIsLove93 Posted January 7, 2014 Posted January 7, 2014 I can see understand how you would get really caught up in this situation. Not to be harsh, but chances are a year down the line, she is not leaving her husband. However, the silver lining for you my friend is that you just dodged a bullet. How can this become a satisfying relationship? Won't you always worry she'll run off with somebody else? Therefore, think of her as doing you a favour. Move on and I'm sure you will find somebody new!!
Luke12345 Posted January 7, 2014 Posted January 7, 2014 Let's put it this way. All works out fine, you get the damsel in distress, but this ain't no ordinary damsel. Your married say I dunno 5 years down the line. You continue married another 3, she gets bored, AGAIN, what's to say she doesn't see a guy behind YOUR back while your married. Hey presto you've just wasted almost 10 years of your life. By the way I'm speaking from a similar experience, I see my (now ex) girlfriend behind this guys back for a bit, she did break up with him for me though, turns out every time we broke up she was consoling in other guys almost the same day after the breakup, see the connection. P.S. if it was a whole year and she still hadnt left her husband she was never going to anyway.
pickflicker Posted January 7, 2014 Posted January 7, 2014 Unless you're willing to remain the other man forever (because if she didn't leave after a year, she wasn't leaving at all) - yes, you're better off without her.
fixing Posted January 8, 2014 Posted January 8, 2014 Yes, of course, you were better off without her. She is a disgusting cheater. You made a very bad decision getting involved with her in the first place. I mean you must have known straight away she was married right? Love or not, you walk away if she is in a relationship. (At least thats what i would do) Anyways, continue no contact, she isnt right for you! Go and get a woman who will give you her whole self. Good luck sir 1
Author shazoo Posted January 8, 2014 Author Posted January 8, 2014 Thanks for all your replies You made a very bad decision getting involved with her in the first place. I mean you must have known straight away she was married right? Love or not, you walk away if she is in a relationship. (At least thats what i would do) Good luck sir Yes I knew she was married. I didn't chase after her, she made a move on me but you're right, I should have walked away, I wish I could have had the resolve to do that at the time, I probably wouldn't be feeling like this now
flightplan Posted January 8, 2014 Posted January 8, 2014 This is a no brainer. You screwed up. This is not only a case of no contact, this is a case of walk the hell away and leave another man's wife alone. Let them repair their relationship and you stay the hell out of it. You may have gotten you heart broken, but this is the consequences of a very poor decision.
Chi townD Posted January 8, 2014 Posted January 8, 2014 I had been seeing a married woman for about a year, I'm not proud that she was married but you can't help who you fall for. She said she was very unhappy in her marriage and wanted to leave her husband. The thing is we only used to see each other for a few hours a week, usually an hour here and there for lunch. We didn't sleep together and after a year of seeing her I began to wonder if she would ever leave her husband. I finished it with her out of frustration but immediately regretted it. I managed to be strong for a couple of weeks and not contact her but yesterday I tried to get get her back but she refused. Now I'm completely heartbroken and in bits. I know I must seem stupid to anyone reading this but please can you all reassure me that I'm better off without her and I was wasting my time Yes, you are better off without her and you are wasting your time. What did you expect the final outcome to be? That she would leave husband, the man she promised herself to be with forever, to be with you? I'm not saying there's anything wrong with you, but if she would have been strong enough to cheat on her husband, she would have cheated on you too. She was never yours and you would have never been hers. You were nothing more than an ego boost for her. You were someone to make her feel like she was still desirable. Nothing more than that. So, write her off and STAY AWAY FROM MARRIED WOMEN!!!! Find a girl that is unattached and can devote herself to you and you alone. Those are more desirable relationships anyway.
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