I contacted my boyfriend's ex after he told me not to contact her. What will happen?

[pteromom]

I feel terribly used, isolated from friends and really low. I suppose the thought of him ping ponging back to his 2nd mother feels degrading. I'm not sure how to get over this feeling.

 

I can understand you feeling that way, and I am sorry.

 

Realize that his actions aren't based on anything YOU lack. They are based on his own lack of character and integrity.

 

There is nothing YOU could do that would turn him into a loving, faithful, generous man. That's not who he is.

 

So it is no loss that he is choosing someone else. Let her deal with him, and move on to someone who can give you what you want.

[carhill]

What will happen?

 

If you're exceedingly fortunate, this man will convalesce with his former partner, they will 'hit it off' and you'll never have contact with either of them again.

 

As a side note, I would sincerely enjoy a fleeting moment of having one iota of whatever this man has to apparently attract women so completely and with such boorish behavior. That's some awesome stuff.

[Toucan_Pecan2]

What will happen?

 

If you're exceedingly fortunate, this man will convalesce with his former partner, they will 'hit it off' and you'll never have contact with either of them again.

 

As a side note, I would sincerely enjoy a fleeting moment of having one iota of whatever this man has to apparently attract women so completely and with such boorish behavior. That's some awesome stuff.

 

Oh, he used to be romantic and wrote me poetry for over 1 year when I was younger. In a way he stalked me into submission and I later declined and went to study. He didn't take it well and said I ****ed up his life.

[d0nnivain]

My mother says it's a blessing if she takes him off my hands.

 

 

Your mother is a smart woman.

[ExpatInItaly]

Oh, he used to be romantic and wrote me poetry for over 1 year when I was younger. In a way he stalked me into submission and I later declined and went to study. He didn't take it well and said I ****ed up his life.

 

What a baby. Continue ignoring him.

 

Don't have any more contact with the ex, either. She's going to tell him all about it anyway. Don't give her any more insight into your personal life. It's not her business; this woman is not your ally.

[Toucan_Pecan2]

What a baby. Continue ignoring him.

 

Don't have any more contact with the ex, either. She's going to tell him all about it anyway. Don't give her any more insight into your personal life. It's not her business; this woman is not your ally.

 

I won't ring her again. I have no reason to now. He is probably complaining to the nurses that I have borderline personality disorder and I am ignoring him (aka 'splitting and devaluing' him) now.... he actually told me he spoke to two nurses about me being mentally ill.... the same day I helped him to walk for an hour when his intestines seized up. I then spent 2 hours in the bathroom with him while he pooped.

[FitChick]

You let him poop all over you, literally and metaphorically. "Let" is the operative word.

[Toucan_Pecan2]

You let him poop all over you, literally and metaphorically. "Let" is the operative word.

 

I've been like a frog getting boiled to death slowly. I acclimatized to a lot of bad things....

[Toucan_Pecan2]

Well - an update. He moved back in with his ex and announced he was going to drop me from his life because I refused to stay online to talk with him whilst he was living there. I decided to get on with my own life and socialize a lot.... Before he blocked me from everything he actually emailed me: "do you have anything to tell me?" Like I'm a naughty child who has to confess and seek penance for having a life.

[readynow]

Thank God he's gone.

 

Block him and never contact him again.

 

Ring UKBA to make sure he's never let back in!