mark2378lois Posted January 7, 2014 Posted January 7, 2014 my girlfriend (well ex) texted me today saying we need to talk,we been split up for two months but we still see each other alot and talk to each other alot,we still go on dates and have sex and say i love you friday i texted her saying happy 10 months, which was probably stupid since we aren't together lol but i felt like she would be upset if i didn't say it. Anyway she texted me today saying "we need to met up at some point alone and talk about some things. don't ask me to tell you or ask questions because i won't. i'm not 100% on what it is yet so ill just leave it at that" what do you think she means? 1)did she find another guy 2)was she creeped out i said happy 8 months? 3)does she want to get back together? 4) she wants me out of her life? 5)or something else i know for fact nothing has changed between us. she called me twice sunday and twice yesterday, in fact she wanted me to go out to eat with her yesterday what ya think?
truth_seeker Posted January 7, 2014 Posted January 7, 2014 I feel bad that you love her because she doesn't love you. That "happy 10 months" did it. She was content just having you around until the next guy came along, but with that comment you made her realize she has to let you go now.
Author mark2378lois Posted January 7, 2014 Author Posted January 7, 2014 I feel bad that you love her because she doesn't love you. That "happy 10 months" did it. She was content just having you around until the next guy came along, but with that comment you made her realize she has to let you go now. why you say that?
MrMeh Posted January 7, 2014 Posted January 7, 2014 It could be any of those. You know her personality and history of your relationship. From this you could try to deduce what she is thinking about.
Grumpybutfun Posted January 7, 2014 Posted January 7, 2014 It is impossible to know what she means....however, in agreement that you two need to talk. You can't break up and then do everything you did before you broke up and there not be some confusion there. You need to get on the same page. Regardless of what she says, you need to tell her exactly what you want and then work to see if you two can align your expectations for the relationship. Your needs matter too so ask for what you want and need. Best, G 1
ExpatInItaly Posted January 7, 2014 Posted January 7, 2014 My guess is that she is dating - or wants to date - other guys. If it were good news she wanted to talk about, she likely would have already shared it with you. Just my 2 cents.
Author mark2378lois Posted January 7, 2014 Author Posted January 7, 2014 if it's because i said happy eight months..oh man..i only said it because we talked about it the night before...
Author mark2378lois Posted January 7, 2014 Author Posted January 7, 2014 it's just confusing how she said we need to talk but she isn't 100% about what it is
truth_seeker Posted January 7, 2014 Posted January 7, 2014 why you say that? Any time someone in a relationship says "we need to talk" it's not good. 1
Author mark2378lois Posted January 7, 2014 Author Posted January 7, 2014 i'm just worried my happy 8 months creeped her out
ExpatInItaly Posted January 7, 2014 Posted January 7, 2014 i'm just worried my happy 8 months creeped her out I doubt that's all there is to it. I think you're putting too much weight into that comment, especially if you'd chatted about that the night before. Don't focus on that too much.
Versacehottie Posted January 7, 2014 Posted January 7, 2014 I think the semantics of her message can be VERY telling> If her words are "we NEED to talk". To me, that indicates a NEED to set something straight. To either clarify, impart some new information (a new bf or life situation) or put an ultimatum on you (like we can't keep doing this, i want to be together or not speak to you at all). So even in that case, all scenarios aren't BAD. Because I get the feeling that you want to be back together with her. if her words are "i WANT to talk to you". To me, that signifies that she will make a plea for something. Probably to get back together. This may also come in the form of an ultimatum. Her multiple phone calls indicate that it's urgent enough for her to blow up your phone. Maybe she's pregnant...ok just kidding...I hope. Good luck.
Frank2thepoint Posted January 7, 2014 Posted January 7, 2014 "we need to met up at some point alone and talk about some things. don't ask me to tell you or ask questions because i won't. i'm not 100% on what it is yet so ill just leave it at that" Maybe she could be pregnant with your child?
Author mark2378lois Posted January 7, 2014 Author Posted January 7, 2014 Maybe she could be pregnant with your child? highly doubt that
Woop1337 Posted January 7, 2014 Posted January 7, 2014 It's over, well it's been over for two months. So I don't know what she wants to talk about. You could've spent the past two months getting over her but nope you stayed in that situation. She'll probably put a halt on whatever this thing you guys got going on. I suggest don't even go to this talk with her. Delete her number and disappear from her life.
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