polynomial Posted January 7, 2014 Posted January 7, 2014 It's like people want relationships but don't you dare get sick or have an injury or they will leave you. What is the point anyway? You get married, then something happens to either one of you and then all that continues is just agonising years for the healthy partner (from what I've read). People who make it through life healthy, you are lucky! Couples who make it through life, you are double lucky. But many people are not lucky and shxt happens and it all just seems so pointless because noone is actually willing to stick around for you when shxt hits the fan.
Philosoraptor Posted January 7, 2014 Posted January 7, 2014 Just means you haven't met the right person for you. The right person will stick around and not bail when issues occur.
Author polynomial Posted January 7, 2014 Author Posted January 7, 2014 Just means you haven't met the right person for you. The right person will stick around and not bail when issues occur. but realistically speaking, if people have to be 20+ years in a marriage (say you were perfectly healthy when you got married) where the other person is constantly sick, how many would stick with you/not want to get out?
Philosoraptor Posted January 7, 2014 Posted January 7, 2014 That all comes down to love, emotion, and strength. Some people wouldn't flinch at the thought while others would cower. Personally I would do whatever necessary to take care of my partner.
Grumpybutfun Posted January 7, 2014 Posted January 7, 2014 but realistically speaking, if people have to be 20+ years in a marriage (say you were perfectly healthy when you got married) where the other person is constantly sick, how many would stick with you/not want to get out? I see healthy SOs stick around and support and love their sick partners all the time. Maybe it is because I am a little older than most here but I find it completely the opposite...most couples fight through issues and really work towards being together and helping the other. The military community I used to be a part of seemed dysfunctional in terms of longevity and cheating, but since getting out and being part of the civilian community, I mostly see genuine couples working through financial, health and family issues with very little fanfare. I have been married for 20 years and taking care of my spouse is my priority, regardless of what health issues arise. I think it only becomes a problem if you are selfish and immature or if your partner refuses to help themselves so you are dealing with someone who refuses treatment, or constantly complains and makes everything about their illness, though there aren't any outward proof of an illness by a professional. That is more of a hypochondria issue though and I suppose that could become a problem though I have known many people who have stuck by their spouses in those instances too because it became a depression, psychological problem. Sometimes people are lacking themselves in empathy or compassion, but mostly I see people really struggling trying to hold everything together. Only they don't complain and silently suffer so we aren't aware of what is really going on behind closed doors. There are more heroes in these sickness and health situations than we probably ever know about because they know what they have to do so they do it in silence, taking care of not only an ill spouse but finances, children, and households. IMHO, G
Eau Claire Posted January 7, 2014 Posted January 7, 2014 (edited) It's like people want relationships but don't you dare get sick or have an injury or they will leave you. What is the point anyway? You get married, then something happens to either one of you and then all that continues is just agonising years for the healthy partner (from what I've read). People who make it through life healthy, you are lucky! Couples who make it through life, you are double lucky. But many people are not lucky and shxt happens and it all just seems so pointless because noone is actually willing to stick around for you when shxt hits the fan. Healthy people are not always 'lucky'. I have never preen overweight. I have never smoked...never did any drugs. I exercise and NEVER eat fast food. I'm approaching 60 and am 100% healthy....no aches, no meds. Yes, shxt can happen. As a nurse I see it everyday. However, if you do everything in life to keep yourself healthy then, if shxt happens, one is way more likely to have less issues with it. Also, those around you also are likely to want to be there for you. From my experience family members do not abandon the sick. They stick with them and often on make huge sacrifices in their own lives. When a patient gets sick they are the same person...may have been an a hole before and still are. May have been a nice person and still are. Family and friends of nice people are usually there for them as needed. Edited January 7, 2014 by Eau Claire
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