Sabrina88 Posted January 7, 2014 Posted January 7, 2014 My boyfriend left me for my friend he met when we were in a relation.It's been 7 months but still feels like yesterday..I don't know why but i am not able to get over him...i am no longer in touch with my ex bf or that friend...never tried to contact them after i came to know that all this time...my bf was just showing fake love and emotions... Still trying to find answers for all the whys.... I recently got a news that he's getting engaged to my friend in 18 days I don't know what to do... How can someone treat you bad and you still miss that person and love that person like anything....He did really bad with me like 1.He was in long distance relation with me for 2 years and den when we decided to meet each other he was loving towards me till he met my friend and fall for her 2.He didn't broke off with me even though he was clear in his mind that he doesn't love me...he kept talking to me just to get info about my friend as he was not in contact with her directly. 3.He broke off with me without giving me any reason and after 2 weeks hook up with that friend of mine...and now they are getting engaged in 18 days.... I don't know why but i still miss my ex a lot...Can't imagine how someone can pretend to be in love with you ....Please let me know how can i forget him
mantlefan Posted January 7, 2014 Posted January 7, 2014 I don't think you can fully forget him, but you can get over him. I thought my ex dumped me because we couldn't agree on kids. 5 months later (just a week ago!) I find out from my friend that she probably dumped me, at least partly, to be with him. I don't really know any of the how or why. Did she dump me for him and kids were just an excuse? Did she dump me for kids and he happened to be there when the dust settled? Or was it a mix of kids and having feelings for him? I will probably never know. That must especially hurt that it looks like he used you to get to your friend. My friend was listening to me talk about my ex, listening to me say all the ways I wish I had been better to her. My friend now is basically going after her, and she has been after him for months! I guess I gave him a lot of good tips. It makes me sick to think about. Take some solace in the fact that he is such a profound jerk that it's good that you are rid of him. That anyone worth being with is going to treat you much better than that. 1
Fufu Posted January 7, 2014 Posted January 7, 2014 My boyfriend left me for my friend he met when we were in a relation.It's been 7 months but still feels like yesterday..I don't know why but i am not able to get over him...i am no longer in touch with my ex bf or that friend...never tried to contact them after i came to know that all this time...my bf was just showing fake love and emotions... Still trying to find answers for all the whys.... I recently got a news that he's getting engaged to my friend in 18 days I don't know what to do... How can someone treat you bad and you still miss that person and love that person like anything....He did really bad with me like 1.He was in long distance relation with me for 2 years and den when we decided to meet each other he was loving towards me till he met my friend and fall for her 2.He didn't broke off with me even though he was clear in his mind that he doesn't love me...he kept talking to me just to get info about my friend as he was not in contact with her directly. 3.He broke off with me without giving me any reason and after 2 weeks hook up with that friend of mine...and now they are getting engaged in 18 days.... I don't know why but i still miss my ex a lot...Can't imagine how someone can pretend to be in love with you ....Please let me know how can i forget him First of all, you have to accept your relationship with this person is over. Nothing will help you if linger yourself in this situation for far too long. You ask to forget him, but are your actions helping you to forget him? Or do you see yourself spending lots of time thinking of him or asking yourself tons of questions why he leave you? (see the irony?) When not so good things happened, take it as a blessings in disguise. Why be with a person who doesn't cherish you and wants to be with you for real?
Author Sabrina88 Posted January 8, 2014 Author Posted January 8, 2014 First of all, you have to accept your relationship with this person is over. Nothing will help you if linger yourself in this situation for far too long. You ask to forget him, but are your actions helping you to forget him? Or do you see yourself spending lots of time thinking of him or asking yourself tons of questions why he leave you? (see the irony?) When not so good things happened, take it as a blessings in disguise. Why be with a person who doesn't cherish you and wants to be with you for real? I know i am not helping myself by thinking most of the time about him...but i still can't accept this fact that he did this to me...I had tonnes of trust on him...that it might be the case that due to family circumstances we might not end up together...but i never thought even in my dreams that he will dump me for a girl n that to none other then my friend...which makes me think that..there must be something missing in me...or he never loved me ..that's y he took this step to leave me and chose her ..don't know how to get rid of all this
julzfromsa Posted January 8, 2014 Posted January 8, 2014 Sabrina 1) Acceptance - This is probably the most important thing you can do for yourself right now. I had a problem with accepting that my Fiance had left me. One day, I just didn't get up, didn't shower, didn't go to work and i said to myself over and over again that, "A" - She doesn't love me anymore. "B" - She is not coming back. "C" - If i do not make a concerted effort to fix myself and become better, then she has destroyed me. Refuse for that to happen. Love yourself enough to just accept the fact they are gone. 2) After you have accepted it, the pain doesn't go away, but it gets better. Now you can focus your energy on yourself and not the "why". 3) You will find someone that loves you, for you and by that time, you will love yourself so much more. I have faith in you. Julz 2
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