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AnyaNova Posted January 7, 2014 Posted January 7, 2014 Looking back on it, I wish I would've just hung the damn phone up. I argued the breakup with my ex as well. I wish I would have hung up the damn phone as well and saved my dignity! 1
julzfromsa Posted January 8, 2014 Posted January 8, 2014 i think crummage is a control thing just as someone said previously. "Well she contacted me last" therefore i win! Feels good for a second, but you feel **** the next day. Just makes you end up wanting more. Stay Strong 2
fixing Posted January 8, 2014 Posted January 8, 2014 Why want a breadcrumb off your ex when you can get a 3 course meal and Strawberry icecream from another person? Breadcrumbs, they dont quench your appetite they just make you hungrier. 6
LostConfused123 Posted January 8, 2014 Posted January 8, 2014 Do you think we want a breadcrumb so that we can take back control? i.e. That we can say no thanks to them and then be on the control side rather than the dumper side which tends to be more loss of control and therefore scarier?.. Worth a thought. This was definitely the case for me in the beginning. Then I got one and washed it down with a jug of wine. . . It wasn't pretty. Now that I have been getting so much stronger with hardcore NC, like Mtnbiker said, it would piss me off!!!
LadyM Posted January 8, 2014 Posted January 8, 2014 It's so weird how yesterday, in this thread, I posted that I'd love a breadcrumb and the very same night I got one. My ex texted to tell me about the death of a family friend of his who I knew and there was some brief interaction between us. Part of me feels good that I am on his mind even for a minute and he would reach out about this news. But the bigger part of me feels so empty and sad that after he texted me, he likely fell into the arms of the woman he dumped me for. And now, my memory of him is so vivid and fresh again. And the insane part of me so badly wished he would have told me he missed me and wants me back. 1
LostConfused123 Posted January 8, 2014 Posted January 8, 2014 It's so weird how yesterday, in this thread, I posted that I'd love a breadcrumb and the very same night I got one. My ex texted to tell me about the death of a family friend of his who I knew and there was some brief interaction between us. Part of me feels good that I am on his mind even for a minute and he would reach out about this news. But the bigger part of me feels so empty and sad that after he texted me, he likely fell into the arms of the woman he dumped me for. And now, my memory of him is so vivid and fresh again. And the insane part of me so badly wished he would have told me he missed me and wants me back. Aw! I'm sorry you're hurting I can understand why. I think that's why the crumbs suck so bad. They are never what we want and are never satisfied. Sending you big hugs!!! 2
LadyM Posted January 8, 2014 Posted January 8, 2014 Aw! I'm sorry you're hurting I can understand why. I think that's why the crumbs suck so bad. They are never what we want and are never satisfied. Sending you big hugs!!! Thanks so much....you're a dear!!!
devastated777 Posted January 8, 2014 Posted January 8, 2014 Just checking in on ya Poly. still feeling like that? I am having those feelings too. the more I'm around other guys, the more I want to go back, even though I too know, it just wouldnt be the same. Life is so hard.
Author polynomial Posted January 8, 2014 Author Posted January 8, 2014 Just checking in on ya Poly. still feeling like that? I am having those feelings too. the more I'm around other guys, the more I want to go back, even though I too know, it just wouldnt be the same. Life is so hard. Hey. i was just about to reply..8th day of NC 1.5 months post BU) and im sill waiting for a message.. dont get me wrong tho, i realise any message other than "i miss you" would suck, so i guess its not a breadcrumb im waiting.. im waiting him to tell me he kisses me.. still thi.ks about me..its getting me nowhere, i know..
Author polynomial Posted January 8, 2014 Author Posted January 8, 2014 I meant "misses" not "kisses" lol damn phone
Author polynomial Posted January 8, 2014 Author Posted January 8, 2014 It's so weird how yesterday, in this thread, I posted that I'd love a breadcrumb and the very same night I got one. My ex texted to tell me about the death of a family friend of his who I knew and there was some brief interaction between us. Part of me feels good that I am on his mind even for a minute and he would reach out about this news. But the bigger part of me feels so empty and sad that after he texted me, he likely fell into the arms of the woman he dumped me for. And now, my memory of him is so vivid and fresh again. And the insane part of me so badly wished he would have told me he missed me and wants me back. I was thinking about this when i read your thread. so sorry about your pain, hang in there!
David87 Posted January 8, 2014 Posted January 8, 2014 It's so weird how yesterday, in this thread, I posted that I'd love a breadcrumb and the very same night I got one. My ex texted to tell me about the death of a family friend of his who I knew and there was some brief interaction between us. Part of me feels good that I am on his mind even for a minute and he would reach out about this news. But the bigger part of me feels so empty and sad that after he texted me, he likely fell into the arms of the woman he dumped me for. And now, my memory of him is so vivid and fresh again. And the insane part of me so badly wished he would have told me he missed me and wants me back. Hang in there LadyM, we are all here for you. 2
somedude81 Posted January 8, 2014 Posted January 8, 2014 My ex hasn't contacted me once since she dumped me a month ago. Since any contact from her would give me hope that she'd come back to me, not contacting me when she doesn't want to come back is the best thing she can do. Of course I want her back and I immediately think every text I get is from her, but I quickly realize that there is no way it would be her. Miracles don't happen.
David87 Posted January 8, 2014 Posted January 8, 2014 My ex hasn't contacted me once since she dumped me a month ago. Since any contact from her would give me hope that she'd come back to me, not contacting me when she doesn't want to come back is the best thing she can do. Of course I want her back and I immediately think every text I get is from her, but I quickly realize that there is no way it would be her. Miracles don't happen. Somedude seriously, your ex contacting you it's not a miracle. Better yet it's a disaster. 2
mtnbiker3000 Posted January 8, 2014 Posted January 8, 2014 dont get me wrong tho, i realise any message other than "i miss you" would suck, so i guess its not a breadcrumb im waiting.. im waiting him to tell me he misses me.. still thi.ks about me..its getting me nowhere, i know.. Actually, these are the WORST kind of breadcrumbs. Be THANKFUL you haven't got one of these. These do the most damage. The only thing you want to hear is an apology followed by the most sincere request for reconciliation you can imagine. Everything else is solely for the dumper and nothing for you. 4
LadyM Posted January 8, 2014 Posted January 8, 2014 Hang in there LadyM, we are all here for you. Thanks, David! It really is a great comfort that we all have somewhere to go where others can empathize and help with the acute heartache of letting go. 1
somedude81 Posted January 8, 2014 Posted January 8, 2014 Somedude seriously, your ex contacting you it's not a miracle. Better yet it's a disaster. Uh, the miracle would be her contacting me telling me that she wants to get back together.
headinthecloud Posted January 8, 2014 Posted January 8, 2014 Uh, the miracle would be her contacting me telling me that she wants to get back together. Dude...let her go. It's not gonna happen. Save yourself the pain and humiliation. Even if you did get back together she would be settling for you and would probably dump you again anyways because she doesn't truly value you. Please stop this ridiculous thinking and move on. ...and breadcrumbs suck...they always set you back so be thankful you don't get them. 5
mantlefan Posted January 8, 2014 Posted January 8, 2014 Dude...let her go. It's not gonna happen. Save yourself the pain and humiliation. Even if you did get back together she would be settling for you and would probably dump you again anyways because she doesn't truly value you. Please stop this ridiculous thinking and move on. ...and breadcrumbs suck...they always set you back so be thankful you don't get them. Thanks for this. I miss my ex so much, but it's starting to become real that the person who dumped me for my friend (and kept me strung along for 4 months afterwards while I hung out with this friend and talked to him about the breakup while neither of them told me what was going on between them) is NOT the girl I loved and would have dove in front of a train for. She tossed me out after our first major rough patch in a 5 year RS. It's hard to believe sometimes, but I think someday I am going to realize that I dodged a bullet. 1
somedude81 Posted January 8, 2014 Posted January 8, 2014 Dude...let her go. It's not gonna happen. mir·a·cle (mr-kl) n. 1. An event that appears inexplicable by the laws of nature and so is held to be supernatural in origin or an act of God: "Miracles are spontaneous, they cannot be summoned, but come of themselves" (Katherine Anne Porter).
pickflicker Posted January 8, 2014 Posted January 8, 2014 Actually, these are the WORST kind of breadcrumbs. Be THANKFUL you haven't got one of these. These do the most damage. The only thing you want to hear is an apology followed by the most sincere request for reconciliation you can imagine. Everything else is solely for the dumper and nothing for you. Well said, if your ex is going to contact you, it better be extremely specific. And if they are desperate to get back with you, ignoring their first few attempts (at least!) shouldn't discourage them. Urgh, the "I miss you" breadcrumb - it's like a dagger to the heart. 2
mantlefan Posted January 8, 2014 Posted January 8, 2014 Urgh, the "I miss you" breadcrumb - it's like a dagger to the heart. If I fall for that one I want you all to promise me to give me 1000 paper cuts with sheets of paper that have "I miss you" typed on them. 3
pickflicker Posted January 8, 2014 Posted January 8, 2014 If I fall for that one I want you all to promise me to give me 1000 paper cuts with sheets of paper that have "I miss you" typed on them. Oh, the power!! Consider it done!
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