Frank2thepoint Posted January 8, 2014 Posted January 8, 2014 I spotted this very bored cute guy who was giving away paper advertisements for laser hair removal. He stopped me, gave me a paper, and said "thank you". He was so not smiling. I read it, and then turned back and told him very seriously "I'm a goddess, I don't need that!" (well, in fact I do, who doesnt? but you get my point). He froze, as he thought I was deadly serious. He replied "Yes, you are a goddess allright". I walked away, looked at him with a big smile, the kind that means "Come on, I'm kidding". It was INFECTIOUS. He was also smiling like stupid and was like "hey wait! What's your name? Heeeeeeey! Come back!". While 3 minutes ago he was "meh". I sure made his day, and he surely made mine. If I was that guy, I wouldn't of yelled "Heeeeeeey! Come back!" I would of ran after you, grabbed you by the arm, said "Hey goddess, how about a drink and some conversation?". But you know, that's what a Pisces man would do when chasing a Scorpio woman. 1
Frank2thepoint Posted January 8, 2014 Posted January 8, 2014 As a man who's almost 50, I really think that's part of the problem. Young pups today think all they should have to do is friend someone on social networking site or send a txt or two and a relationship and tons of sex will fall into their lap. There were socially awkward teens and early 20something's 30 years ago too and there was no online dating or networking sites etc. People had to talk to each other face to face. When people decided their loneliness and frustration outweighed their shyness, they walked up to a girl an talked to her. Indeed you are correct. But I can appreciate the some of the merits OLD, or some other digital means, can provide in helping to find a love interest more suited for you, as opposed to blindly wading through dates with random strangers. But it still relies on the person to make an effort instead of curling up into a ball and quitting on life.
oldshirt Posted January 8, 2014 Posted January 8, 2014 Indeed you are correct. But I can appreciate the some of the merits OLD, or some other digital means, can provide in helping to find a love interest more suited for you, as opposed to blindly wading through dates with random strangers. But it still relies on the person to make an effort instead of curling up into a ball and quitting on life. I don't want to imply that there is anything fundamentally wrong with OLD or that people shouldn't have that in their tool box also. If I were to become single again I would give OLD as honest an effort as anything else. My point is teens and early-20s have come to rely on digital communication to the point where they think if they don't have 20 people sexting them and sending them boobie pictures after the first wink or two, that they are failing at love and are all washed up and doomed to life of solitude at 23. As a generation they have electronic skills and technical know-how but don't know how to look someone in the eye, open their mouths and relate to someone interpersonally in the flesh and for the time being anyway, love and relationships are still an in-the-flesh proposition. Having digital skills is important in this day and age, but closing the deal still requires face to face interaction and many people don't know how to interrelate to the opposite sex in the real world. 1
Author Camaro Guy Posted January 8, 2014 Author Posted January 8, 2014 I don't want to imply that there is anything fundamentally wrong with OLD or that people shouldn't have that in their tool box also. If I were to become single again I would give OLD as honest an effort as anything else. My point is teens and early-20s have come to rely on digital communication to the point where they think if they don't have 20 people sexting them and sending them boobie pictures after the first wink or two, that they are failing at love and are all washed up and doomed to life of solitude at 23. As a generation they have electronic skills and technical know-how but don't know how to look someone in the eye, open their mouths and relate to someone interpersonally in the flesh and for the time being anyway, love and relationships are still an in-the-flesh proposition. Having digital skills is important in this day and age, but closing the deal still requires face to face interaction and many people don't know how to interrelate to the opposite sex in the real world. I do not expect women to be sending pictures of their boobs after the first interaction. All I'm saying is from where I'm standing, it doesn't seem like much is going to change for me. I got started on the wrong foot genetically because I'm not that facially attractive. People always say my mom (especially my mom) and dad are attractive so I don't know how I came out the way I did. My mom's friends say I'm handsome but that doesn't mean much coming from older women. I just want success with my own age group and easy, flawless interactions with women where I win every time like my friends. But that doesn't happen in the real world.
Philosoraptor Posted January 8, 2014 Posted January 8, 2014 I do not expect women to be sending pictures of their boobs after the first interaction. All I'm saying is from where I'm standing, it doesn't seem like much is going to change for me. I got started on the wrong foot genetically because I'm not that facially attractive. People always say my mom (especially my mom) and dad are attractive so I don't know how I came out the way I did. My mom's friends say I'm handsome but that doesn't mean much coming from older women. I just want success with my own age group and easy, flawless interactions with women where I win every time like my friends. But that doesn't happen in the real world. Oh your friends don't win every time either. Either they are preying on the needy and insecure or they are just telling you about the good times. No one wins them all and no one bats 1.000. But you'll never get a hit if you don't get up to the plate and start swinging. You'll help yourself by not starting a conversation looking to hook a woman, but just to get to know them. You'll be surprised how many women you'll choose to end the conversation with "have a nice day" versus "want to go out sometime?" by just talking with them. 1
oldshirt Posted January 8, 2014 Posted January 8, 2014 I got started on the wrong foot genetically because I'm not that facially attractive. People always say my mom (especially my mom) and dad are attractive so I don't know how I came out the way I did.. Do you have any actual deformities or disfigurement? What's an actual deformity/disfigurement???? Something that a doctor has looked at and discussed correcting. Do you have anything like that?
Revolver Posted January 8, 2014 Posted January 8, 2014 Yeah but I kinda accepted it. I'm about to start my career after graduation this year, make good money so that will probably take my mind of it.
Author Camaro Guy Posted January 10, 2014 Author Posted January 10, 2014 Yeah but I kinda accepted it. I'm about to start my career after graduation this year, make good money so that will probably take my mind of it. Yeah I've dedicated myself to international travel and business instead. One of my goals in life is to be really, really rich. What's your career?
ponchsox Posted January 11, 2014 Posted January 11, 2014 If you are active, social, and have hobbies someone will come into your life when you least expect it. Being single is ok, but don't count on it forever.
sugarpea Posted January 11, 2014 Posted January 11, 2014 Hey Camaro Guy Don't give up! But don't force it either. It tends to just happen when you least expect it. Just be you and enjoy yourself, it is very sexy when a guy is just comfortable being themselves and having fun and not trying to impress someone. In terms of women insinuating things, not all women do this, some are really shy and wait for the guy to approach them. It's only comfortable/confident women that tends to do this. Just go out with friends have fun, or get some hobbies or join some dating sites - by the way just suggestions not sure what you'd be into. Also just to say I don't think you will be alone forever, and it's too soon to think that way you're 23! Also I think if you concentrate on being happy yourself you'll find that life is more fulfilled, it's way better to be happy and single than in a relationship and miserable. Better to wait out and find true love. Hope this helps
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