Jason0291 Posted January 7, 2014 Posted January 7, 2014 I have known this girl for the past year we go to college together, but I told her I liked her and everything but she never flirts back with me and she never reciprocates. I tried to kiss her and I stopped with that cause she would just let me kiss on her cheek. She would text me randomly sometimes and she always seemed like she cared cause I was having issues with my family and she always told me how much she cares and to call or text her, but when i ask her out she declined me and she seems weirdly resistant with me. I said to her wanna makeout? and she would just laugh. She has done favors for me though and has helped me out with alot of things, and she even told me she has "loyalty" to me, but yet she won't go out with me and she won't flirt back, kiss me, or anything. The most she does is hugs me. She always sticks up for me though and always helps me out with issues with my family and with favors, that is what is weird to me the most. Cause if I am "cool" "funny" etc etc to her then why not date me? She doesn't text me first, I always text and call her first, but everytime she is always nice and friendly and she offers advice and help. Also when I say I love you to her she never says it back. She will just smile or not say anything. so what's the deal with this girl? I don't understand her and these mixed signals? any advice?
CC12 Posted January 7, 2014 Posted January 7, 2014 I don't understand her and these mixed signals? any advice? I think the "mixed signals" you're picking up on are simply her being a good friend to you. Friends care about you and will listen to your family issues and offer advice and do favors for you. Friends sometimes hug you or even kiss you on the cheek. It's what friends do. You're not picking up on her signals that pretty clearly say "I only like you as a friend." She declines when you ask her out, doesn't flirt with you, doesn't kiss you on the lips, doesn't say "I love you" back, etc. She does not want to be romantic with you. So I'd suggest that you stop with the "I love you" stuff and asking her if she wants to make out, even if you're joking about it. It probably makes her uncomfortable. Just be a normal friend to her, like she's trying to do with you. 2
WordvAction Posted January 8, 2014 Posted January 8, 2014 She's giving you literally zero mixed signals; in fact, she's pretty clear that she's not interested in you. Take the friendship or leave it; don't expect anything more because you won't get anything more.
preraph Posted January 8, 2014 Posted January 8, 2014 I gotta agree with everyone else. She's a nice girl who believes in being nice to people but isn't attracted to you at all in a romantic way and nothing you can do will change that. She's been very firm about it and more tolerant than most women would be with your continuing to push yourself on her. If you want to stay friends, you need to stop coming on to her. If you can't handle being friends, you need to stop going around her and move on.
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