I took him back and he did the same thing six months later...and BLAMED ME

[rosedl]

Broke up with me a little over a year after we started going out. Blamed me, told me I was violent (I got really LEGITIMATELY angry about being strung along about some things and told him off, I yelled a bit and called him out, it was not violent but he has never had a woman stand up to him, the bully). Three months later, we got back together. He loved me so much. He was a fool. He had all this personal insight into himself and how he had behaved with me and told me he was going to earn my trust back. He started backtracking in small ways from the beginning, but he was really good to me and I was so happy to be back with him. By the fall, he started to retract again when I got upset over some confusing boundaries. We had a couple fights and discussions and I would think things were resolved and then, he would throw it in my face and go back to vacillating about whether he should remain single. Then, he needed space to think. Then, he broke up with me and blamed me. The only account he would take at all was admitting he had different needs. If you are in a relationship with a commitment phobic person, I understand that this is the cycle.

 

Be careful, if you decide to reconcile with someone. Issues don't magically go away.

[polynomial]

Been there, done that. Me and my ex broke up and got together 4 times before the final 5th time dump (he was the dumper always and I came crawling back 1-2 weeks later). It hurts really bad but I MUST accept the fact that we're just not compatible and this time we will not be getting back together again.

 

Now is the time for you, too, to accept that you two will probably never work out, especially in the near future. Try to move on. I know it's hard and takes time but you'll get there.

[rosedl]

I am not expecting to get back together.

 

He doesn't want a committed relationship and he is a fair weather friend. He just wants to climb mountains, ski, and ride his bike and he wants me to disappear when he is bored of it.

 

Not a good candidate for any type of intimate relationship beyond FWB. And, not even that, he can't be the F Friend part.

 

I don't want him back anymore. And, I am surprised that is the case. I thought he was my soul mate and now, I feel like maybe I never knew him at all.

[Trapito]

Ugh! What an asshat! Block him on everything to prevent him from ever contacting you again. He will be contacting you again when he wants to go rock climbing again (or if he's in need of a warm body). He will drop you like a hot potato when he's had enough of you, and you will be scratching your head again.