Mariposa10 Posted January 7, 2014 Posted January 7, 2014 I just got home from my first date in almost half of a decade! ( I was with my ex for many years). It went really well!! It's been almost 6 months since my breakup. I finally felt a little bit ready to be on a date. I am not looking for a serious relationship. So I am not expecting too much from this situation. This is a post for all of you who have recently been dumped. For those who feel like all hope is gone. THINGS DO GET BETTER. I went through hell last year. I couldn't eat. I couldn't focus. I couldn't sleep. I had insomnia and would cry at night. I had panic attacks. Am I completely over the entire situation? NO. But things are much better now. I haven't felt like crap in a couple of months. There's light at the end of the tunnel!!! 26
fixing Posted January 7, 2014 Posted January 7, 2014 Thats awesome news!!! Im delighted for you. Let us know how your next date goes!!!!!
LovelyDaze Posted January 7, 2014 Posted January 7, 2014 Way to go, Mariposa! Just have fun without pressure.
organizedchaos Posted January 7, 2014 Posted January 7, 2014 I just got home from my first date in almost half of a decade! ( I was with my ex for many years). It went really well!! It's been almost 6 months since my breakup. I finally felt a little bit ready to be on a date. I am not looking for a serious relationship. So I am not expecting too much from this situation. This is a post for all of you who have recently been dumped. For those who feel like all hope is gone. THINGS DO GET BETTER. I went through hell last year. I couldn't eat. I couldn't focus. I couldn't sleep. I had insomnia and would cry at night. I had panic attacks. Am I completely over the entire situation? NO. But things are much better now. I haven't felt like crap in a couple of months. There's light at the end of the tunnel!!! GOod for you! and I agree. Its been 6 months for me too. I went through everything you did. But I've been doing a little dating for two months with no real success, until now. I met someone and we really clicked on our first date. Going out again and we've been talking since the first date alot. She's the first since my bu to have potential. so yes, it does get better! 1
ponchsox Posted January 7, 2014 Posted January 7, 2014 Absolutely there is! And it turns out even better!
Author Mariposa10 Posted January 7, 2014 Author Posted January 7, 2014 Yesterday the guy thanked our mutual friend (the one who introduced each other) for introducing me to him. He said he had fun. I had a lot of fun too. We couldn't stop talking, and laughing. I think we laughed too much? And we didn't drink any alcohol! We didn't even have time to eat!! Like I said, I'm not expecting too much. I'm enjoying everything. I thought it was gonna be a little bit awkward since I had never met him in person, but we had been online friends. We met for the first time yesterday. He was waiting for me at the cafe... when I saw him I started feeling really excited. I'm really attracted to him physically and we have a lot in common. This sounds like it's gonna be fun! 1
WYSWYG Posted January 7, 2014 Posted January 7, 2014 (edited) I 2nd this post and I wish you well Mariposa..... For the rest of the readers here; keep your head up and I can assure you that the BU emotional roller-coaster ride will stop. I had a terrible time in 2011. Back then, I was going to re-ignite my failing romance for Christmas. Two days before Christmas eve, she was drunk/crying for me on the phone but when I got to her apartment this dude opened the door! Three weeks later, I went to give her, her belongings back only to hear them having sex! That was "the most awful day in my life" noted on my calendar. Hated/missed her for the next 4 miserable months. They broke up a year later. I stayed in touch and became good friends again. Even mutually supportive during rough times. I had a BU w/ my recent RS last Nov. She had a pretty bad BU last August. We remember all the sufferings well and we talk about it. Again, just to re-iterate - THERE IS AN END! And new beginnings! Edited January 7, 2014 by WYSWYG
Author Mariposa10 Posted January 8, 2014 Author Posted January 8, 2014 Of course, we can and will get better. We just gotta let time do its thing and also do our best to move on I'm so glad to hear this. We can get better. 1
Author Mariposa10 Posted January 8, 2014 Author Posted January 8, 2014 He texted asking me something he could've asked anybody else. So I knew he just wanted to text me. After he asked me something he said he had "had too much fun." I'm a really shy girl, but I gotta say I'm really proud of myself My shyness didn't get the best of me. He thinks I'm funny, I hope I didn't overdo it!
Author Mariposa10 Posted January 15, 2014 Author Posted January 15, 2014 So this guy hasn't talked about hanging out again!! Should I do it? Should I wait? We have been in touch, but we haven't talked about hanging out again... I don't know! He thinks I'm pretty, he likes my personality. What's going on?
devastated777 Posted January 15, 2014 Posted January 15, 2014 Do what you want but I would let him contact you. good for you! that makes me inspired/hopeful.
LadyM Posted January 15, 2014 Posted January 15, 2014 I'd wait....he knows you like him and the guy likes to chase the girl.
lil hoodlum Posted January 15, 2014 Posted January 15, 2014 So this guy hasn't talked about hanging out again!! Should I do it? Should I wait? We have been in touch, but we haven't talked about hanging out again... I don't know! He thinks I'm pretty, he likes my personality. What's going on? Tell him about some great movie that you heard about that you would like to go see. See if he bright enough to follow your lead and ask if the two of you can watch it together. Sometimes us boys are a little slow.
Author Mariposa10 Posted January 15, 2014 Author Posted January 15, 2014 He has contacted me. I have contacted him. But we haven't made any plans about hanging out. Maybe it's too soon It was too much fun hanging out with that guy, maybe because my expectations were low? Or maybe because we have a lot in common. I don't know... All I know is that I wanna hang out again Do what you want but I would let him contact you. good for you! that makes me inspired/hopeful.
Author Mariposa10 Posted January 15, 2014 Author Posted January 15, 2014 This is the big problem. I am not sure if he knows I like him? I haven't said it... Because I wanted to meet him physically first and see how I would feel... From the pics I knew I was attracted to him, but you know sometimes pictures can be deceiving But as soon as I started talking to him, the chemistry was there. I found him really attractive, he's even cuter in person I'd wait....he knows you like him and the guy likes to chase the girl. 1
Author Mariposa10 Posted January 15, 2014 Author Posted January 15, 2014 Yeah, I should give him some more time. Last thing I heard he was a little sick, so I should give him a break Tell him about some great movie that you heard about that you would like to go see. See if he bright enough to follow your lead and ask if the two of you can watch it together. Sometimes us boys are a little slow. 1
lil hoodlum Posted January 15, 2014 Posted January 15, 2014 Yeah, I should give him some more time. Last thing I heard he was a little sick, so I should give him a break Are you keeping your options open for others?
Author Mariposa10 Posted January 15, 2014 Author Posted January 15, 2014 Hmm, maybe. It's hard for me to "like" someone, I can be picky. And I like this guy, so I'm excited about it. Not too excited though, since he's gonna move away after the semester is over, but I'd like to see where this could go. But if I were to like someone as much as I like this guy, I would probably give that person a chance. I did run into a guy who used to have a crush on me, he's cute, but maybe too shy. He doesn't seem to be too shy when he's with his friends, but he's too shy when he's with me. It's cute, but I don't know if it'd work out. Are you keeping your options open for others?
BC1980 Posted January 15, 2014 Posted January 15, 2014 So this guy hasn't talked about hanging out again!! Should I do it? Should I wait? We have been in touch, but we haven't talked about hanging out again... I don't know! He thinks I'm pretty, he likes my personality. What's going on? Maybe give it another week and then ask him if he wants to hang out. I'm the same way about not wanting to chase a guy, but I think there has to be some give and take. How often have you been in contact since meeting?
CaliBabe Posted January 15, 2014 Posted January 15, 2014 Let him come after you honey! The chase, men love it. 1
Haydn Posted January 15, 2014 Posted January 15, 2014 You sound excited and happy, really pleased for you. This is the big problem. I am not sure if he knows I like him? I haven't said it... Because I wanted to meet him physically first and see how I would feel... From the pics I knew I was attracted to him, but you know sometimes pictures can be deceiving But as soon as I started talking to him, the chemistry was there. I found him really attractive, he's even cuter in person
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