DALIFAN Posted January 7, 2014 Posted January 7, 2014 Yes, I get it, most of us certainly have a type they are most attracted to or think they are attracted to. For example when I look at all of the guys I've gone on dates with: in average they were mostly (70%) blonde men. Then when I just look at those I was seriously dating for a while or in a relationship with: they were all very different to each other, physically and personality wise. In the end the only similar trait they shared was being cultivated. Just makes me wonder. When you guys compare your dates to the people you actually end up being more seriously involved with: any type? any differences?
HokeyReligions Posted January 7, 2014 Posted January 7, 2014 Interesting thread. Its been a while but let me think. David. Longish dark hair. Slim. Musician-wannabe. Safe. Drop-dead gorgeous. City slicker. Part of my bad-boy phase. John. Blonde. Long hair. Glasses. Folksy. Hard worker. More cute than handsome. Neal. Short. Dark hair. Glasses. Bad completion. Funny. Generous. Singer professionally. Good looking in a Michael j. Fox kinda way. Neil. Tall. Very dark hair. Thick and wavy. Oozing sensuality. Broad shoulders. Nice thighs. Deep voice. OMG his singing voice - made me (and everyone else) melt into a puddle. Sang in church and at weddings but didn't want to sing professionally. Stoic. Didn't date near as much or as many as he could have. Ok there are several others. I guess I do have a type. Singers/musicians! Although - Hubby. Average height. Brown hair but already balding. Chubby. Sings ok. More than a little nerdy. Not even a hint of bad-boy - much to his dismay! Lol. Very honest. Cute butt. Makes me laughn like none other. Respects me. Similar values. Absolute dog person and an animal rescuer like me.
carhill Posted January 7, 2014 Posted January 7, 2014 Other than being heterosexual females, they've all been different. Not even any remote similarities. Physically different, as well as different personalities. To me, this makes sense, as all people are unique, I guess except for identical twins and even they can have markedly differing personalities. 1
MrCastle Posted January 7, 2014 Posted January 7, 2014 No dating patterns physically or personality wise.
Leigh 87 Posted January 7, 2014 Posted January 7, 2014 Well I haven't been with a very successful man, because I am only at college still due to spending my 20's travelling and having anorexia. I got over 90% on my college entrance score whatever it is you yanks call it (ATAR in Australia) yet, I have never dated a man who is very successful within his career BAR ONE. I figure it is because I have not established my OWN successful career, so surely that is why I have not attracted men who HAVE achieved success career wise. Ironically, the one guy who fell crazy in love with me had a great career and earned a lot; the rest of my guys were... well, not college educated nor did they have set careers. I had a fling with a guy in finance overseas on my tour, but he said right away " NO relationship", since he obviously didn't deem me worthy of one (his ex was a doctor; he obviously wanted an equally successful partner, which is fair enough). Needles to say, I didn't hook up with him again. Even though he claimed that he was too busy to want a relationship (we all know that means: I just don't want a relationship with you) My first long term partner of 2 plus years was a stoner with no employment prospects or qualifications when I was 18 - 20, my second long term partner from age 24 - 26 was a truck driver who had his own house cos his dad brought it for him; he was well off but only in assets, he didn't work at all for a good year or so of our relationship. He is now a full time truck driver and has all licences in various machinery that can earn him a lot potentially. My current guy is more educated than the last, can use basic grammar correctly and appears white collar, yet he had a brain aneurism just before college so he became a chef since it came naturally to him. I guess like attracts like.... Current guy lived and worked overseas; I have lived overseas as well as travelled to many countries. I ALSO have not yet attained my degree. I guess if I had my degree by now and had established a successful career, I would also be dating guys in a similar predicament. They are not better than my current guy in my opinion; no honest, decent person is better than any one else. However, there are leagues albeit not necessarily physical ones so much as intellectual and in terms of career achievements. I am not implying that I believe people who have successful careers are better people than me; however, I cannot expect to attract an uber successful guy in a white collar job, since I myself have not achieved the same, career wise (and I am not beautiful enough to just get any guy to want me). Although I am a 10 to my guy:lmao: genuinely..
Leigh 87 Posted January 7, 2014 Posted January 7, 2014 I am most drawn to men with fair features like my own ( I have very light grey - blue eyes and light brown hair which I always have blonde) I have even dated to red heads, albeit one of them was balding so not a full blown red head. I have dated and hooked up with a fair few cuddly men; my last ex was cuddly, and the two men I dated after were cuddly but not fat. I ONCE preferred men with a bit of meat on them, since I myself am not really petite; I prefer to feel small compared to my man. I have dated two thin men, including current guy, which I don't mind as he is still over 6 foot and he makes me want to stop being such a fatass and not eat when I don't need to. I have hooked up with a few lean men too!
Onethirtyeight Posted January 7, 2014 Posted January 7, 2014 Not other than being being attractive females. I can't even say heterosexual like carhill said, one of them said she was bi, but that didn't really work out and think she really was just a straight up lesbian.
Leigh 87 Posted January 7, 2014 Posted January 7, 2014 OH - And I dated 3 douchbags: Long term ex, he wanted to see hookers and chat up girls online. Other two guys pretended to think I was just soooooo gorgeous, only to disappear. One of them couldn't shut up about how " amazing" he thought I was, and the other one fully got me to believe that he was realllly into me and he was falling in love with me and wanted something special with me that he hadn't had with prior partners (since he was apparently more "crazy" about me than he was about them on the first date). Current guy is literally the ONLY decent man I have EVER dated, from what I know of him seems authentic.
MissBee Posted January 7, 2014 Posted January 7, 2014 (edited) Emotionally unavailable lol! Yup that was the kind of man I attracted and was attracted to but more so in the past. None of them looked like each other aside from all of them being attractive and tall, except one who wasn't all that tall, about 5'7, but the rest have been 5'11-6'7. And all were slim/athletic. My type is more so personality rather than physical. I tend to date men who are very intelligent, dry humor, charming, perhaps a bit more reserved and have strong masculine energy, I often think of them as lion's at rest. They are usually at least 5 years older, except for when I was a teen I had a couple boyfriends who were the same age or maybe 1 or 2 years older. They're all still different but I would say if my friends were to identify my type or would say they think I would like a man that would be the energy and "type" they would most likely identify and that I see as the common thread among the men I've dated. Edited January 7, 2014 by MissBee
Imported Posted January 7, 2014 Posted January 7, 2014 Every one completely different. Everyone completely diffremt if you concede that them being all in shape and thin is different.
Author DALIFAN Posted January 7, 2014 Author Posted January 7, 2014 You Guys' replies were really interesting to read. I guess when it comes down to the line (at least in my case) I do have a "type" of guy I end up being seriously involved with. But that type is rather different to what I am initially attracted to.. In the end the guys I have been seriously involved with had less of a physical type than personality type.. My exes and more lasting flings were all more on the quiet side, educated, from functional families and able to ground me.. I'm very social, busy with work/education, from a quite complicated family and a dreamer that tends to get stuck daydreaming Guess I like guys that somehow "neutralise" me Oh and all of m'y exes were really really thin, which is actually not my physical type at all... Or maybe it is?!
gaius Posted January 7, 2014 Posted January 7, 2014 I like the wild, stubborn types. Every girl I've dated for more than 3 months was never married before me and as far as I know haven't married since. They all had really nice hair too.
kodakgirl Posted January 7, 2014 Posted January 7, 2014 I totally have a type, though it might not be immediately apparent. The two guys I've been seriously romantically involved with were quite different on the surface. Number 1 was tall, dark blonde hair and blue eyes, always clean-shaven, English, working to be a veterinarian, quite shy. Number 2 was fairly short (5'7"), dark hair and eyes, stubble, French-Canadian, doing a PhD in physics, very outgoing. They were both totally, totally my type. Both were adorable rather than hot, looked a few years younger than they were, had expressive faces, and had brilliant wide smiles. Both were intelligent, interested in the world, very into travel, very into outdoorsy stuff, terrific listeners, were into science but also liked history and art. I think they would have been great friends, actually! This is the type that makes me melt, and what I really really want in future partners.
soccerrprp Posted January 7, 2014 Posted January 7, 2014 Although - Hubby. Average height. Brown hair but already balding. Chubby. Sings ok. More than a little nerdy. Not even a hint of bad-boy - much to his dismay! Lol. Very honest. Cute butt. Makes me laughn like none other. Respects me. Similar values. Absolute dog person and an animal rescuer like me. Now, that sounds like a real man! I wonder why you didn't END UP with another pretty boy/musician? 1
newmoon Posted January 7, 2014 Posted January 7, 2014 not sure if I actively have a 'type' or just a certain type that gravitates towards me because of what I project, if that makes sense. the looks have all been very different, but the personality traits are remarkably similar among the ex's
Biscous Posted January 7, 2014 Posted January 7, 2014 My last ex wasn't really the 'type' I go for in some respects but I think I have different types.
Shepp Posted January 7, 2014 Posted January 7, 2014 I have such a type look wise, that my girlfriend represents stunningly and that every girl I've ever so much as bought a drink for and nearly every celebrity I've ever listed as a crush conforms too. What can I say, I don't know why? I just have a thing for girls who are pretty, petite, brunette, long hair, nice eyes, nice teeth. Michelle-Keegan-Cheryl-Cole-Esk Personality wise I'm more flexible I think, but looks - I dunno what it is.
FitChick Posted January 7, 2014 Posted January 7, 2014 Tall, slim, full head of hair. All highly intelligent and successful.
isisisweeping Posted January 7, 2014 Posted January 7, 2014 My long relationships have all been very tall, highly intelligent, brunnettes with light eyes, geeky. Successful; quirky sense of humor I only really care about intelligent and sense of humor. The rest was more coincidental.
Real36 Posted January 8, 2014 Posted January 8, 2014 Are cheaters a type? If so, that's mine! LOL Seriously, I tend to get involved with emotionally unavailable and manipulative/controlling men. I'm working on it though Physically all of mine have been different. Personality, race, height, weight and hair color...never the same thing twice.
HokeyReligions Posted January 8, 2014 Posted January 8, 2014 Now, that sounds like a real man! I wonder why you didn't END UP with another pretty boy/musician? This is an interesting thread. It seems like for many of us , list I g out the people we've dated helped us see our own patterns. I think about some of the other guys I dated and I went thru phases. I did my bad boy phase, then my country boy folksey phase. Both were centered around music. Then my nice guy phase and my "I dare myself" phase (its a wonder I survived that one!) And other miscellaneous types. I dated blue collar and whit collar. All different levels of education. It sounds like I dated a lot but really most were one time dates. I did date one guy for 9 months because he was 6' 6" and I could wear my highest heels and still feel petite.
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