TylerC Posted January 9, 2005 Posted January 9, 2005 Alright, I don't know if this is in the right forum, but here I go: In short, I feel a little......I don't know....jipped? I don't know the word to describe it, but if my girlfriend and I are together, she and I will sometimes do stuff. It may be dry sex, me fingering her, or her giving me a handjob. Recently, I have been extremely horny when around her and she has been the one to have the orgasms, not me. Probably the last 3 times we have been together she has had orgasms and I haven't. Before I was getting ready to leave her house tonight, she said she knew something was wrong, because again, I feel a little jipped. I said it's not a big deal and kissed her goodbye. She was used by her last boyfriend and she said it made her feel like that was all she was good for, and that's why I'm hesitant to talk to her about this, even though she says I can talk to her about anything. What do I do? Do I talk to her or just let it go?
curiousnycgirl Posted January 9, 2005 Posted January 9, 2005 How long has this been going on? And how old are you? I always say there needs to be balance. Yes I think you should discuss it with her, but in a supportive, constructive way. Tell her you care about her, reassure her there is more to the relationship than just that - but you deserve more too. Best of luck to you!
Author TylerC Posted January 9, 2005 Author Posted January 9, 2005 It's just recently that it has happened more often, but there have been other times where she has had orgasms and I haven't. I'm 16, she is almost 16. She was also tired tonight after I made her orgasm, then 15-20 minutes before I was supposed to leave she said 'ok let's go' since she was tired. I said 'ok I'll go', then she said 'don't be gay' and I asked how I was being gay. When we got upstairs she said she knew something was wrong.
Nocturnal Posted January 9, 2005 Posted January 9, 2005 There are many factors to these things, one usually says that if there's a problem in the bedroom there's generally a problem somewhere else in the relationship. However, it may just simply be that your 'sex routine' isn't doing it for you, have you tried to change things around? Also remember, there are plenty of ways to get an orgasm, not all needs to be pentration. And usually, a good philosphy is that both help eachother reach orgasm. I won't stop having sex just because I reach orgasm because I think my girlfriend deserves (at the very very least) one too. So perhaps suggest to her that if she is coming too soon, that she does something to help you reach orgasm, be it oral sex, or whatever. Either way, experiment a little bit and never be afraid to talk to your girlfriend about this. The fact that she has been used in the past shouldn't stop you from talking, actually by the sound of it, you should even consider talking more due to it. The fact that you don't talk about it could even further be taken wrong when she obviously knows something is wrong. So my suggestion is, sit down, talk this problem over and don't be afraid to bring up the thought that perhaps your sexlife is getting into a routine/stale. And suggest doing something different. Talking things like these over with ones partner is a must. In my opinion.
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