Ale177 Posted January 7, 2014 Posted January 7, 2014 Okay, I've been going out with my girlfriend for 3 years. We are both 25. Are relationship was going great, and then she tells me that she has feelings for another man, a man which she hardly sees/speaks too but always has the idea 'what if' of how it would be like with him instead of me, but says she still has feelings for me and still loves me. We broke up, as I wasn't committed to being with someone who couldn't give me 100%, she says she still has feelings for me, but can't be with me until these feelings go away, and said she feels she needs to tell him how she feels about him as that would be the only way. But she said she don't know how she would feel if he was to turn around and say yes he has feeling for her too? Is the a symptom of her thinking the Grass is greener? Am i being strung on as a safety blanket? Thoughts?
TylerDurdenn Posted January 7, 2014 Posted January 7, 2014 Don't think you've been told the full story.
Author Ale177 Posted January 7, 2014 Author Posted January 7, 2014 (edited) What you mean? If its in regard to her rarely seeing/talking to him, I know she hasn't. I should also mention this guy also has a girlfriend and seems happy with her. Edited January 7, 2014 by Ale177
fixing Posted January 7, 2014 Posted January 7, 2014 You did the right thing breaking up with her. Im not really into this whole diagnosis thing either (GIGS) Tyler Durdan means, she may already be seeing that other twerp. I know its very painful, but seriously, you gotta cut her off mate, ignore all the BS lines like 'i still love you, well, not in love, but love you less, not 'in' love with you, but still care' She has decided she can do better, which is god awful on you, so **** her off, go no contact if i were you. If she hasnt cheated on you already and she is literally being very truthful then i commend her honesty to you, but like Tyler said, she may well have already hooked up with this other chump already. Sorry for your predicament bro.
Author Ale177 Posted January 7, 2014 Author Posted January 7, 2014 Anyone else like to add their input?
Danny Dee Posted January 7, 2014 Posted January 7, 2014 My Girlfriend of 5 years is doing the same thing to me accept their is no other guy but I think she is looking she has started going out a lot more with her single friends & has taken a giant step back from me. At 1st I was ok with this I thought maybe she won't find someone & things will be fine. Now I'm starting to get annoyed & feel like I don't deserve to be treated as a backup or safety blanket like you say. You have it really ask yourself do you deserve to be treated like this? Yes it's hard but she has having doubts about your future don't let yourself be used. It's not easy when you have an attachment but surely you deserve better?
Philosoraptor Posted January 7, 2014 Posted January 7, 2014 No, she is genuinely interested in this guy but wants to keep you on the back burner as emotional support if things don't work out the way she hopes. She's pretty much telling you about it so she can bang him guilt free.
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