TheGuard13 Posted January 7, 2014 Posted January 7, 2014 Anyone else read the OP's post as "Why aren't all those ugly guys hitting on ME"? 6 1
Mrlonelyone Posted January 7, 2014 Posted January 7, 2014 This is very wrong. Men and women are different when it comes to this. Oh don't get me wrong. Confidence is a good thing to have, but like education, or being good at math it dosen't get the juices flowing. 1
Frank2thepoint Posted January 7, 2014 Posted January 7, 2014 That aggressive approach is how they compensate for being ugly. A man who is less attractive but who approaches has a much better chance than a passive but attractive man. This is why I am a WINNER 1
Frank2thepoint Posted January 7, 2014 Posted January 7, 2014 Why hit on attractive women though? have some self awareness my god Hitting on attractive women is fun. Especially when they get their feathers ruffled. At the end of the night, I have a big smile on my face for trying and getting a good laugh. 1
nerd Posted January 7, 2014 Posted January 7, 2014 This thread reminds me of one of my buddies. We were out one night at a bar somewhere and he was just being friendly and talking to this one attractive girl. This guy, he is never mistaken for Brad Pitt or whoever. That girl was so stuck-up and snotty and a total B. He stuck his finger up her nostril LOL. I've never seen anything like it. Alcohol is a helluva thing. I would do this, but... COOTIES!!!
StanMusial Posted January 7, 2014 Posted January 7, 2014 Anyone else read the OP's post as "Why aren't all those ugly guys hitting on ME"? My advice to OP or any other girl is to at least reject them kindly. You never know who's watching. 3
irc333 Posted January 7, 2014 Posted January 7, 2014 Because being aloof, which works with attractive men, won't work with ugly guys. If ugly guys played it "cool" and sat back and let the women come to them...well..they'd never get noticed. Whenever im out i always see the most unattractive men out there approaching women.Do these guys not own mirrors and know what they look like? What makes them think these women will be attracted to them? It gets really annoying that these dudes have no self awareness one of their buddies has to site them down and say listen your ugly stop annoying these women. It makes no sense when you see cuter guys shy and timid and these ugly dudes are approachoing women brimming with confidence with no reason to be. 2
Badsingularity Posted January 7, 2014 Posted January 7, 2014 Confidence is a good thing to have, but like education, or being good at math it dosen't get the juices flowing. It does for women. 1
pickflicker Posted January 7, 2014 Posted January 7, 2014 Whenever im out i always see the most unattractive men out there approaching women.Do these guys not own mirrors and know what they look like? What makes them think these women will be attracted to them? It gets really annoying that these dudes have no self awareness one of their buddies has to site them down and say listen your ugly stop annoying these women. It makes no sense when you see cuter guys shy and timid and these ugly dudes are approachoing women brimming with confidence with no reason to be. Oh my God, how dare a less than attractive guy show a bit of balls and try batting out of his league! You're acting like rejecting a bloke is the most inconvenient thing on the planet. Hardly. I got propositioned at 3am on a train platform after NYE. I politely said 'no', and the guy went on his way. Is this really the kind of stuff that keeps you awake at night? First world problems, indeed... 8
newmoon Posted January 7, 2014 Posted January 7, 2014 I agree with you that many ugly men are very aggressive, but I always figured it was because they have nothing to lose and everything to gain. most of them are incredibly smart and interesting, and have spent years cultivating an amazing personality/intelligence that they can showcase, and that often will win a woman's heart much faster than being a player and holding back. I fell for an extremely ugly guy because he pursued me like no other man ever did and gave me compliments and affection that my more handsome boyfriends (perhaps) felt too 'manly' to give. I'm all for ugly men coming my way... I don't mind being treated like a queen! 2
Mrlonelyone Posted January 7, 2014 Posted January 7, 2014 It does for women. As this thread shows confidence gets the juices flowing when it's a hot guy showing it. In that case it makes the juices flow more. A confident guy who looks like quasimodo isn't getting laid ever no matter how positively he thinks outside of stories.
ponchsox Posted January 7, 2014 Posted January 7, 2014 You can't have success if you don't try. And I have seen plenty of "ugly" men with attractive women. Maybe because they're men and not children? 1
OpheliaSong Posted January 7, 2014 Posted January 7, 2014 I mostly notice that my friends and I have very different tastes in men, so some that they find attractive, I don't and vice versa. I am very pretty and will go out with an average looking guy if he stands out in some way like personality or intelligence. I can't recall ever having a Quasimodo ask me out before, but I would like to think I would be pleasant in my rejection.
SYLLPalmer Posted January 7, 2014 Posted January 7, 2014 If it makes you feel any better im an ugly guy who knows his place and doesnt waste his time or womens by approaching them at all. That makes me feel sad. Ric Ocasek and Paulina Poriskova. Lasting love: Ms Porizkova and her husband of 24 years, The Cars lead singer Ric Ocasek. Where there is one there is many. I bet he charmed the pants right off that beauty. 4
PJKino Posted January 7, 2014 Posted January 7, 2014 This is why i dont approach women i know what theyre thinking if a guy like me approaches so why waste their time or annoy them?
Mrlonelyone Posted January 7, 2014 Posted January 7, 2014 I mostly notice that my friends and I have very different tastes in men, so some that they find attractive, I don't and vice versa. I am very pretty and will go out with an average looking guy if he stands out in some way like personality or intelligence. I can't recall ever having a Quasimodo ask me out before, but I would like to think I would be pleasant in my rejection. Yes there is a tiny degree of subjectivity in who finds who attractive but their are limits.
MrRightNow Posted January 7, 2014 Posted January 7, 2014 This is why i dont approach women i know what theyre thinking if a guy like me approaches so why waste their time or annoy them? So you're going to spend the rest of your life alone?! Just approach them, most women aren't as mean as the OP. 2
Mrlonelyone Posted January 7, 2014 Posted January 7, 2014 This is why i dont approach women i know what theyre thinking if a guy like me approaches so why waste their time or annoy them? Look at it this way. If you have a 1% chance of getting a woman who you and most men would think is a ten (say 100 ms universe contestants) ...you only need to ask out 100 tens and you will most probably get one.
Woggle Posted January 7, 2014 Posted January 7, 2014 Can't hurt trying. If they get turned down they have lost nothing and believe it or not sometimes they don't get turned down. I give them more credit than attractive people who turn into sobbing messes when they get rejected. I saw it happen with a woman I admit looked good but I just wasn't interested in. When I have turned down less attractive women though they just move on with their day.
FineFreshFierce Posted January 7, 2014 Posted January 7, 2014 Hahah this just happened to me! A bald guy, shorter than me, 20+ years older than me, with several missing teeth (and the teeth he did have were yellow) came up to me and said " I would marry you in a second. Take down my number." He came up to me while he was working, and the job he has is a very low-income job. I couldn't believe it!
Leigh 87 Posted January 7, 2014 Posted January 7, 2014 All these threads on " ugly guy" or " fat women pursuing hot guys" It makes me sick:sick: People can approach whomever they please. Why is it even noteworthy that fat women or ugly men approach people they are attracted to? 4
Leigh 87 Posted January 7, 2014 Posted January 7, 2014 Hahah this just happened to me! A bald guy, shorter than me, 20+ years older than me, with several missing teeth (and the teeth he did have were yellow) came up to me and said " I would marry you in a second. Take down my number." He came up to me while he was working, and the job he has is a very low-income job. I couldn't believe it! Maybe he had good self esteem and liked who he is as a person? Maybe he doesn't limit himself to women that are "not desirable" to him? It is disgusting how you wrote the above ^^^ If a guy I wasn't attracted to and didn't feel chemistry with asked for my number, I WOULD NOT go telling anyone about it if he "had missing teeth" or what not:sick: I recommend that you be more humble and stop acting "aghast" at the notion of a "lowly paid, missing tooth" guy having the audacity to ask you out...... You must think far too highly of yourself:lmao: 2
Leigh 87 Posted January 7, 2014 Posted January 7, 2014 Can't hurt trying. If they get turned down they have lost nothing and believe it or not sometimes they don't get turned down. I give them more credit than attractive people who turn into sobbing messes when they get rejected. I saw it happen with a woman I admit looked good but I just wasn't interested in. When I have turned down less attractive women though they just move on with their day. Exactly! It is so off putting how objectively attractive/ universally beautiful people act like " OMG, why did THAT guy turn me down:mad: He is only AVERAGE looking, wtf is his problem:mad:" 1
FineFreshFierce Posted January 7, 2014 Posted January 7, 2014 All these threads on " ugly guy" or " fat women pursuing hot guys" It makes me sick:sick: People can approach whomever they please. Why is it even noteworthy that fat women or ugly men approach people they are attracted to? Because approaches like that are based ONLY on physical attraction. You're not approaching you because you like their personality. So, the decision the attractive person you approaches makes is also only based on their physical attraction to you. So if you're unattractive physically, why do you believe the attractive person you approached will also find you physically attractive and give you their number? Unless the person is nice and willing to talk to you a few minutes to get to know you, instead of make an instant decision based on what they see.
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