mantlefan Posted January 6, 2014 Posted January 6, 2014 So looking back on the past few months (we broke up in July after 5 years together, I was the dumpee, she said we might be together someday but needed time to think), my ex and I had an agreement that we would try to be friends, and it was OK if I sent her gifts, notes, poems, etc. as long as I didn't mix any of that into us trying to be friends. This all ended in late November when she told me she was not in love with me, she never saw us getting back together, and that we tried to be friends too soon. We have been almost totally out of contact except for some work business, seeing each other in church a couple times, and (ugh!) a party that we agreed a long time ago to host together (for us and our coworkers). We actually got along great at the party, we had fun... anyways, I digress. Looking back, why did it seem like such a good idea NOT ONLY to completely disregard the concept of no contact, but also to actively try to be friends AND for EITHER of us to say it was ok for me to try to romance her back? I can't even get in my own head back then to figure out how I thought that was a good idea (other than being desperately in love I guess). I kinda feel like I should figure this out in case there is another breakup after an LTR in my future.
mtnbiker3000 Posted January 7, 2014 Posted January 7, 2014 Because you saw it as a way to stay close. Anything you could get would be better than nothing. But in fact, nothing is best!!
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