Calli154 Posted January 6, 2014 Posted January 6, 2014 So its been two months since the split. About six weeks NC. I'm much better than I was a month ago but I feel like I'm on an emotional roller coaster EVERY day. I go from wanting to call him, to hating him, to missing him, to enjoying my freedom to missing coming home to him. Every day. I act myself everyday, go to work, see friends, ect but he's still always in my head. I do have the occasional day when I just want to lay in bed all day but most of the time I'm okay. I just can't control these emotions. They change all day everyday. Usually in the morning I'm the most sad.. then I go to work and keep busy and it goes from there. I just feel like I have zero control of my thoughts. I cannot block him out. This is driving me insane. Anyone else dealing with this? My friends say its the shock wearing off but I don't know how much more I can deal with this crap.
mtnbiker3000 Posted January 6, 2014 Posted January 6, 2014 This is driving me insane. Anyone else dealing with this? My friends say its the shock wearing off but I don't know how much more I can deal with this crap. You have just described the process that literally everyone here has gone / is going through, including myself. Join the club And, unfortunately, you are early on in the process. But it will end and you will survive. Best thing you can do is stick to 100%, absolute NC, including no SOCIAL MEDIA. Not sure why, but many folks think a quick FB stalk is not breaking NC. IT ABSOLUTELY IS!!! DON'T DO IT!!! And good luck... 2
btvdts Posted January 6, 2014 Posted January 6, 2014 All aboard!! yea I'm right there with you. Actually about the same timeframe for BU. she crossss my mind alot, and Ive taken the advice from here, If possible, the minute you think of him, immdiety do something else, anything else! even if it means to pick your nose! for the morning thing, find something that you can make a routine of. That way something distracts you. also learn to forgive in time. Let it go. 1
flightplan Posted January 6, 2014 Posted January 6, 2014 Ditto. Almost 3 months since BU and have those days. It sucks. Worst part is we both work for the same company and log onto the same internal messaging system. I can see her name but unfortunately cannot delete it or block it. I just try to keep it hidden so I don't have to look at it. 1
Author Calli154 Posted January 6, 2014 Author Posted January 6, 2014 I feel like the 2-3 mark is the worst. When the shock wears off and reality sets in I've even strict nc and he has too. It was a very bad breakup. We both deserve apologies but I'm sticking to the rule as much as its killing me
broken11 Posted January 7, 2014 Posted January 7, 2014 You just described exactly what's happning to me. Its been a month BU and NC at all.. Some days I feel so lonely and missing him and wanting him back but some other days im all happy and fine and loving the single life and most days I have like 10 feelings in a day. I feel like im going insane and it feels like I will never move on.. but stick to no contact completely trust me it helps and you will be able to heal better.. the morning part is exactly how I feel and lately I've been reading quotes that helps me get out of bed and every time I want 2 think about him I start thinking of something positive.. anything but him.. hope that help. Just make sure u know.. ur not alone n that helps.
Author Calli154 Posted January 7, 2014 Author Posted January 7, 2014 You just described exactly what's happning to me. Its been a month BU and NC at all.. Some days I feel so lonely and missing him and wanting him back but some other days im all happy and fine and loving the single life and most days I have like 10 feelings in a day. I feel like im going insane and it feels like I will never move on.. but stick to no contact completely trust me it helps and you will be able to heal better.. the morning part is exactly how I feel and lately I've been reading quotes that helps me get out of bed and every time I want 2 think about him I start thinking of something positive.. anything but him.. hope that help. Just make sure u know.. ur not alone n that helps. I literally jump out of bed and just run most days. Sometimes til I'm sick. Then I shower and go to work. But it's been snowing lately so I just make a big breakfast or turn on the news right away. I will be sticking to NC. It's just I feel my situation calls for apologies but were both stubborn and I won't crack first soo all aboard the nc train
LostConfused123 Posted January 7, 2014 Posted January 7, 2014 I'm about 10 weeks NC. Maybe more. I stopped keeping track. Didn't see the point. Anyway, I'm just now (like the last few days) feeling like my emotions are evening out, for lack of a better term. I mean, I still get sad, sometimes angry but the feelings don't last near as long as they used to. They are also becoming fewer and fewer. I literally never thought I would feel better. Hang in there!! You're doing awesome!! ((Hugs!!)) 1
Sleepyhead Posted January 8, 2014 Posted January 8, 2014 Yup, 8 months in with complete and utter NC and still feel just like that. It seems to get really bad every 2 months. Hopefully you will feel better sooner than me! But it's very normal to feel like you are right now, the changes in moods and mindsets are incredible... 1
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