send_me_flowers Posted January 5, 2014 Posted January 5, 2014 Ex was contacting me alot over Xmas now he's finally free he hasn't bothred I suppose I knew he wouldn't when he had his freedom. Do you think people regret loosing you if they choose to leave. Why did he contact me after 3 month NC to hurt me all over again, will he get his comeuppance, for being a horrible person. All he done was use me and hurt me. How could he do that to me I feel like I am slowly dying inside all over again I've decided to change my numbers I know I have no need to as he won't never call me ever again regardless. It hurts so much to think I've wasted years of my life on someone who never respected or valued me as a person he couldn't even wish me a happy new year. When will this pain and thoughts of him end!!
David87 Posted January 5, 2014 Posted January 5, 2014 Ex was contacting me alot over Xmas now he's finally free he hasn't bothred I suppose I knew he wouldn't when he had his freedom. Do you think people regret loosing you if they choose to leave. Why did he contact me after 3 month NC to hurt me all over again, will he get his comeuppance, for being a horrible person. All he done was use me and hurt me. How could he do that to me I feel like I am slowly dying inside all over again I've decided to change my numbers I know I have no need to as he won't never call me ever again regardless. It hurts so much to think I've wasted years of my life on someone who never respected or valued me as a person he couldn't even wish me a happy new year. When will this pain and thoughts of him end!! Sometimes I think dumpers are happy for getting rid of the dumpiess, there are a coupe of them that have remorse or feel bad after a while.
Author send_me_flowers Posted January 5, 2014 Author Posted January 5, 2014 Sometimes I think dumpers are happy for getting rid of the dumpiess, there are a coupe of them that have remorse or feel bad after a while. Than why did he bother to contact me after 3 months NC to hurt me again
mantlefan Posted January 5, 2014 Posted January 5, 2014 Do you know he did it to hurt you? I think in my breakup (I was dumped), I had no idea what to do, even 5 months later now I am still confused. Do I want to be friends? Do I want to stay coworkers? If he did it to hurt you, if you know for a fact that he did, then you can know that you deserve better.
Softie Posted January 5, 2014 Posted January 5, 2014 Than why did he bother to contact me after 3 months NC to hurt me again If it was not to get you back, which would have had clear signals, then it was either to make themselves feel less guilty or an ego boost. I know that isn't great news off you but it's likely. If someone wanted you not much would stand in their way incl pride. Changing numbers takes a lot of courage so you should be proud of yourself Take time, look after yourself, he can only hurt you if you let him x
Author send_me_flowers Posted January 6, 2014 Author Posted January 6, 2014 I know that you all must be so tired of seeing my posts. I do apologise I'm just had a bad place I don't know what to do. I'm so hurt and sad that I can't see nothing changing for me. I'm alone and don't have many people to talk to. I have changed my numbers and it has made me so sad. Because now I know I will never see or speak to my ex ever again. I suppose Ilhe probably wouldn't has contacted me anyway now he's free. I don't know how I will cope with the doubts of the the hope that maybe he would have came back if I wouldn't have changed my number. Will he forget me forever
mantlefan Posted January 6, 2014 Posted January 6, 2014 I too worry about being forgotten. One thing that helps me sometimes is to realize that if my ex forgets about me, that means I am capable of forgetting about her too. And if she doesn't forget me but still gets totally over me, then I can get over her, even if I don't forget about her. And if she doesn't get over me, then even if I don't get over her, we are a part of each other and we have learned a lot from each other about what to do NEXT. The past is useful for the future. 2
Author send_me_flowers Posted January 6, 2014 Author Posted January 6, 2014 I too worry about being forgotten. One thing that helps me sometimes is to realize that if my ex forgets about me, that means I am capable of forgetting about her too. And if she doesn't forget me but still gets totally over me, then I can get over her, even if I don't forget about her. And if she doesn't get over me, then even if I don't get over her, we are a part of each other and we have learned a lot from each other about what to do NEXT. The past is useful for the future. My ex had no contact for 3 months and called me made me hurt all over again he has cheated and hurt me used me while he was in jail I have been through hell and back and back to hell again
mtnbiker3000 Posted January 6, 2014 Posted January 6, 2014 If they can so easily forget about you, then they were not who you thought they were. 1
Author send_me_flowers Posted January 6, 2014 Author Posted January 6, 2014 If they can so easily forget about you, then they were not who you thought they were. I know he is not who I thought he was. I helped in a really bad te in his life I got cheated and betryed used for his own gain and now that he's free he left me for the girl who he cheated on rang me after 3 months NC reasons I don't know why and now I'm back to being broken hearted again I was nearly coming through it too 1
btvdts Posted January 6, 2014 Posted January 6, 2014 How will you know if you have been forgotten? I know we hold on to little things, but the truth is it doesn't change anything. time, time, time my friend. I know how you feel about not having anyone. I too don't know many people while my ex is as almost as popular as the pope! so I wouldn't be surprised if she never thinks about me again, but I'll never know. just remember, if you loved once, why not again?
mtnbiker3000 Posted January 6, 2014 Posted January 6, 2014 I've learned that you just don't know people for shyte. I lived with my ex for 99% of the 3 years we dated and were engaged. And we traveled all the time and basically spent all of our non-working hours together. I mean all the friquen time. And even after 3 years together, I was sooooooooo wrong about her and our RS. I feel stupid about how wrong I was. How is it even possible?? Makes me wonder about people and trust, etc... I guess you just never know
Author send_me_flowers Posted January 6, 2014 Author Posted January 6, 2014 How will you know if you have been forgotten? I know we hold on to little things, but the truth is it doesn't change anything. time, time, time my friend. I know how you feel about not having anyone. I too don't know many people while my ex is as almost as popular as the pope! so I wouldn't be surprised if she never thinks about me again, but I'll never know. just remember, if you loved once, why not again? Because he doesn't care at all I mean nothing to him that's how it's so easy for him to forget me. I have to be strong again and work on myself I hope we all find happiness again
Author send_me_flowers Posted January 6, 2014 Author Posted January 6, 2014 I've learned that you just don't know people for shyte. I lived with my ex for 99% of the 3 years we dated and were engaged. And we traveled all the time and basically spent all of our non-working hours together. I mean all the friquen time. And even after 3 years together, I was sooooooooo wrong about her and our RS. I feel stupid about how wrong I was. How is it even possible?? Makes me wonder about people and trust, etc... I guess you just never know I waited for 3 years while he was in jail all that time I lost to be cheated and lied too. You are right we don't know a person at all. I hope their is such a thing as karma 1
David87 Posted January 6, 2014 Posted January 6, 2014 I waited for 3 years while he was in jail all that time I lost to be cheated and lied too. You are right we don't know a person at all. I hope their is such a thing as karma send_me_flovers karma is the only hope I have.
mtnbiker3000 Posted January 6, 2014 Posted January 6, 2014 I waited for 3 years while he was in jail all that time I lost to be cheated and lied too. You are right we don't know a person at all. I hope their is such a thing as karma Hmmm. 3 years in jail? Don't know the situation, but that would be a red flag for me... You don't get 3 years for jay-walking... Maybe your man-picker needs some adjusting as well some self-analysis to understand why you were in this to begin with. Why did you pick this man?
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