Mrsdickinson Posted January 6, 2014 Posted January 6, 2014 I feel like I want to end it. I'm so mentally exhausted from my "darling" husband. I have postnatal depression, some days I just sleep all day, and don't do much. Them times are hopefully behind me. I have been on a diet for two weeks, and my energy levels have picked right up. Today I hit my stone loss, I got a "well done." On Facebook form dh. So today I have cleaned none stop. Even painted the bathroom. Plus looked after are children. To some this isn't much, to me I was super proud and happy. I had dinner cooking for when dh got home, like I do every single night. Was I in the wrong for wanting some appreciation? For a thank you at least. Apparently so. It kicked off with him telling me how useless I am, I'm pathetic, and I'm no good. Why the hell should I get a thank you or something when it's my "job". He threw his phone at the wall. An expensive phone. All because I wanted some appreciation. This isn't the first time, it's about 1000th time. I cook, clean, wash his clothes, do everything in the house, he does NOTHING. Over Xmas, he didn't do a thing while off work, because... He's doing what I do. For Xmas he asked me what I wanted for Xmas. I sent him the link to a £15 make up box. He didn't get it me, instead he got me nothing. I brought him quiet abit that he asked for. Reason why I got nothing, even nothing off my children was because he brought me an expensive gift the year before. My birthday in July. He didn't get me anything not even a card. He didn't wish me happy birthday, and refused to help the kids write my card until 9pm, because he wanted to punish me "for my attitude". He's broke so many of my things. Or cut it up. Because he brought it, and I don't deserve it. Everyone thinks he's amazing, my sister n dad love him. And I'm the wrong one. I don't know what to do anymore.
Philosoraptor Posted January 6, 2014 Posted January 6, 2014 Well if this is as huge of a pattern as you say it is why do you continue to waste what short time you have in this life on someone who treats you so poorly? Or continue to expose your children to this type of behavior? If nothing else get them away from it or they will grow to believe this is how relationships are supposed to be. Your boys are at a high risk of being abusers while your girls are at a high risk of allowing themselves to be victims of the same abuse that you are allowing for yourself.
mammasita Posted January 6, 2014 Posted January 6, 2014 I would have been gone..........last year. Who cares how much everyone else like him. He's treating you like dirt!
Author Mrsdickinson Posted January 6, 2014 Author Posted January 6, 2014 No, iv been married a year. Been together 8 this year. Met when I was 16, him 23
Grumpybutfun Posted January 6, 2014 Posted January 6, 2014 We teach people how to treat us. By accepting this behavior, you have condoned it. You know this is wrong on so many different levels and yet you stay so that sends him the message that this is ok with you. Consistently devaluing you will have a huge impact on your children. Marriage shouldn't be this miserable. Ask yourself if your life would be better without him in it. Good luck, G
gaius Posted January 6, 2014 Posted January 6, 2014 I don't know you or exactly what's going on in your house so forgive me if I get this totally wrong, but I deal with a depressed woman on a regular basis and I often feel like giving her a boot in the arse. When she does manage to get out of bed and do anything to contribute it always comes with a large amount of bitching and complaining. And she runs around telling everyone she does everything too. It makes you lose a lot of the love and affection you once had for a person. How can you do everything when you're sleeping all day?
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