Pod81 Posted January 6, 2014 Posted January 6, 2014 So there's a girl I'm interested in that I met through a mutual friend twice before - about 6 months ago and again just last week. Unfortunately, the last time I saw her was when our mutual friend came in from out of town for the holidays (she moved out of state months ago). So, I can't really hang out with my mutual friend to see the girl again in person. I also only talked to her for about 5 minutes at a bar both times I saw her, so I thought it was kinda weird to just ask her out. Seeing that I had nothing to lose, I decided to add her on Facebook which she accepted. In retrospect, I probably should have just asked her out then and there since Facebook is likely even more awkward but what's done is done. Now, I know asking someone out on Facebook is already kinda lame but how should I proceed to minimize the lameness?
umbongo Posted January 6, 2014 Posted January 6, 2014 I don't think facebook is lame for that - added a friend through a friend who you have met before. It is not like you have randomly added someone with the hope of a date If you can talk easy consider a message through facebook; even better if she is online and you might get some real time conversation. A message might let you push the door open slightly to see how she responds. If she responds you can then gauge your next move. If you are a little unsure I would reach out to your friend with the cheeky 'you know your friend XXXXX? Is she single?' type convo? Your friend might make the intro or she may already know something. People meet through friends all the time, probably one of the more successful methods. There is no lameness to minimise. Man meets girl, man likes girl, man asks girl out - it doesn't really matter what the medium is
salparadise Posted January 6, 2014 Posted January 6, 2014 I decided to add her on Facebook which she accepted. In retrospect, I probably should have just asked her out then and there since Facebook is likely even more awkward but what's done is done. Now, I know asking someone out on Facebook is already kinda lame but how should I proceed to minimize the lameness? No, no, no! Don't ask her out on Facebook. It's fine that you added her but just consider her accepting that as a positive indicator. If you have her number call her and ask her out. If not, call the mutual friend to get her number. And then call her immediately because once she knows you intend to call (the friend will probably tell her as soon as you hang up), you don't want to seem hesitant. Have the plan already worked out and ask her for a specific day, time, and place (restaurant or whatever). 1
Philosopher Posted January 6, 2014 Posted January 6, 2014 I would find a time she is online on Facebook and then have a real time chat on Facebook, if it goes well, ask for her number. Then call her up the next day and ask her out that way.
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