Anthony55 Posted January 6, 2014 Posted January 6, 2014 Hey everyone, I'll try to make this story as short as possible. Went out with some buddies for some drinks. Our cocktail waitress was gorgeous and nice and flirting with me of all people. Got her name and her number. After texting her the following day, I was able to see on her facebook (she gave me her name so I looked her up) that she made a comment about me being shorter than her. I'm not super tall and she may have been a bit taller than me. It bothers guys just like it can bother girls. I think she was wearing heels but it wasn't much. She obviously didn't text back. My friends told me I'm better off. But as shallow as this sounds, this girl was gorgeous. Physically way out of my league and we got on really well at the bar. I want to text one more time because I want to prove I'm something more and feel if we met again, I could. Of course, a girl that says this may be a waste of my time, but I can't stop thinking about it and part of me feels, I've got nothing to lose. Advice! Thanks in advance.
Philosoraptor Posted January 6, 2014 Posted January 6, 2014 Did you ask her out? If not, do so. If she says no then move on. But anyone has the right to turn down anyone else due to whichever factors they deem necessary.
MrCastle Posted January 6, 2014 Posted January 6, 2014 Yikes. You mean you visited her facebook out of curiosity (without being friends with her) and found a post making fun of you behind your back because of your height? Don't text the bitch. 5
regine_phalange Posted January 6, 2014 Posted January 6, 2014 If that's your dream girl, I don't want to imagine what your nightmare girl is... She was just doing her job. Being friendly is part of it, in order to bring more customers in the place.
Zahara Posted January 6, 2014 Posted January 6, 2014 She poked fun at you on FB and you want to text her back? 1
umbongo Posted January 6, 2014 Posted January 6, 2014 Anthony, I would agree that you have nothing to lose but I would urge caution against another text. Why? For one reason - The one single text, could become two if she doesn't respond to the first. If you are connected on facebook perhaps try and generate some real time conversation when she is online? A text can be very distant which (personally) annoys me at times. You need to remain fun, friendly and interested (as you are) but you need enough distance not to be 'another guy'. I used to work in bars and have seen things like this with waitresses. There could be genuine interest on her side so don't dive in. Perhaps she was being playful in conversation about height? If a waitress is tall and has long legs she may draw attention to them by turning height around on you? Always look on the positive first and remember that you have a fair shot like anyone else - No such thing as 'out of league' as everyone has their own tastes. Will you be back in the bar anytime soon - you could test the water next time you are there and she is working? Maybe you will get lucky and she will be off shift and visiting socially which would level the playing field for you to make the move you want to. Hope this helps (in some way or another)
Frank2thepoint Posted January 6, 2014 Posted January 6, 2014 Instead of texting, call her. If she doesn't pick up, leave a short voicemail, but be stern and direct. Such as ask her when is she free for the date, not if she still wants to have a date. If she never calls back, oh well, you at least know she's not interested. If she does pick up, speak with her briefly, try to secure a date. If she says she's not sure when she's available, or she'll let you know when she's available, just the end the call because she's not interested.
Eau Claire Posted January 6, 2014 Posted January 6, 2014 Dream girl? You are in a bar and your server is your dream girl? I can imagine an OLD profile...the girl of my dreams... 'pretty, works in a bar.' It's normal to become infatuated with a person but you may want to reexamine the qualities you expect in your ideal woman. 2
Author Anthony55 Posted January 6, 2014 Author Posted January 6, 2014 thanks for the responses. basically, this girl was into me. she even said she never gave her number out to hardly anyone. once i stood up she must've noticed i wasn't as tall as she thought i was. it was really ****ty to post that on facebook and really does make me feel like crap. we aren't friends on facebook so if i hadn't found her, i wouldn't have even known. i know i should forget about a person like this and i'm admitting it's shallow of me, but i've never gotten such an attractive girls number and that's why i'm just not dropping it. i appreciate all the comments!
Zahara Posted January 6, 2014 Posted January 6, 2014 i know i should forget about a person like this and i'm admitting it's shallow of me, but i've never gotten such an attractive girls number and that's why i'm just not dropping it. i appreciate all the comments! Yep, as long as she's attractive, you don't mind being ridiculed! 1
datingnoob93 Posted January 6, 2014 Posted January 6, 2014 Right now she knows practically nothing about you except for your height. Unfortunately that's the first thing she sees. So it is not surprising she is commenting on you being short. Short guys have to overcome this initial barrier, so you have to do something else to show her what you have to offer. So give her a call, and find out if she is willing to give you that opportunity by going out with you. Otherwise just forget about her. 1
mtnbiker3000 Posted January 6, 2014 Posted January 6, 2014 Yep, as long as she's attractive, you don't mind being ridiculed! Yes!! I know this was the case for me. My ex was very attractive, and I put up with a hell of a lot!! As shallow as it is, I think a good percentage of men do this to some degree. And, vice versa, if a women is not all that attractive, I am not influenced one bit by anything negative she says or does. Guess I am pretty shallow. Oh, and I obviously have self-esteem issues too
Zahara Posted January 6, 2014 Posted January 6, 2014 Yes!! I know this was the case for me. My ex was very attractive, and I put up with a hell of a lot!! As shallow as it is, I think a good percentage of men do this to some degree. And, vice versa, if a women is not all that attractive, I am not influenced one bit by anything she says or does. Guess I am pretty shallow. Oh, and I obviously have self-esteem issues too Men and women do it. I was once smitten by a gorgeous dirtbag. I was completely shallow and didn't care about anything else but his looks. I was in my early twenties so that played a part in my stupidity as well. 2
mtnbiker3000 Posted January 6, 2014 Posted January 6, 2014 Men and women do it. I was once smitten by a gorgeous dirtbag. I was completely shallow and didn't care about anything else but his looks. I was in my early twenties so that played a part in my stupidity as well. It's not that I didn't care about anything else. I did. I cared a lot!! And we shared a lot of good times and had a pretty strong connection on some levels. I think I just would have seen the negatives, red flags, etc. more clearly and ended the RS sooner / first if I wasn't so attracted to her. I kept telling myself (subconsciously) that I could do a lot worse!! And I was in my early forties. Again, I've got some issues... 2
ae86drift Posted January 6, 2014 Posted January 6, 2014 thanks for the responses. basically, this girl was into me. she even said she never gave her number out to hardly anyone. once i stood up she must've noticed i wasn't as tall as she thought i was. it was really ****ty to post that on facebook and really does make me feel like crap. we aren't friends on facebook so if i hadn't found her, i wouldn't have even known. i know i should forget about a person like this and i'm admitting it's shallow of me, but i've never gotten such an attractive girls number and that's why i'm just not dropping it. i appreciate all the comments! I'm sorry but most guys can be a sucker for pretty woman, just moved on she is not your type, beside even though if you date her she going to end up cheating you and sleeping with other guys while you buying her presents.
SJC2008 Posted January 6, 2014 Posted January 6, 2014 What exactly did she say on FB? Did people coment on her post?
umbongo Posted January 6, 2014 Posted January 6, 2014 thanks for the responses. basically, this girl was into me. she even said she never gave her number out to hardly anyone. once i stood up she must've noticed i wasn't as tall as she thought i was. it was really ****ty to post that on facebook and really does make me feel like crap. we aren't friends on facebook so if i hadn't found her, i wouldn't have even known. i know i should forget about a person like this and i'm admitting it's shallow of me, but i've never gotten such an attractive girls number and that's why i'm just not dropping it. i appreciate all the comments! Anthony - she made a post on facebook which you weren't part of? The initial post suggested it was from a convo you two had on facebook where she said it. If she posted something as a status for her friends and you would not have seen it without you finding her then that is a totally different ball game. I'd consider trying to have a conversation with her and see if she responds. You could act like you don't know about the facebook post (technically you wouldn't ) That will once and for all let you know whether or not to pursue or wave 'bye bye'. Don't forget it's facebook - people post crazy stuff on there including every second of their life whether it is true, false or for attention and a million other possible reasons. If you can't let it go, reach out and see if she responds. If you can let it go - take the ego boost of the pretty girls number you got and go get another (maybe even in the same bar ) 1
Omei Posted January 6, 2014 Posted January 6, 2014 What I don't get about this post is in his original he says "she made a comment about my height" I don't get how we know she made fun of him or was proven to be rude enough to tell him shes a bitch or he shouldn't try and forget about her. OP was the comment in a mean form? what exactly was said? 1
Author Anthony55 Posted January 8, 2014 Author Posted January 8, 2014 sorry i just saw these posts! i'm new to this site. we are not facebook friends so she had no idea i saw. had i not looked her up on facebook, i wouldn't have even known. i don't remember the exact comment. it was something along the lines of me not being tall though. i remember the comment wasn't something like calling me a shrimp or anything. it was more an exaggeration.
Author Anthony55 Posted January 8, 2014 Author Posted January 8, 2014 so if i decide to text her, even like after this weekend, what should i say? she didn't respond to the first one to meet up for a coffee. i've decided that if i'm going to respond, i need to not come off as desperate or anything like that but need to say something that would should make her think about giving me a chance.
soccerrprp Posted January 8, 2014 Posted January 8, 2014 ...it was more an exaggeration. She was making a comment at your expense. I would move on. 1
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