PegNosePete Posted January 6, 2014 Posted January 6, 2014 FWB is sex without dating. Casual dating is dating without any serious stuff (may or may not involve sex). 1
Author winny Posted January 6, 2014 Author Posted January 6, 2014 Most of the guys I meet online say they want to casually date and then see where things are going.... Am then confused about what it is they want. I cannot date anyone beyond 3-4 times if I do not see any emotional connection happening .... Do people date each other for months even if they do not have the emotional thing going and no sex involved? What do they get out of it? And if sex is involved then how to know this person is not just after sex? Also... If a guy calls u hot or sexy the first time u r texting... What would be your impression..? 1
rocketman122 Posted January 6, 2014 Posted January 6, 2014 Most of the guys I meet online say they want to casually date and then see where things are going.... Am then confused about what it is they want. I cannot date anyone beyond 3-4 times if I do not see any emotional connection happening .... Do people date each other for months even if they do not have the emotional thing going and no sex involved? What do they get out of it? And if sex is involved then how to know this person is not just after sex? Also... If a guy calls u hot or sexy the first time u r texting... What would be your impression..? OLD is a very easy technique for guys to get casual sex. great for me. I always looked for serious relationships. I always had success because of that as well.
Author winny Posted January 6, 2014 Author Posted January 6, 2014 OLD is a very easy technique for guys to get casual sex. great for me. I always looked for serious relationships. I always had success because of that as well. Lucky you!
Aquanut Posted January 6, 2014 Posted January 6, 2014 I went out with someone 6 or 7 times over a period of 3 months. We were just having fun. Nothing physical although the tension was building and we did eventually kiss. We were not a couple. The next weekend I met someone who knocked my socks off and stopped seeing the first one. I saw the next woman 4 or 5 times a week and hung out at her house in front of the fire. We were a couple from the start. The first is casual dating. The second is not. The difference is the intensity and the long term intentions. Do you just wanna have fun or are you looking for a life partner?
Iguanna Posted January 6, 2014 Posted January 6, 2014 Most of the guys I meet online say they want to casually date and then see where things are going.... Am then confused about what it is they want. Would you prefer they said "I want to **** you a couple of times but I'm not interested in dating you, unless every other girl in the planet rejects me" ??? It's like calling a fat person overweight. You don't insult him, but the point you make is the same. If you don't want to be someone's one night stand or casual date or whatever they call it today, then don't. The choice is yours. 3
RedRobin Posted January 6, 2014 Posted January 6, 2014 FWB is sex without dating. Casual dating is dating without any serious stuff (may or may not involve sex). The above is my understanding as well... Anyone who talks about sex or pushes for sex early is usually not looking for a serious relationship. Discard. You can date 'seriously' but also not have full on sex for a few months. You just tell a guy you need to get to know someone before making a romantic decision about them. A lot will self-select out of your pool. Among the ones who stick around, will be a few who are up for a challenge but aren't really all that into you, or they have someone else on the side they aren't telling you about. What I do with those, is tell them we need to have mutual STD tests before having sex. 9/10 of them will bail at that point or whine about their schedule, or 'why don't you trust me?" junk. Don't waver. Your health is more important than their needs to stick it in you ASAP. My best relationships have been with men who did not pressure, and did not flinch at the idea of STD tests. At all.
Eggplant Posted January 6, 2014 Posted January 6, 2014 Most of the guys I meet online say they want to casually date and then see where things are going.... Am then confused about what it is they want. I cannot date anyone beyond 3-4 times if I do not see any emotional connection happening .... Do people date each other for months even if they do not have the emotional thing going and no sex involved? What do they get out of it? And if sex is involved then how to know this person is not just after sex? Also... If a guy calls u hot or sexy the first time u r texting... What would be your impression..?Why should you dive in head-first into a committed relationship without even really getting to know the person first? I hate having to back out if it's not right; I'd prefer to just keep it casual and not commit till I'm sure, or at least pretty sure. Moreover, men in general (generalization) do not want to rush emotional intimacy. If you want a guy to be emotionally intimate with you, you need to make him feel as though he has plenty of room and space to take the time he needs, and not feel pressured. I am a proponent of keeping the physical intimacy half a step behind the emotional intimacy, so just hold your ground (although do what you want too). OP, if you want to date "seriously," I'd recommend the casual route. Slow and steady wins the race.
Author winny Posted January 6, 2014 Author Posted January 6, 2014 Why should you dive in head-first into a committed relationship without even really getting to know the person first? I hate having to back out if it's not right; I'd prefer to just keep it casual and not commit till I'm sure, or at least pretty sure. Moreover, men in general (generalization) do not want to rush emotional intimacy. If you want a guy to be emotionally intimate with you, you need to make him feel as though he has plenty of room and space to take the time he needs, and not feel pressured. I am a proponent of keeping the physical intimacy half a step behind the emotional intimacy, so just hold your ground (although do what you want too). OP, if you want to date "seriously," I'd recommend the casual route. Slow and steady wins the race. Thanks.. I know what you mean... I just don't want to sound like a novice (although I am) in the dating world... So I want to understand what a guy means when he says let's casually date... Even I cannot commit to someone till I know then really well.. But the word casual confuses me... Is it going to be that way always or it will change if we like each other...
RedRobin Posted January 6, 2014 Posted January 6, 2014 If a guy says he wants to casually date it means casual sex or FWB. I've never heard anyone who is looking for a relationship EVER use the 'casual' word. They are trying to avoid it and those who believe in 'casual'.
d0nnivain Posted January 6, 2014 Posted January 6, 2014 I agree with some of the definitions posted but to me casual dating is what precedes the relationship stage. It's part of the getting to know you process. Both parties are not exclusive & may be dating more than one person with no commitment. It does not have to involve sex. FWB is more long term. You actually know the person & are intimate with them but don't do much beyond have sex. You are not dating, not even casually.
Author winny Posted January 6, 2014 Author Posted January 6, 2014 I agree with some of the definitions posted but to me casual dating is what precedes the relationship stage. It's part of the getting to know you process. Both parties are not exclusive & may be dating more than one person with no commitment. It does not have to involve sex. FWB is more long term. You actually know the person & are intimate with them but don't do much beyond have sex. You are not dating, not even casually. In that case am okay... But after reading all the comments I feel not every guy means it the same way n one has to be careful when agreeing to a casual date thing.
Frank2thepoint Posted January 6, 2014 Posted January 6, 2014 Some people enjoy casual dating just to have someone to "date" but not make a commitment, nor get intimate. They just like seeing the person. 2
Author winny Posted January 6, 2014 Author Posted January 6, 2014 Some people enjoy casual dating just to have someone to "date" but not make a commitment, nor get intimate. They just like seeing the person. How is this different from being just friends ? Confusing... 1
Frank2thepoint Posted January 6, 2014 Posted January 6, 2014 How is this different from being just friends ? Confusing... Yes, it is confusing. But I've met such people among both genders.
Elias33 Posted January 6, 2014 Posted January 6, 2014 Casual dating is pretending you don't want FWB. 1
d0nnivain Posted January 6, 2014 Posted January 6, 2014 Casual dating does involve some romance -- hand holding, maybe kissing, sex without commitment or exclusivity for others -- but is definitely more than "just friends" which doesn't have those physical aspects.
Author winny Posted January 6, 2014 Author Posted January 6, 2014 Why cannot a boy and girl be simply platonic friends or bf-gf... Why are there so many in between confusing things which do nothing other than creating complications n screwing up emotions...
Iguanna Posted January 6, 2014 Posted January 6, 2014 Why cannot a boy and girl be simply platonic friends or bf-gf... Why are there so many in between confusing things which do nothing other than creating complications n screwing up emotions... Because people have become very self centered and they think all the world owes to them. They want to have what they want without giving much back. Unfortunately some people accept this kind of selfish behavior cause they can't stand being alone or single. If everyone was honest and fair about what they want and what they are willing to give back, the world would be a better place.
ThaWholigan Posted January 6, 2014 Posted January 6, 2014 Why cannot a boy and girl be simply platonic friends or bf-gf... Why are there so many in between confusing things which do nothing other than creating complications n screwing up emotions... Because people want to have sex without any obligations towards anything serious. At times, they will use any old terms and conditions in order to facilitate this. 1
Leigh 87 Posted January 6, 2014 Posted January 6, 2014 Why should you dive in head-first into a committed relationship without even really getting to know the person first? I hate having to back out if it's not right; I'd prefer to just keep it casual and not commit till I'm sure, or at least pretty sure. Moreover, men in general (generalization) do not want to rush emotional intimacy. If you want a guy to be emotionally intimate with you, you need to make him feel as though he has plenty of room and space to take the time he needs, and not feel pressured. I am a proponent of keeping the physical intimacy half a step behind the emotional intimacy, so just hold your ground (although do what you want too). OP, if you want to date "seriously," I'd recommend the casual route. Slow and steady wins the race. Actually, if a guy meets someone who knocks his socks off, he won't want to be casual; a guy allllways askes to be exclusive from date one IF he meets a girl he is REALLY into. Guys go slow and steady and " casual" with girls they meet that they are not crazy about. They go casual until they figure out whether they really do like the girl, or if they don't. I know plenty of men who were really into a girl from date one. All men who were smitten from date one asked the girl if she was interested in it "just being the two of them" from then on. Casual to me screams "dating others" I know of guys who were crazy about their girls from date one, who simply didn't want to date other women once they found one they really fancied. Op, don't casual date. They are treating you like you are not enough for them to want to date properly. How does it make you feel to know that these guys who wanted "casual" with you, would want to be exclusive and seriously date a girl from date one if he was nuts about her. 1
Author winny Posted January 6, 2014 Author Posted January 6, 2014 Actually, if a guy meets someone who knocks his socks off, he won't want to be casual; a guy allllways askes to be exclusive from date one IF he meets a girl he is REALLY into. Guys go slow and steady and " casual" with girls they meet that they are not crazy about. They go casual until they figure out whether they really do like the girl, or if they don't. I know plenty of men who were really into a girl from date one. All men who were smitten from date one asked the girl if she was interested in it "just being the two of them" from then on. Casual to me screams "dating others" I know of guys who were crazy about their girls from date one, who simply didn't want to date other women once they found one they really fancied. Op, don't casual date. They are treating you like you are not enough for them to want to date properly. How does it make you feel to know that these guys who wanted "casual" with you, would want to be exclusive and seriously date a girl from date one if he was nuts about her. I know... I think initial 2-3 meetings are enough to know whether you are actually feeling a connection with someone or not. Doesn't make sense to casually date beyond that... If looking for something serious...
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