ugzruben Posted January 6, 2014 Posted January 6, 2014 I recently posted on a dating site and messaged a girl a second time that I wanted to assure them I would treat her with respect and be a complete gentlemen. She responded saying she was concerned because on my profile I wrote I had been single for 8 months and that she did not want to be the "rebound girl". How long is enough so a girl doesn't feel that way? (I would think 8 months is enough) Thank you!
Philosoraptor Posted January 6, 2014 Posted January 6, 2014 There is no set time period. Once someone has fully healed they are no longer in rebound mode. Regardless a second message assuring them you'd treat them well just comes off as desperate and needy.
Eau Claire Posted January 6, 2014 Posted January 6, 2014 2.4 months. Actually, I think most males do not have a neutral switch. Socio-biology has males seeking female mates 24/7. Restraints are cultural. The cure fore me after the end of a relationship is down time...for male friends I have known, getting back into the saddle.
winny Posted January 6, 2014 Posted January 6, 2014 Maybe she has past bad experiences where a guy was more than 8 months after break up still thinking about ex.
umbongo Posted January 6, 2014 Posted January 6, 2014 I would consider removing the "8 month" from you profile. I don't see why that needs to be public - when you get some dates and it comes up in conversation then you can both share history mutally (if appropriate). I'd suggest making your profile focus on the here and now - you're single, on the dating site and you are looking - simples. That will remove any immediate 'rebound' thought. If everyone thought like that about everyone without a trigger (like your profile) then nobody would ever date.
newmoon Posted January 6, 2014 Posted January 6, 2014 I recently posted on a dating site and messaged a girl a second time that I wanted to assure them I would treat her with respect and be a complete gentlemen. She responded saying she was concerned because on my profile I wrote I had been single for 8 months and that she did not want to be the "rebound girl". How long is enough so a girl doesn't feel that way? (I would think 8 months is enough) Thank you! this is exactly why men (and women) should just keep their mouths shut about past relationships. if you had never mentioned this then she wouldn't be in a position to judge (and now have a reason to bail). you are ready when you're ready - for some it's months, for some it's years. let this girl go, find another woman you're interested in, and don't tell her your past relationship stuff until much later so you won't be judged by that, but by your actions towards her. just say "I've been single a long time." that'll cover it, enough said.
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