Hi guys what does this mean? My Ex indirected this at me... but shes with someone els

[theboss123]

Its a quote she found and it refers to herself... i dont know if she still has feelings for me or not or she doesnt wanna let me go...

 

"You know what your problem is? You get attached, fast. And once you’re attached to someone, you do everything you can to please them and make them happy. It’s never been about what you want; it’s always everyone’s needs before your own. You give out too many chances to people, who quite frankly, do not deserve them. They take advantage of you, and you become a pushover. But you’re okay with that, because they’re in your life and that’s all you ever really wanted. And even if they screw you over, you’ll still be there for him. Because that’s you, that’s who you are. Once you get attached to someone, they capture your heart and they always have a place there. And that is why it’s so hard for you to let go."

 

She said how it was true and everything and i just dont get what it means.. :/

if this helps: we stopped talking for like 2-3 days and decided to stop talking.

I still love her though.

[PegNosePete]

It means, you are a typical "nice guy" who does everything for other people but not himself.

It is NOT a good thing!

 

She is with someone else. You need to forget about her and move on dude.

[theboss123]

But i think she was talking about herself? I dont know...

She was my first and I was her first.

 

3-4 days ago she said she still had feelings for me... and just the other day she said it "vanished" cuz i said my feelings vanished... but i dont see how she lost feelings that quick and damn was i wrong... im still in love with her.

[PegNosePete]

Eh? A quote from who, and where was it? How did you come to see it?

But the fact remains, she is in a relationship with someone else. You are playing with fire here.

[theboss123]

The post was on instagram... and she commented on it indirecting it at me... and yeah.

 

But the thing is, she still has feelings and claims that "its gone" now... i blocked her on everything so i dont contact her. But damn i miss her.

 

She also said this twice, "if me and him dont work out, do u wanna try again?" She keeps saying that...

[organizedchaos]

The post was on instagram... and she commented on it indirecting it at me... and yeah.

 

But the thing is, she still has feelings and claims that "its gone" now... i blocked her on everything so i dont contact her. But damn i miss her.

 

She also said this twice, "if me and him dont work out, do u wanna try again?" She keeps saying that...

 

Wake up!

 

You're okay being someone's second choice? Wow.

[theboss123]

I'm just confused cuz i feel she still has feelings and the things she said to me aswell..

[theboss123]

Wake up!

 

You're okay being someone's second choice? Wow.

 

I'm not, thats exactly what I said to her. I'm no ones second choice.

It's just... getting over her..

[Mrlonelyone]

The quote sounds like it's about her... and it's not "indirected at you" in the way you think.

 

 

To me it reads like the cry of a very entitled person talking about. " It’s never been about what you want; it’s always everyone’s needs before your own. You give out too many chances to people, who quite frankly, do not deserve them. They take advantage of you, and you become a pushover. But you’re okay with that, because they’re in your life and that’s all you ever really wanted. And even if they screw you over, you’ll still be there for him."

 

 

 

 

To me that sounds like a woman who at least thinks she does everything in a relationship giving her reasons for leaving because she isn't getting her just deserts.

 

 

 

 

The bottom line is whatever she feels for you it isn't enough for her to be with you instead of that other man. Unless you are unavailable for some reason, distance, etc. there is no reason a woman would feel for one man and be with another.

 

 

Forget her as much as you can. In fact GFTOW by woman number 5 or 6 you won't care about the ex.

[theboss123]

The quote sounds like it's about her... and it's not "indirected at you" in the way you think.

 

 

To me it reads like the cry of a very entitled person talking about. " It’s never been about what you want; it’s always everyone’s needs before your own. You give out too many chances to people, who quite frankly, do not deserve them. They take advantage of you, and you become a pushover. But you’re okay with that, because they’re in your life and that’s all you ever really wanted. And even if they screw you over, you’ll still be there for him."

 

 

 

 

To me that sounds like a woman who at least thinks she does everything in a relationship giving her reasons for leaving because she isn't getting her just deserts.

 

 

 

 

The bottom line is whatever she feels for you it isn't enough for her to be with you instead of that other man. Unless you are unavailable for some reason, distance, etc. there is no reason a woman would feel for one man and be with another.

 

 

Forget her as much as you can. In fact GFTOW by woman number 5 or 6 you won't care about the ex.

 

Your right... if what she feels isnt enough for me then she doesn't deserve me in actual fact. Sometimes I wish just never met her :/ makes life so much easier... and the worst thing is i know she still have feelings whilst shes with the other guy...

[kaylan]

Seriously op....do gftow. You need to get over your ex and find women who want YOU.

[theboss123]

You guys right, I'm slowly getting over her.

But I'm not gonna do GFTOW lmao haha thats a bit too extreme..

[Mrlonelyone]

You guys right, I'm slowly getting over her.

But I'm not gonna do GFTOW lmao haha thats a bit too extreme..

 

 

Well it's not the actual F'ing that is the point. Even trying to casually date and find TOW who want to F you gets you over the EX.

 

 

I know that sounds vulgar but here's what it did for me.

 

 

It placed the EX in perspective. I saw that I could feel something for other women and other women could feel something for me. Knowing this was so on an intellectual level didn't do it. I needed to feel it. I haven't actually F'd in almost a year. However I did talk to or casually date a number of others for a time and it did wonders for me.