curiousnycgirl Posted January 8, 2005 Posted January 8, 2005 Okay so at this point some of you already know my b/f woes - so I won't bore you folks with the history. Now I am more confused than ever! He was away for the last 2 weeks of the year, visiting friends. While he was away he was in touch 4 or 5 times a day via text message and calls. Apparently he could not stop telling them all about me - to the extent that one of his friends called me to tell me that they know him, and realize he probably hasn't told me he loves me, but he does. So he returned last Sunday - and literally did a drive by to pick up his dog (I was dog sitting), made absolutely no effort to spend any time with me. My therapist told me I needed to force his hand to open up and discuss the issues we've been having - and suggested that I try to stop all communication until he breaks. Well that's REALLY hard to do when apparently he's not talking to me! Its now been 3 weeks since we've spent any time together and a week since we've even spoken. I am completely confused - since we have not seen/spoken to eachother since his return, I know I haven't done anything to annoy him or push him away - so how did I go from the one he couldn't stop talking about - to the one he doesn't communicaate with at all? On top of everything else - as I was getting totally neurotic last night, I went onto the web site we met on and his profile is not only turned back on, but has been updated! What the heck am I supposed to be thinking? At the very least why can't he just be honest and tell me its over? What is this BS? Given the fact that there have been issues - I have given the opportunity to end it - but he keeps saying no its great and he wants to keep going, and now this? Advice? Guidance? Suggestions? Right now I'm just sitting here wondering - I don't think I have the stomach to confront him - should I just let it go? What do I do if he calls? I don't think I can just pretend none of this has happened or that I don't know his profile is back on. I'm sorry to whine - I seriously have no idea to where else to ask this - and I don't see my therapist until monday!
Barby Posted January 8, 2005 Posted January 8, 2005 I don't take it as "whining" Can you go to the site where you two met and IM him there? Say something along the lines of....."It is kind of sad that you can NOT communicate with me, but you are seeking someone else to communicate with...what's up with that?" You shouldn't just "let it go" confront him now before you're hurting any worse! You deserve to know what's going on, if he won't talk to you about it, start NC then move on and find someone who deserves you!
9Lives Posted January 9, 2005 Posted January 9, 2005 As hard as it may be...just move on. I know that is easiler said than done but if you want to be respected then you will just move on. I wouldnt give him the time of the day anymore. He is a loser and a coward. Dont over analze this garbage. Cut your losses now and get out. It is not your fault.
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