Maya2 Posted January 6, 2014 Posted January 6, 2014 First you have to excuse my English, because it is not my first language. I was in a relationship for 7 years and all this time both of us new that we were not right for each other. We lived together and worked together, loved each other. A year ago we broke up and it was very painful. I had to completely change my life. But I "did move on", dated and worked hard. He also did move on, after 2 months he found 10 years younger girl and she got pregnant right away. Now they have a cute little boy. When I found out that she was pregnant, I was OK. I new this would happen because when I was leaving he said that he would soon found some girl and make a family. I asked him what about love and he replied:"you see where love has got us". So, when I found out about the baby I was doing my nails and I thought to my self; if I will be able to do my nails without shaking my hands, I am ok. And I was. And now I am not:(. I am really not ok, I am hurting big time. I dream about him(us), I miss talking to him, I miss him close to me. My thoughts affect my relationship with a guy that is simply perfect; he loves me so much and he is everything that my ex wasn't. But my ex is everything that my boyfriend isn't. I just can't let go. A few weeks ago he posted our song on fb and I couldn't stop crying. I did a pretty stupid thing and post one back-we both new what it ment. He never likes my songs or statuses but this one he did and I know he feels it too. I new it before. We were always very connected and it was like I felt he is hurting. Last week we had to talk over the phone because we had to deal with some old business. It was so obvious, the voice got tender and there was this silence that felt so good. It was like that silence spoke. He has a baby, he has new life, I have new life but....I am just crying.
Haydn Posted January 6, 2014 Posted January 6, 2014 Sorry to hear this. But first. Block him from social media. Have no contact. Dont text him back etc...Disconnect him from your life. Only then can start to pick yourself up.
LadyM Posted January 6, 2014 Posted January 6, 2014 It's very painful to love someone even though you know deep down the relationship isn't a healthy one. It's okay to still have strong feelings for you ex and they will fade with time, but as Haydn mentioned, it is really important to try not to have any contact as that is the only way you can distance yourself emotionally from your ex. Each time you have contact with your ex, it will bring you back to square one in the grieving process. It just isn't worth it. The two of you tried for seven years and it didn't work. But you have a great opportunity to build a wonderful future for yourself and you are especially fortunate and blessed to have a new man in your life who is crazy about you. I understand your sadness over your ex, you miss him and he likely misses you, but this is a relationship not meant to be. This is a great time for you to move forward and find a better way. Be in charge of your life. Make it what you want it to be. Don't allow yourself to wallow in the past when your current life holds so much promise. Stay far away from your ex as his presence will only serve to bring you down. You don't want that. Let him be with his new family. What a great opportunity to move forward and create whatever kind of life you want for yourself. The possibilities are endless. You have the love of a good man and believe me, that is a rare commodity. Choose to live in the present, not the past. You will be fine....hang in there!!!
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