snowyangel Posted January 6, 2014 Posted January 6, 2014 I have a male friend who I have known for a long time. He is divorced. He has recently made comments like "I don't have anything to do on Friday night." Tonight when I told him to stay warm he said " I guess I will have to get extra blankets since I don't have anyone to keep me warm." I have subtly flirted back. He still hasn't asked me out. He never said things like this before, so I have assumed that he is interested. What do you think? Is he interested and just moving slow?
D-Lish Posted January 6, 2014 Posted January 6, 2014 I'd say he's putting the feelers out there and seeing how you respond. I'd tread carefully with him if he's fresh out of a divorce! 1
Author snowyangel Posted January 6, 2014 Author Posted January 6, 2014 He has been divorced a few years, but he has never flirted with me before.
Wallace1 Posted January 6, 2014 Posted January 6, 2014 I agree he was putting out feelers to gauge your response. I have done that as well when it's someone I've already established communication patterns with, IE a friend or acquaintance. As far as having never flirted before, there's a first time for everything! 1
Leigh 87 Posted January 6, 2014 Posted January 6, 2014 He could have said it to get some sex, perhaps? Guys flirt and lament about how "lonely" they are in bed to... not necessarily get a "relationship":lmao: out of the female listener that is present. However, you KNOW this guy, and therefore you would now if he is THAT sort of guy who scouts for sex. Or, better still, if he is relationship orientated.
d0nnivain Posted January 6, 2014 Posted January 6, 2014 I don't know that he only wants sex. I agree that he's putting out feelers. If you like him too, flirt back. If you don't, change the subject. 1
Versacehottie Posted January 6, 2014 Posted January 6, 2014 i agree that he is interested. If you have been friends for a long time or even a decent amount of time, i doubt he is only trying to sleep with you. He could do that with some random person. Also hewould be hesitant to risk your friendship. I'm sure he was subtle as you were because there's more at stake. I hope it works out between you two. Good luck!
umbongo Posted January 6, 2014 Posted January 6, 2014 Subtle flirting can require some patience and will make you question things often. Although there is a chance he is after NSA I agree with the majority of posts to keep up the flirt for a bit and see how it unfolds. You might find an opportunity presents itself where you (or him) are able to ask the million dollar question of 'are you interested' It seems you have interest too - obviously don't get roped into flirts if you aren't
devilish innocent Posted January 6, 2014 Posted January 6, 2014 Either he's sending out feelers, or he thinks the two of you are so far in the friendzone that it's safe to complain to you about his love life. Guys don't always pick up on subtlety though, so you may want to try being more direct if you're interested. There's no point in two people avoiding something because they're both too scared to risk showing their interest.
curlygirl40 Posted January 7, 2014 Posted January 7, 2014 It sounds like he's putting out feelers to see if you're interested and/or he's hoping for NSA sex. It's hard to say. If you're interested in pursuing something with him, flirt back so he knows you have some interest in something aside from a friendship BUT make him take you out on dates! IMO if you just go to his place to hang out, you will be in FWB territory pretty quickly. No guarantees about that but be careful.
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