youngbutoldsoul Posted January 6, 2014 Posted January 6, 2014 I am 20 and met a WONDERFUL man, 23, who goes to a top-10 university in the United States. It was as if we bumped into each other by some divine coincidence. He was visiting my area (his hometown) just for the holidays but he's flying back to his grad school on the other side of the coast. We went on a beautiful cruise, spent the holidays together, and connected deeper through our dates.... He told me if we had spent more time together, I would've been his girlfriend by now. He's leaving in 2 more days!!! He said he doesn't want to ruin a beautiful connection between two people by "forcing something to happen that doesn't belong". Neither of us really talked about a long-distance relationship. This is his last semester of his program and he's moving back in-state, just doesn't know if it'll be here in his hometown or another city. He said he hopes we'll cross paths again someday. What should I do? It's 5 more months before he graduates. I believe we have such a special connection and I've never felt this way in my life after serious LTR's in the past. I feel like he's The One.....
Author youngbutoldsoul Posted January 6, 2014 Author Posted January 6, 2014 Has anyone ever been in this situation before? Any advice would be appreciated! THANK YOU!
collegeguy_24 Posted January 6, 2014 Posted January 6, 2014 Propose a Long distance relationship. Its possible for them to work, especially if there is real love involved. My situation not withstanding, I know many people who do long distance, and have for years, and they are happy together and they work and build so they can have a life together. If this is true love, then long distance will work for 5 months. In todays world we have cell phones, texting, facetime, facebook, and so on, so it wouldn't really be all that hard.
winny Posted January 6, 2014 Posted January 6, 2014 Relax... You don't know him much yet... For all you know he was just having a fling with you... Let him go... stay in touch but please do not get so much involved emotionally. Date other guys... Once you slow down... and a month or two goes by... re assess your feelings for him... 1
Author youngbutoldsoul Posted January 6, 2014 Author Posted January 6, 2014 Relax... You don't know him much yet... For all you know he was just having a fling with you... Let him go... stay in touch but please do not get so much involved emotionally. Date other guys... Once you slow down... and a month or two goes by... re assess your feelings for him... You're right! It was barely a month of knowing him. He told me if he had been around longer, he would see me sooooo often and he would've made me his gf. He says long-distance is very hard so he doesn't want to force anything to happen that would ruin a beautiful connection. He seems like a very genuine guy!
umbongo Posted January 6, 2014 Posted January 6, 2014 Winny hits the nail on the head. You need to be careful as it happened over a holiday - people can say the most romantic things on vacation as it generally fits given the circumstances. This doesn't mean totally let go but be open to the possibility of reconnecting when he moves back. Put those feelers out and he may respond the same. In the meantime live your life; keep in contact if it is right but don't get tied down! You come first so enjoy your life and whatever will be, will be. You do not know who you will meet next week 1
mortensorchid Posted January 6, 2014 Posted January 6, 2014 Are you sure that this is not just infatuation talking? It might be, just so you know. Also, LDR rarely if ever work out no matter what the case may be, I know from experiences. Wait for the man to pull a cowardly act like dump you via email or text, or have things blow up in your face when the time comes to make a decision. I wish you no ill will, but LDR is problematic on many levels and you can and will learn a lot about yourself and others in said situations.
winny Posted January 7, 2014 Posted January 7, 2014 Winny hits the nail on the head. You need to be careful as it happened over a holiday - people can say the most romantic things on vacation as it generally fits given the circumstances. This doesn't mean totally let go but be open to the possibility of reconnecting when he moves back. Put those feelers out and he may respond the same. In the meantime live your life; keep in contact if it is right but don't get tied down! You come first so enjoy your life and whatever will be, will be. You do not know who you will meet next week Thanks ... !
winny Posted January 7, 2014 Posted January 7, 2014 Winny hits the nail on the head. You need to be careful as it happened over a holiday - people can say the most romantic things on vacation This just reminded me of one of my girlfriends. When we were pretty young a guy in her neighborhood came home on vacation... Told her all sort of romantic things n she told all of us he is her bf. After vacation he went back to his college and never contacted her back!!! Not saying this guy is same. But u must know all possibilities n taken your decision based on that.
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