Bishop556 Posted January 6, 2014 Posted January 6, 2014 Most of my friends were friends of my ex, so after the break up they sided with her and left me. I'm now single and friendless in college, and I have coped enough to try to make new friends. How can I do this in the least awkward way possible?
pickflicker Posted January 6, 2014 Posted January 6, 2014 Most of my friends were friends of my ex, so after the break up they sided with her and left me. I'm now single and friendless in college, and I have coped enough to try to make new friends. How can I do this in the least awkward way possible? People on here have reccommeded that Meetup.com thing, have you tried that?
Author Bishop556 Posted January 6, 2014 Author Posted January 6, 2014 I never heard of it. What did they say about it?
JDPT Posted January 6, 2014 Posted January 6, 2014 You need to go out out out. Meet people talk to anyone and everyone. They are all opportunities to get to know them. And possibly make new friends.
strive Posted January 6, 2014 Posted January 6, 2014 I felt the same way. I basically lost a lot of my friends pre RS (because they didn't like him) and post BU (because they're mutual friends). But yeah, try meetup.com. It was the best decision I ever made and the friends I met there are some of the closest ones I have now. Mostly because a lot of us in my group are more or less in the same boat and feeling lonely and needing new friends not tied up with our past. I don't know the kind of meetup group you'll have in your area, but I hope it's an awesome experience for you just like it is for me.
pickflicker Posted January 6, 2014 Posted January 6, 2014 I never heard of it. What did they say about it? Here's the website: www.meetup.com People looking to meet new people. Sounds kinda perfect to me.
WordvAction Posted January 6, 2014 Posted January 6, 2014 Also, if you're in college, there are plenty of clubs and organizations you can get involved in 1
rec88 Posted January 6, 2014 Posted January 6, 2014 I'd say start by figuring out your interests and follow them. That will lead you to people who also share that interest, and that's a good start. Example: I like basketball. I found a rec center that has an open gym 3 days a week. I started playing there. Over a few weeks I got familiar with the people there, and now I'm going out for drinks afterwards tonight. Like watching sports? Call up some people and say, "Hey let's get some people together for the game tonight." Anyone can bond over their favorite sports team. In any situation, the least awkward way to approach it is walk up to someone and look them in the eye with a smile and say, "Hi, my name is xxxxxx." The awkward alternative is don't speak clearly, don't smile, don't look them in the eye, etc. etc. You get the idea, run with it.
fixing Posted January 6, 2014 Posted January 6, 2014 Also, if you're in college, there are plenty of clubs and organizations you can get involved in This is spot on. Seriously, only way to make new friends is if you share something in common. I dont know what you like, but if you joined a tennis club, chess club, dance class (Thats a gooden for meeting ladies) film clubs, you just gotta dive in head first and participate in loads of activities then voila, you meet people.
im_thedude Posted January 6, 2014 Posted January 6, 2014 You are lucky; you're still in college! Take some electives that genuinely interest you and chat up your classmates. Actually take part in clubs on campus. Network with other students in the field you are majoring in. College is the BEST place to meet new people. Everyone is your age, everyone is impressionable, and people are looking to meet new people.
Eau Claire Posted January 6, 2014 Posted January 6, 2014 Meet up! I can literally attend a dozens of events a week in my city. Went for a hike on Saturday with a group. Going to play dodgeball on Wednesday. More things planned in coming days. These are with a variety of people...male/female. Cost almost nothing. Try all types of activities. You can be new at everything. Most of the people are. All ages..capabilities. The only groups I avoid are single groups. The irony is I actually meet way more men in the non single groups...they are more active or interested in fun things. I met my boyfriend on OLD but at the time never knew about MeetUp groups.
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