SYLLPalmer Posted January 6, 2014 Posted January 6, 2014 When you date does all communication halt when the kids are with you? I don't have any kids but I like a guy with kids. The kids are 7 and 12 and I guess he has them on the weekends which means NC for him. Is this typical? Or does he just not dig me? We are brand spanking new and have been heavy on the phone due to work and have only meet twice. I totally respect the father thing and I am sure I would have my own MO for child protection in the case of a divorce. Just curious what a good see ya on the weekend dad does when he dates. I can certainly wait to discuss this with him but I wanted to see what you all had to say. Thanks. p.s. I love kids and have no problem with waiting in the wings. I am new at this is all and I really kind of dig this old dad. Thanks
Aquanut Posted January 6, 2014 Posted January 6, 2014 I was very careful to pay attention to my kids when I was with them. They needed to know they were the most important prople in my Life. This did not mean no contact but it did mean not much contact. One gf complained about it. She was also pressuring me to meet them when they were not ready for that yet. She didn't last long before I broke up with her.
Smthn_Like_Olivia Posted January 6, 2014 Posted January 6, 2014 My guy has 2 kids and he has them several times during the week and on weekends. He will still text me and even call. I've never understood the whole NC thing because you have kids.
Author SYLLPalmer Posted January 6, 2014 Author Posted January 6, 2014 I was very careful to pay attention to my kids when I was with them. They needed to know they were the most important prople in my Life. This did not mean no contact but it did mean not much contact. One gf complained about it. She was also pressuring me to meet them when they were not ready for that yet. She didn't last long before I broke up with her. I appreciate that and I actually think it is sexy. I am out of practice and now being older the whole kids thing adds a different element. I am used to being the baby but the content of the relationships are now are so much richer that it is well worth the sacrifice. Thank you for your response.
Author SYLLPalmer Posted January 6, 2014 Author Posted January 6, 2014 My guy has 2 kids and he has them several times during the week and on weekends. He will still text me and even call. I've never understood the whole NC thing because you have kids. I bet it has a lot to do with personal belief in child rearing as well as the health of your relationship with this man. I imagine you give him plenty of space so that makes it easy for him to touch base with you. Like I said this relationship is infantile but the dude got under my skin. And the whole world of OLD has gotten me a little spooked. It is good to know there are varying perspectives. Thanks.
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