Got it Posted March 14, 2014 Posted March 14, 2014 Honestly? Scared of what the therapist might tell me about myself. Don't really put too much weight into all that jazz anyway. Going by text book definitions almost everyone is at least a little narcissistic and psycho. And that breakup was really horrible. Really changed my whole outlook on life/woman. Starting to feel better now though So you hide from things that scare you? Come on. What therapy would show are coping skills to handle what happened, to understand what is normal in your grieving process, and how to come out of it a healthy person. Being cheated on is exceedingly painful and there is absolutely a grieving process. What isn't healthy is to now assign her actions/behaviors to all women and then become misogynistic because of the actions of one dumb person. That isn't fair to women as a whole and that isn't fair to you. For your own benefit, seek out therapy and make an educated decision if it is a fit for you. If not, there are books tied to this, one called "After the Affair" that may be very helpful. Your feelings are real and okay. There is a general grieving process that makes you very normal. But don't like what she did change you and change the best parts of you. You deserve better than that. She shouldn't get to have that kind of power.
Tayken Posted March 15, 2014 Posted March 15, 2014 OP...Temporarily, then they find it boring and go back to the "bad boy". One way to eradicate this though is to blow hot and cold.....i.e. a HYBRID. I am good at this and it seem to work. Deep down though, I am a hopeless romantic who still believes in Chivalry. However, I expect some courtesy and respect from the woman too
Got it Posted March 16, 2014 Posted March 16, 2014 OP...Temporarily, then they find it boring and go back to the "bad boy". One way to eradicate this though is to blow hot and cold.....i.e. a HYBRID. I am good at this and it seem to work. Deep down though, I am a hopeless romantic who still believes in Chivalry. However, I expect some courtesy and respect from the woman too If you want to act like a child play games. If you want to act like an adult you act in a transparent, respectful and mature manner. You will receive what you seek, i.e. you will get back what you put out.
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